Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family?

Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

i know is Fatwa and prohibited in islam....for husband and wife inapropriate kissing an hugging....! i am agreed! folks...cause i am muslim too...! but we must see the non-muslim way to....to have kissing and hugging in front of parents or relative are normal...people love each other so kiss and hugs...!i dont mix up culture of muslim and non-muslim...! yeah i know doing somethings inapropiate is so shameful..! but some are not shameful...is depend how the people mentality.Is depend how they act or speaks? attitudes of the people are so many...can we condemn them stop it...! or they will kill us! for my believe is we believe in is islamic law and we must respect other people and desicion...they're making the right or wrong choice to have such inappropriate act infront of family, is their problem due to the is between them with God.We cant judges people no this and that...do u think people will listen is a couple that married kiss in public...! i cant used the law of islam to say ehh! u cant kiss or hug....say u will have this act u will be judge by God next time...please they will angry and shock! just let them be....!
i am open-minded to accept everything...inshaallah God will guide the people doing inapropriate act in public....
 
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Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

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The sister is asking islamically if it's appropriate..she'z not talking about personal opinions of non muslims or muslims...shez talking about Islam and if in Islam it is allowed to show affection to each other and how far as she is curious ..as in my opinion she is new to Islam
 
Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

Suffiyan007 said:
i know is Fatwa and prohibited in islam....for husband and wife inapropriate kissing an hugging....! i am agreed! folks...cause i am muslim too...! but we must see the non-muslim way to....to have kissing and hugging in front of parents or relative are normal...people love each other so kiss and hugs...!i dont mix up culture of muslim and non-muslim...! yeah i know doing somethings inapropiate is so shameful..! but some are not shameful...is depend how the people mentality.Is depend how they act or speaks? attitudes of the people are so many...can we condemn them stop it...! or they will kill us! for my believe is we believe in is islamic law and we must respect other people and desicion...they're making the right or wrong choice to have such inappropriate act infront of family, is their problem due to the is between them with God.We cant judges people no this and that...do u think people will listen is a couple that married kiss in public...! i cant used the law of islam to say ehh! u cant kiss or hug....say u will have this act u will be judge by God next time...please they will angry and shock! just let them be....!
i am open-minded to accept everything...inshaallah God will guide the people doing inapropriate act in public....
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Brother with all due respect,we are obviously aware of the western approaches,which is of no concern to us.

We are probably not in the position to codemn any actions carried out by the west unless one chooses to do dawah to them on a 1:1 basis,however being open minded;accepting theor way,id certainly not the way forward for a ,that is not called being open minded rather that is going against the law and orders of Allah (SWT).

Despite the fact if a Muslim doesnt practise any of the western approaches,
he has still wronged by holding such opinions,for we have been given a set of orders,provided by He (SWT) upon which we are obliged to follow.

May he guide the wrong doers.
 
Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

salams..

i think it depends on the family itsself as much as it duz the cultural make-up of the family.

i myself, cud hug etc my husband next to my bros and sis's..and my mum etc..

but next to my dad..? pwaah..never...see in my family, when the father walks in, we semi-stand..or atleast sit up and check our clothing...he wud love it if we stand..but i think that is unnecessary and ego-provoking..

i think kissing shud be refrained from..even on the cheek.why? i dno. an arm around his wife sounds family-frendly..pleasant even..but holding hands? why wud u even do that..lol..

a good year into the marriage and these wont even occur to the couple:P

w/s
 
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sevgi said:
salams..

i think it depends on the family itsself as much as it duz the cultural make-up of the family.

i myself, cud hug etc my husband next to my bros and sis's..and my mum etc..

but next to my dad..? pwaah..never...see in my family, when the father walks in, we semi-stand..or atleast sit up and check our clothing...he wud love it if we stand..but i think that is unnecessary and ego-provoking..

i think kissing shud be refrained from..even on the cheek.why? i dno. an arm around his wife sounds family-frendly..pleasant even..but holding hands? why wud u even do that..lol..

a good year into the marriage and these wont even occur to the couple:P

w/s
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Sister,the issue isnt about the leniancy or strictness within the family,rather it comes down to the concept of Modesty.

