Girlfreind?

[IbnAbdulHakim]

but im not married! and thats diffrent
if im chatting 2 a girl doesnt mean nothing?

so your tellin me that if a girl your married to and love went around to guys and started joking around with them and having a laugh, visiting em treatin em like mates that your heart wouldnt feel anything?

be care of being a man from amonst the dayyuth

In one Hadeeth narrated by Hadhrat Ammaar Bin Yaasir . Rasulullah said: “A dayyuth (cuckold) will never enter jannah”.

The Sahabah asked “What is a dayyuth”? Rasulullah replied: “A man who does not care who visits his wife”

In terms of this saying of Rasulullah , it is extremely dishonourable and shameless for a husband to allow non-mahareem to visit, view or converse with his wife. Rasulullah described a virtuous wife as man’s most valuable treasure. A man of honour and decency cannot, therefore, allow this treasure to be misappropriated by the libertine culture inherited from the kuffar.

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[qassy!]

Muj4h1d4 I really rate you, you know alot and your following inslam but i am not trying to contradict u or anyone
I just answers

So I cant talk 2 my cousins cuz there girls? ??

 

[qassy!]

and I know I can control my self I would NEVER touch a girl in that way its wrong.

 

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:salamext:

So I cant talk 2 my cousins cuz there girls? ??

You can't talk to them unnecessarily, e.g. txting/talking on fone/emailing, when there is no one around.

Even when there is someone around, you can reply back to them if they ask a question Inshaa Allaah, but not asking their life story lol, u know what I mean?

 

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:salamext:

and I know I can control my self I would NEVER touch a girl in that way its wrong.

Lol brother, when ur alone with a girl (which u wont be Inshaa Allaah before marriage), the shaytaan puts thoughts in your head... Trust me on this one lol....

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

and I know I can control my self I would NEVER touch a girl in that way its wrong.

so you've never touched your girlfriend?!

because shaytaan works in steps, trust me.. if u dont change ur lifestyle, u'll be stuck in a never ending cycle...

 

[qassy!]

so you've never touched your girlfriend?!

because shaytaan works in steps, trust me.. if u dont change ur lifestyle, u'll be stuck in a never ending cycle...

Ive touched a girl hugged thats it ?

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You can't talk to them unnecessarily, e.g. txting/talking on fone/emailing, when there is no one around.

Even when there is someone around, you can reply back to them if they ask a question Inshaa Allaah, but not asking their life story lol, u know what I mean?

I mean there my cousins allah! god man its nothing like that
god
i dont even look at the cousins that way!!!!

Where close
I mean
omg! meh im shocked!!

:salamext:



Lol brother, when ur alone with a girl (which u wont be Inshaa Allaah before marriage), the shaytaan puts thoughts in your head... Trust me on this one lol....

ive been alone with my girl many time cinima etc etc and i never even wanted 2 do anything like that never even had the thought and i promise


i mean i wouldnt even want do do anything like that!!!!

The most I ever done was hugged thats it seriously man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

im so confussed and fed up right now

 

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:salamext:

EXACTLY. You've hugged. Ur not even supposed to touch a girl ur not mehram to. Even though ur cuzzins are cuzzins, you are still a non mehram to them. Which means you cannot be along with them, because, Islamically, you are allowed to marry them.

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

and even if you have no feelings for your cousins, how can you be so sure that they wont develop feelings for you?!...


Assalamu Alaikum

 

[qassy!]

and even if you have no feelings for your cousins, how can you be so sure that they wont develop feelings for you?!...


Assalamu Alaikum

I know my cousins they wont

:salamext:

EXACTLY. You've hugged. Ur not even supposed to touch a girl ur not mehram to. Even though ur cuzzins are cuzzins, you are still a non mehram to them. Which means you cannot be along with them, because, Islamically, you are allowed to marry them.

i never hugged my cousins, huggs my kuri. Ok if i wont do that anymore its still a crime then ???

I know where allowed to get married to cousins but I wont never ever

 

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:salamext:

Lol brother, Subhaan Allaah, you’re unbelievable. You say you’ve only hugged your kuri (girl)? She’s sum next girl that’s not even related to you! That’s worse than hugging cousins!

Even if you think your cousins won’t like you, it’s best (and Islamic) to keep your distance from them Inshaa Allaah.

Brother we have given you your answers, if you are not satisfied with it, then that’s something you need to work on Inshaa Allaah.

 

[qassy!]

:salamext:

Lol brother, Subhaan Allaah, you’re unbelievable. You say you’ve only hugged your kuri (girl)? She’s sum next girl that’s not even related to you! That’s worse than hugging cousins!

