What to do if your friend gets 'heart-broken'?

SUBHAN'ALLAH!!!

If you wrote this bro Fi Sab....u rock! Seriously tho its well good, Masha'Allah!

format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim

mashaAllaah, priceless fi-sab, just priceless

He is very good writer , agreed with you, looking forward to read the next story.

'Stories of Old' ?


There are loads of other stories in history, one of a man who was in a similar situation to Prophet Yusuf (peace be upon him.) The woman locked all the doors, and he couldn't escape.

The man at the end had to agree.. he said; let me go to the bathroom to change - when he goes there, he puts his hand in the toilet, and his hands are filled with human waste (what someone might find in the toilet if they don't flush it properly.)


The woman get's shocked, she doesn't know what to do so what else can she do apart from asking him to leave?


Another story is of a man who's really beautiful. Loads of girls in the town like him.. but they too embarrased to ask 'him out.' One of them is really beautiful, she's proper confident - so she goes upto the guy and asks him if he would be prepared to do whatever she wants to do.

Suddenly the guy starts crying - out of fear of Allaah.. everyone starts staring at them, not knowing what's happening.. but think about it - a guy crying infront of a good looking gurl while everyones watching!? Isn't that embarrassing?


Yeah, we might think that.. but this guy knows that Allaah is watching, he knows that Allaah is severe in punishment if we disobey Him, yet He is the Most Loving if we obey Him. Because all Allaah wants us to do is that we don't do evil right? So it's for our own good.. may Allaah make us as strong in faith like the righteous, ameen.


Just look how much these people feared Allaah's punishment. Don't you see, their so good looking and they can be 'playaz' anyday. It's easier to accept the offer than to say no, someone has to be alot more braver to do that.. but they sincere in obeying Allaah, even if they desires tell them to do it - Allaah comes first. Respect.. seriosly these people are worthy of being followed. Praise be to Allaah He has given us examples, because you know its just too hard to believe anything like that these days.




Okay, now you probably thinking that i've done soooo wrong to explain all this to you init? Probably because you're a sister reading this and you think that i'm saying that there's loads of females like this.


Don't worry, females aren't the only ones who do sins, guys do it too:

ONE SIN LED TO HIS REPENTANCE

A righteous man was once asked to tell the story of the pivotal moment of his life, the moment in which he first began to apply the teachings of Islam, and the following was his answer:

When I was a young man, I would not hesitate to perpetrate any sin that was made available to me. Then, one day, I saw a young woman who was perhaps the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. Much tempted by her, I indicated to her that I wanted her to approach me. She seemed nervous, but I thought that she would probably agree to satisfy my sexual desires for money. She approached me with what seemed to be a great deal of trepidation, and when she actually stood before me, she looked extremely terrified.

Feeling sorry for her, I said, ‘Do not fear, for I will not harm you.’

But my words did not lessen her terrible fright in the least; in fact, her situation worsened. She began to tremble like a palm tree leaf trembles with the wind.

I said, ‘Tell me your story.’

She said, ‘By Allah, o my brother, never before this day have I offered my body in this way. Dire need is what has driven me to this, for I have three daughters who have not eaten a single morsel of food for three days now. It was pity for them that brought me to this low point in my life.’

For the first time in my life, I felt pity; her story moved me, and I no longer entertained the intention of taking advantage of her. After she told me where she lived, I took a great deal of money, clothing and food to her house. When I returned to my house, I told my mother what had happened.

My mother knew that I had a book in which I would record all of my evil deeds, and so she said to me, ‘My son, you are a man who has never performed a good deed except for the good deed that you performed today. I know that you have a book in which you record your evil exploits, go now and write in it your good deed.’

I stood up, went to my book, opened it, and found that all of its pages were blank- except for the first page on which was written a single line.


Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds (i.e. small sins)

[Hud : 114]


At that very moment, I raised my hands to the sky and said, ‘By your Might and Majesty, never again will I disobey You.’

DEATH IS BETTER THAN ALLAH'S PUNISHMENT


A very rich businessman was once relaxing in his home when he heard someone knock on his door. When he opened the door, there standing before him was the most beautiful girl he had ever seen in his entire life. He yearned for her and invited her to come inside. But it was not to fulfill his desires that she came; rather, she came because she was extremely poor and was forced to go around begging for money. He ignored her plea for help and instead insisted that she come inside. She answered him in a clear and dignified tone, "Death is better than disobeying my Lord."

She left but then returned after a number of days. Her situation had become more desperate and again she asked him to help her. The businessman answered her as he did the first time.

With tears flowing down her cheeks, the girl entered his house. Again she pleaded, "Please! Feed me for the Countenance of Allah!"

"Not unless you allow me to satisfy my desires with you," said the man, both coldly and hungrily.

"Death is better than the punishment of Allah," proclaimed the girl.

As she was leaving, her sincere words echoed in the mind of the businessman, and after a long life of sinning, sincere tears of remorse flowed from his eyes for the very first time. He repented to Allah and then fed the girl. He later married her and they enjoyed a happy marriage together.


[So, in the end, he got what he wanted, except that he got it in a lawful manner. And that is what made all the difference].

We also know the famous story of Al-Fudayl, the thug/badboy/gangsta who had a gurl but gave her up when he recieved a sign from Allaah:

HE BROUGHT ME TO THEM SO THAT I CAN REFORM MY CHARACTER..