When referring to modesty,it doesnt only apply to clothing,but it is
just as equally applicable in this field.

There are various of Hadith quotes :
Modesty is part of faith, and faith leads to heaven; while vulgarity is part of unfaith, and unfaith leads to hell.

(Related by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Ibn Majah and Al-Hakim).

"Among the words people obtained from the First Prophecy are : If you feel no shame, then do as you wish."

[Bukhari]

If a family is open with such affairs,they should hasten to change their approaches,since the growing children have an effect of their affection.

Children now a days tend to grow up and become mature;realise things much early in comparison to the children back in the days,due to the curropted media system and the inappropiate material that are displayed under the banner of entertainement.

Hence parents should avoid showing affection to one another once the children start growing up.

A scene of kissing or hugging,shoulnt be recongnised by a child of young age,because a wide range of inappropiate media is available.

This could lead them into watching inappropiate scenes etc.

Do you understand the point!?
 
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no1_outbider said:
Sister,the issue isnt about the leniancy or strictness within the family,rather it comes down to the concept of Modesty.

When referring to modesty,it doesnt only apply to clothing,but it is
just as equally applicable in this field.

There are various of Hadith quotes :
Modesty is part of faith, and faith leads to heaven; while vulgarity is part of unfaith, and unfaith leads to hell.

(Related by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Ibn Majah and Al-Hakim).

"Among the words people obtained from the First Prophecy are : If you feel no shame, then do as you wish."

[Bukhari]

If a family is open with such affairs,they should hasten to change their approaches,since the growing children have an effect of their affection.

Children now a days tend to grow up and become mature;realise things much early in comparison to the children back in the days,due to the curropted media system and the inappropiate material that are displayed under the banner of entertainement.

Hence parents should avoid showing affection to one another once the children start growing up.

A scene of kissing or hugging,shoulnt be recongnised by a child of young age,because a wide range of inappropiate media is available.

This could lead them into watching inappropiate scenes etc.

Do you understand the point!?
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lol..be modest..dont exclamation mark me please.

and what i was saying was all about modesty...how cud u possibly misconstrue my post so badly?

just coz i didnt use the term modesty..duznt mean my idea was void of it..

thanks for ur fatwa. i "get the point!"

peace.
 
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sevgi said:
lol..be modest..dont exclamation mark me please.

and what i was saying was all about modesty...how cud u possibly misconstrue my post so badly?

just coz i didnt use the term modesty..duznt mean my idea was void of it..

thanks for ur fatwa. i "get the point!"

peace.
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Sorry sister if you feel i have offended you that is not what I intended,please forgive me.

The only reason why I said what I did,is to namely point out regardless of the family stance;it should be avoided :) upon which we both agree on.
 
Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

I beleieve that its very imp for a mother and father to show affection to each other in front of their children, holdind hands , embracing, kiss on cheek is all quite permissable. It shows the children that the parents are in love with one and other and they are being brought up in a loving, warm family!! However culturally in fromt of elders then maybe a little restraint should be shown only so not to cause offence but i don't think there is anything wrong with showing affection as long as the dispalys stay within the realms of modesty and I believe that some people may cause offence by implying that only muslims have the attribute to be modest and non muslims don't.
 
Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

thank you to all who posted in regards to my question. i certainly know what things should be kept for the bedroom etc, i was only asking about particular things and also limited my question to 'in front of family members', as i believe nothing of what i mentioned should be practised outside in front of strangers. i did gather some good poits from your posts bros and sisters. jazakallah.
 
Re: Husband&wife: how much affection is it appropriate to show in front of the family

Totally agree,husband and wife showing affection toward each other is admirable and does prove their contentment with each other.Really a matter of opinion and my friend always holds her hsbands hand in public.They kiss and hug each other,though not lengthy french kiss, and have been like this for all their married life of 19 years.They are muslim and extremely happy.
 

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