Don't listen to them! ?
Listen to what?
Look for me! Young, B
Cruisin down the westside - highway
Doing what we like to do - our, way.
.. huh? what's that!? o-l-d-skool.
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When people listen to it, they feel hyper. Like their on top of the world, but it can make you sad too.. What you think, you agree?
Especially when you're in the moment, when you feel like you got the world. When you feel you can break through any barrier. Yet when you're not together it breaks you down, like you're hopeless.. but atleast it understands you, it knows what you're going through?
It hits you most when you hear it again, but this time the situation is different. Last time you were hyper when you listened to it, but this time you're sad.. because you don't have no-one to share it with. You don't have that security you had before, and you don't know who or what to apply your emotions on.
It's like you were hanging onto something before, you even felt secure - but someone just c-u-t that rope which you were clinging onto. Everything went down.. after that.
Yeah, you probably guessed it. The songs you listen to affect you and your emotions ALOT. We discussed earlier that your senses are at an all time high; including your hearing, seeing, smelling, emotions etc. All these are stored up in your mind.
So if you ever do something later on which reflects on the time you had the relationship (like taste, listening to something you heard previosly etc), its likely to confuse you, because inside you still have that desire for that relationship to be there.. but its not, which confuses your mind, it makes your heart skip a beat, almost like it just sunk.
In the Recovery Period of the relationship, the person usually tries to reflect on the moments when they had that relationship, they try to listen to the same songs, or think about the moments because they feel insecure. They want it to be there, but it isn't. They keep asking themselves Why? How? Unsure of whats coming ahead.
The problem is that because the person keeps holding onto the past memories, they don't want to walk forward. So they listen to the same songs, while crying and tiring themselves out. Those moments of happiness you once had are against you - your closest companion is now someone who your jealous of. You don't trust hardly anyone. And you don't want to move on.
This is why its important to keep moving forward with your friend, even though it should be gradual. If they keep listening to these tracks, their sticking onto the past, if they keep doing it - their going to feel insecure, and remain in the past for too long. You have to push them forward lightly. Take them tracks away from them, which are likely to be haraam [Forbidden] anyway because of the music and evil lyrics. Which can lead a person more further astray, especially when their in a weak situation like this...
What's the point of this? Wel.. erm, you just gota try to stop your friend from listening to these tracks because you want them to move on.
That can only happen if you make them move on from this past. And you as the friend have to remove those obstacles out of their way, but it should be done gradually.. don't rush it.
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(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: ‘It is not permitted for a woman who believes in Allaah and the Last Day to mourn for any dead person for more than three days, except for a husband, (in which case the period of 
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