Even if you think your cousins won’t like you, it’s best (and Islamic) to keep your distance from them Inshaa Allaah.

Brother we have given you your answers, if you are not satisfied with it, then that’s something you need to work on Inshaa Allaah.

shes nto a next girl i known her for what 5 years?

I trust your answers and everything i just got these questions needs to be sorted.

god im gonna do that reading up now and ill report back!
But i am changing my life its just gonna be a killa!

One thing

i go college in london, and like i cant ignore the girls from now on can i? i mean i know alot of them and i cant just ignore them can i ?

and i mean

when i takl 2 them about work for example is that a crime?

i mean even if im walking home n with them is that a crime?

im doing my read up in a bit!

 

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:salamext:

shes nto a next girl i known her for what 5 years?

But you are still not her mehram. So she is some ‘next girl’.

But i am changing my life its just gonna be a killa!

Allaah is with those who change themselves and their way of life for Him.

One thing

i go college in london, and like i cant ignore the girls from now on can i? i mean i know alot of them and i cant just ignore them can i ?

If you want to be sincere to Allah and Islam then you will only talk to them when it is necessary.

and i mean

when i takl 2 them about work for example is that a crime?

No you can talk to them about work, because that is a necessity. Avoid if possible though Inshaa Allaah.

i mean even if im walking home n with them is that a crime?

It is not a crime, it’s wrong. Because you are not supposed to be alone with a girl in Islam.

Subhaan Allaah, May Allaah guide you upon the straight path, Aameen.

 

[qassy!]

It is not a crime, it’s wrong. Because you are not supposed to be alone with a girl in Islam.

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ok
say im with a few girls and few boys its wrong?


I mean on wenesday i know this girl who lives in the same area
and she walks and gets on the bus 4 me she always waits 4 me cuz shes scared, i mean is that a crime? shes scared i cant stop walking home with her??

 

[qassy!]

the bus with me*

shes scared 2 walk home alone

 

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:salamext:

I mean on wenesday i know this girl who lives in the same area
and she walks and gets on the bus 4 me she always waits 4 me cuz shes scared, i mean is that a crime? shes scared i cant stop walking home with her??

Brother, you are a non mehram, so you shouldn’t be alone with her, and shouldn’t be walking with her, etc.

Best avoid where possible Inshaa Allaah.

 

[qassy!]

:salamext:



Brother, you are a non mehram, so you shouldn’t be alone with her, and shouldn’t be walking with her, etc.

Best avoid where possible Inshaa Allaah.

what do you mean by mehram

see i THINK now I no i am wrong

I thought i was doing good because our college is in 1 area, and we leave college 6PM and its pitch black so shes scared. I mean i cant say not to be i mean im just helping her i dont want nothing to happen to her thats why i am walking her. I mean the area our college is some racist ppl are there

and as soon as we get in the area we live shes not scared because she/i know the area and its full of asaian

 

[qassy!]

lol im so stressed seriously !!!

I thought i was doing good because our college is in 1 area, and we leave college 6PM and its pitch black so shes scared. I mean i cant say not to be i mean im just helping her i dont want nothing to happen to her thats why i am walking her. I mean the area our college is some racist ppl are there

and as soon as we get in the area we live shes not scared because she/i know the area and its full of asaian

 

[IbnAbdulHakim]

bro if somethings islamically incorrect why go against it... islaam is the most logical and perfect way of life. SubhanAllaah..



its kool that u wanna help out this girl and protect her BUT thats not your job! wheres her brothers/uncles/father etc, arent there any girl mates to walk her home?!. Why are they letting her out like that, how would they feel if they knew your walking her home?! are they dayyuth? Whys this poor girl being left to be all scared at a bus stop, the heK?!

seriously bro, just stick to whats right, leave all the confusion...

 

[qassy!]

bro if somethings islamically incorrect why go against it... islaam is the most logical and perfect way of life. SubhanAllaah..



its kool that u wanna help out this girl and protect her BUT thats not your job! wheres her brothers/uncles/father etc, arent there any girl mates to walk her home?!. Why are they letting her out like that, how would they feel if they knew your walking her home?! are they dayyuth? Whys this poor girl being left to be all scared at a bus stop, the heK?!

seriously bro, just stick to whats right, leave all the confusion...

im not saying islam is incorrect i mean i dunno

im not going against it i just dont follow it but im changing my life soon

i dunno where ur parents are
i mean i know its not my problem but its just somthing nice 2 do

but ill try no 2 now!!!!