is fallin in love harm?

[sonia]

is fallin in love harm?:embarrass

 

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:salamext:

Love in itself is not haraam. But love before marriage....it depends...the way i see it, if u just love the person and keep it to yourself or u dont go up2 them n say anything, then its fine. But if u've been 'with' them and done things with them...you know...then that isn't right.

Expand on your question a bit sis?

 

[sonia]

a gal is in love wid a boy from her country, dese 2 person meet up n they do everyfing 2gether, so f u love sum1 n f u touch dat person , is it harm f their skin touch each other?

 

[AnonymousPoster]

You should always lower your gaze. you should not even look at the member of the opposite sex with desire or anything else.

n they do everyfing 2gether,

:skeleton: :skeleton:

I'm not sure what u mean by that, but you should not touch that person AT ALL. The Prophet (SAW) said; "It is better for a man to have a steel/iron nail hammered into his head rather than to touch a woman he is not mehram to." [Sahih]

 

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:salamext:

I just wanna share this really nice urdu poem

Mohabbat koi gunnah to nahin
Agar ki jaaye asool se
Khuda ko bhee Mohabbat thee
Apne Rasool (SAW) se

"Love is not a sin
If it's done properly [islamically]
Even God had love
For His Prophet (SAW)"

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

love can make or break it


you gotta keep it under control, if you love someone b4 marriage then DONT ACT ON IT and if you do act on it then tell the WALI !!!! or talk 2 ur parents, approachin the girl/boy is the hugest fitnah you can unleash upon urself!!

 

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[rozeena]

gud question sis?

 

[sonia]

so wat do u fink?

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

hey its not about wat peple think, lol its about what Allah thinks. Ask a scholar!!

 

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:salamext:

Read above Sonia, anonymous and IbnAbdulHakim have given good advice.

 

[abbas_ali]

I always thought it was ok unless you acted upon it...you know what i mean. If you fall in love and don't do 'zina' i think is the correct arabic word and speak to your parents about arranging something or whatever then i think its ok.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ yeah fallin in love itself cannot be helped... its jus a feeling..


but if u act on it n do haram, then thats ur fault and dont expect to be wiv the one u love afta doin haram, thats jus fishy logic

 

[islamirama]

I think what you guys are missing is the whole concept/process of love.

What is love? how does one fall in love?

Ponder over this for a moment....

To fall in love...one must look at the other person and continue to do so

Prophet(s) said to Ali Ibn Abi Talib, "O Ali! Do not let the second look follow the first. The first look is allowed to you but not the second." (Tirmithi, Ahmad and Abu Dawud)

The Prophet(s) said: “The eye may commit zina, and its zina is looking.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, al-Nikaah, 1840; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan Abi Dawood, no. 1884).


Allah (SWT) is speaking to us directly: "Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty, that will make for greater purity for them...Say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty...O you believers! Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain success"(24:30,31)

For help see - How to Lower our Gaze

To fall in love...one must spend time together to get to "know" each other

Umar related that Rasulullah said: "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Shaytan makes a third." (Tirmidhi).

Also, Ibn Abbas related that Rasulullah said: "Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative within the prohibited degrees." (Bukhari, Muslim).

To fall in love..one engages in physical closeness

Rasulullah S.A.W. said, "It is better for a man that a steel nail be driven through the center of his head rather than if he touches the palm of a strange women."

Prophet S.A.W. said, "The one who touches the hand of a woman without having a lawful relationship with her, will have an ember placed on his palm on the Day of Judgment." (Takmalah, Fath alQadir)

So in simple terms, to fall in love means to break all islamic rules and do everything haram and that is just the start, what about when you are "in love"?

The above is the kuffar way of love that many muslims fall into these days. To love someone because of their character and how much good you know of them rather then staring at them and getting "to know" them in person is different.

And if someone is looking to get married, then do it islamically, like...

7 Etiquettes of Seeking a Spouse: An Islamic Perspective[SIZE=+1][SIZE=+2][/SIZE][/SIZE]

 

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:salamext:

VERY good advice, Jazaak Allaah Khayr!

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

hey islamirama, what if the person wasnt aware of the haram n den falls into it?


den the feelin will be engraved inside, but its just a matter of not acting upon it...

 

[islamirama]

hey islamirama, what if the person wasnt aware of the haram n den falls into it?


den the feelin will be engraved inside, but its just a matter of not acting upon it...

Firstly, one has to see if it's something worth keeping or not. If you fall for a corrupt immoral person, then your kin has every right in trying to stop you from making that "stupid" mistake. anyways, read on...

Prophet

(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “there is nothing better for two who love one another than marriage” (Saheeh al-Jaami’, no 5200), nevertheless, this love should not be overwhelming and cause a person to forget other characteristics which he should look for in the person he wants to marry.

more @ http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=5240&ln=eng

 

[Rafeeq]

i think ur answer is given above sis. It is not acceptable, concludially

 

[bewildred]

I take it that no one of those who said falling in love is haraam never ever experienced love.

It's so wonderful to fall in love with a righteous person who becomes your legal partner in life. You love the pious person who educates your kids under the islamic rules. Whom inspires nothing but respect.

It's good to see things from a positive perspective. The corrupt one kinda darkens the human relationships.

Bewildred

 

['Abd-al Latif]

is fallin in love harm?:embarrass

Asalamu alykum.

its not haram to fall in love because thats a natural human emotion, but if the person who ur in love is not ur spouse then its how you act upon ur love that u will be called to account in the day of calamity.

bearing in mind that real love is when u stick with a someone through thick and thin, the rest is lustful desires that can (sometimes) blind the heart.