I think her absence may be due to a number of things (being busy, taking time to read and reasearch before turning to people for information, finding another source/board for information, she also seemed to have some heated arguments with another poster).
I hope she finds what she is looking for. I would have messaged her, but I think I myself am a bit lost so I cannot offer any advice or help answer many questions (I can only offer support and my own perspective on things). Sitting on the fence is not a fun place to be, you feeled pulled on both sides (by people, tradition and your own thoughts and emotions). I hope she is doing well.