Dua to get married soon

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Come on...marriage is a blessing from Allah. Good or bad i want to get married.

But u know what, when i was in my high school i used to hate the concept of marriage. To me then it was a daily routine job of keeping our husbands pleased in the beginning, then all those housework chores at the same time managing the whole house, I used to dread at the thought of giving birth to a child with all that talk of labour pain and the mess with it, and then there was the tension of raising kids, assisting them in their homework and exams, etc etc...And then i came to know this girl in my class who just changed my every single thought on marriage. Not purposely or intentionally though, but whenever she used to tell me of her family and the numerous funny stories and incidents happening between her family members, with all their kids it just somehow made me feel so happy. And slowly as time passed by things changed.

SubhanAllah today i am longing for exactly the same things i hated earlier.

For all those girls who do not prefer a marriage life my message is you never know what Allah's plan is for you. Anything can happen anytime.
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Can you tell us more stories about the good things........ i found that very interesting.
 
Tania said:
Have you tried to sit at home for around 3 or 4 months :? I can sit this time and i am content but more than this would make me depressed, deeply unhappy. You should try it before to give up at your job.:-[
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Tania i agree with u 100%.

I faced this situation just recently when i resigned from my first job.

It took me 3 months to finally land up in a job. Now here i do not mean that I love to go for work and love to have a career. ITs just that i have nothing else to do at home. Those 3 months sitting at home doing nothing were just too much to bear. Besides, i give my 100% to my job as iam being paid for that.

Right now i have no choice but to go and work so that my time passes somehow and i earn at the same time. But after marraige i would no way want to work. I believe when a wife goes to work house suffers. Many women do that but if u read all their 'adjustment' stories u will realise a balance is not always easy to be achived.

Nevertheless, it all depends on what makes u happy in life. Career or Family?
 
Ebtisweetsam said:
Can you tell us more stories about the good things........ i found that very interesting.
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:-\ :? How to explain those moments..i do not know. they are actually very simple and minor ones :-\
 
is it better to be single or to get marid? ive asked many ppl this question and the 1s that r marid say its best 2 b single n da 1s dat r not say best 2 get marid? :?
 
rozeena said:
is it better to be single or to get marid? ive asked many ppl this question and the 1s that r marid say its best 2 b single n da 1s dat r not say best 2 get marid? :?
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If ur living just for the dunya its definetly better to be single......... but if you are living for the aakhirah its so much better to be married, because your husband can get you into Jannah, by pleasing him.
 
rozeena said:
is it better to be single or to get marid? ive asked many ppl this question and the 1s that r marid say its best 2 b single n da 1s dat r not say best 2 get marid? :?
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This argument on whats best is always cool to have. Depends again on many things, not everyone is blessed with a good husband/wife. Even when both are good things do not work out the way u want them to may be coz of chemistry etc..
 
lol i swear this thread was ment to be for duas for getting married :P

anyways sis i hope Allah gives u a handsome picous muslim husband who will take care of you and ur family to come inshallah :)


AMEEN!:thumbs_up
 
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I have added poll to this thread.

I think the options are nt clear.

Option 1 means u wud love to get married or u favour marriages
Option 2 means u do not think of marriage or do not favor marriages
Option 3 is for our married sisters.
 
nebula said:
lol i swear this thread was ment to be for duas for getting married :P

anyways sis i hope Allah gives u a handsome picous muslim husband who will take care of you and ur family to come inshallah :)


AMEEN!:thumbs_up
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Yeah things have taken a different course in this thread. :rollseyes

Thank you for your wishes and prayer.
 
S.A. said:
Nevertheless, it all depends on what makes u happy in life. Career or Family?
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Its not about career or family. Its about you can sit the whole day in house and do the house work :? Because that you want to do. I could not do that because i need to go out and a job give me this atmosphere changing. You should think carefully if you can sit the whole day at home for your entire life. :-[
 
i chose option 1 because getting married would help me lower my gaze and protect me frm doin haraam
 
lol im actually looking forward to that day inshallah :)
 
i think there is a common problem amongst brothers in general...

they want to get married to make physical contact halal.

but marriage is much more than that and while its a reason, i dont think it should be the driving force behind the decision because someone elses life is also tied up into your decision.
 
Medina83 said:
i think there is a common problem amongst brothers in general...

they want to get married to make physical contact halal.

but marriage is much more than that and while its a reason, i dont think it should be the driving force behind the decision because someone elses life is also tied up into your decision.
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well sis but wasn't that why our prophet p.b.u.h said that we should get married at a young age? so we can lower our gaze?

well i kno getting married has other responsibilites aswell inshalah i will maintain them. when ever the time comes

he especially said 3 things should not be delayed marriage,janazah,namaaz.
i dnt kno the exact hadeeth but im 100% sure it goes on those lines.

and u cant really say that brothers have a problem, u dnt really kno what goes through a brothers mind

and think about it if uve been a good muslim in the difficult years of bein a teen, dnt u diserve to look foward to a great blessing from Allah which is a pious wife?
 
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I wasnt having a go at you brother Nebula , that first so peace :)

but it is a common problem in our current society and explains to me the high rate of divorces amongst muslims and also why sisters are being picked for beauty and not deen or taqwa.

I don't profess to know whats going through anyones mind, and i know there are brothers out there who are sincere and as you rightly say deserve a good wife.

I do believe that what Rasulullah saw said is being abused to some extent, as people are forgetting the other parts of what he said about being kind to your wife or providing for her etc.

Its not right to pick just one part and ignore others and its a bit selfish in my opinion to say 'I want to get married because I want to have halal contact with a woman'. Thats why I said it is a reason but shouldnt be the driving force. Her life is involved aswell and its up to the brother to ensure his motives are to protect his chastity but also to protect and provide and care for her as the mother of his future children inshaAllah.

And Allah swt is the only One who knows what is in the hearts of men and women.
 
Ebtisweetsam said:
True but (yes unfortunately there is always a but) what if you are both right islamically, like an example i dont like going to relatives because it is mixing males and females but he likes to because he doesnt want to cut relations in islam............ so who wins???????????????????????:-\ :-\ :-\
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They are both right and wrong. You need a compromise. Visit the relatives by all means, but if it involves free mixing, then some sort of arrangement needs to be made
 
Medina83 said:
I wasnt having a go at you brother Nebula , that first so peace :)

but it is a common problem in our current society and explains to me the high rate of divorces amongst muslims and also why sisters are being picked for beauty and not deen or taqwa.

I don't profess to know whats going through anyones mind, and i know there are brothers out there who are sincere and as you rightly say deserve a good wife.

I do believe that what Rasulullah saw said is being abused to some extent, as people are forgetting the other parts of what he said about being kind to your wife or providing for her etc.

Its not right to pick just one part and ignore others and its a bit selfish in my opinion to say 'I want to get married because I want to have halal contact with a woman'. Thats why I said it is a reason but shouldnt be the driving force. Her life is involved aswell and its up to the brother to ensure his motives are to protect his chastity but also to protect and provide and care for her as the mother of his future children inshaAllah.

And Allah swt is the only One who knows what is in the hearts of men and women.
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yeeh i agree with what ur saying sister and im sorry if i sounded angry :)
 
hmmm well a few weeks ago i was soo anti-marriage.. but i dunno recently iv been having dreams about being married n stuff (maybe its a sign?) and now im actually thinkin about gettin engaged.. hmm
 
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