Al-Fudayl bin Iyaad was famous for his piety and worship, but he was not always a practicing Muslim. In his early years, al-Fudayl was an infamous highway robber; he would prowl in the night for victims on the road from Abiward to Sarakhs. Between these two cities was a small village in which lived a girl that al-Fudayl was in love with. One night, out of desperation to be with her, al-Fudayl climbed the wall of her home. As he was climbing over it, he heard a voice recite:




Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be affected by Allah's Reminder?

[al-Hadeed : 16]


At that moment, al-Fudayl answered, "O my Lord, the time has indeed come." He returned from where he came and sought refuge near a traveling party on the main road. They were busy engaging in a serious discussion. al-Fudayl heard one of them say, "Let us continue our journey now." Another answered, "No, not until the morning, for al-Fudayl is lurking on the road somewhere out there, just waiting to rob us."

Having heard the entire conversation, al-Fudayl thought to himself, "I go around in the night to sin, while a group of Muslims remain here because they fear me. Indeed i feel that Allah has brought me here to them only so that I can reform my character. O Allah, I indeed repent to you.."

Another story:

THE RANKING OF A PERSON WHO REPENTS


Bakr ibn Abdullah al-Muzani is the narrator of this story:

There was once a butcher who fell in love with the daughter of his neighbors. One day, the girl's parents sent her on an errand to the neighboring town. Seeing that she was alone, the butcher follwed her until she reached a seculeded place, where he made his presence known to her. When he tried to seduce her, the girl said, "Do not do so! Indeed, I love you even more than you love me, but I fear Allah."

The butcher's jaws dropped and he said in self-reproach, "You fear Allah and I don't!" He left her alone and repented for his intentions.

On his way back, he became extremely thirsty. He soon came across a Prophet from the Prophets of the Children of Israel. Noticing the expression on the butcher's face, the Prophet asked, "What is the matter with you?"

"Extreme thirst," said the butcher.

"Let us go supplicate to Allah for rain."

"I have no good deed that makes my supplication worthy of being answered," said the butcher.

"Then let me invoke Allah while you say 'Ameen' to my invocations," said the Prophet.

He then began to supplicate, and the butcher said, 'Ameen,' after each of the supplications.

Suddenly, a cloud appeared, rain fell from it into the nearby town, after which it approached the two men. Wherever the butcher walked, the cloud followed after him, instead of hovering over the Prophet.

"You claim that you have no good deeds," said the Prophet. "Yet despite the fact that it was I who suplicated while you said 'ameen' the cloud shaded the city and then it followed you. What is your story?"

The butcher the told him what happened with his neighbor's daughter.

"One who repents to Allah has a ranking that no other person can achieve," said the Prophet.

Don't worry, praise be to Allaah there are also stories of women repenting for sins:

True Speech


Perhaps it was because he was righteous and they were not; perhaps they were jealous of him; whatever the reason, a group of people resented Rabi' bin Khuthaim, and so they decided to put him to trial.

They chose the most beautiful woman they could find, and they offered her a reward of 1000 dirhams [silver coins] if she could successfully seduce him. After she agreed to take on the challenge, she attired herself in her most beautiful clothing and she put on the best perfume she could find.

Then she went to Rabi' and presented herself before him. They were all alone, and Rabi' seemed to be cornered; worse, her beautiful figure and face presented what seemed to be an inescapable temptation.

Approaching him she moved her body enticingly and she spoke sweet, melodious words. What was Rabi' to do? He had no where to escape; her beauty had practically taken him as captive; and he had no weapon with which he could ward her off.

But wait, he did have a weapon: the truth.

Adressing her with a resolute tone, Rabi' said, "what will you do if you are afflicted with disease and your body and beauty take a turn for the worse?

What will you do when the angel of death comes to take your soul? Or what will you do when Munkar and Nakir test you in your grave?"

He continued in this manner until the woman let out a shrill scream and fainted. When she regained consciousness, she repented for her past sins, and until the very end of her life, dedicated her days and nights to the worship of Allah.

What similarities do you see in all of those stories? Alot of them became good muslims right? But why/how did that happen?


It's because they realised that their low desires are just temporary, that these blessings that Allaah has given them will die out soon enough.. they've experienced the other side of the story.. have you not noticed that those who are innocent at the beginning - when they turn bad - people start gossiping about them?

The person's personality changes, they become more harsh and they not that innocent as you thought them to be before? If they don't turn back their life just goes worse, but if they turn back to Allaah they will see that Allaah will make their life easier for them.




The people who turned back to Allaah told themselves that they would change for the better, they were sincere to turn back to Allaah and be good. That's why they were successful. Allaah will only guide us if we have a sincere intention to turn back to Him, not if we want to take a pick n mix of islaam - instead we take the whole package. Yes it can be a gradual change, but you should be prepared to change the bad ways that you're in.


Islaam doesn't make everything haraam [forbidden], but instead whenever there is something haraam - Allaah always makes an alternative for us. So if we can't have a girlfriend/boyfriend, we are given the chance to marry etc. and yeh - we have a choice in that. Forced marriages aren't a part of islaam.



When we repent to Allaah; we should feel regret for what we did, we should intend that we won't do that sin again. Just give it a go, you'll see the benefits come out of it. If you've wronged someone, say good about them instead of gossiping about them.



So remember that Allaah will only guide you if you are sincere in wanting to come closer to Him, which will take sacrifices. If we don't sacrifice anything for Allaah's sake, then does our faith really have any value?



These people you see in the stories, they might have been alive over thousands of years ago. Yet their stories still live on today, because Allaah loved what they did.. so Allaah raised their status in this world, and the world to come, where Allaah has kept hidden for His servants which no eye has ever seen, no ear has ever heard and no heart has ever felt.

Allah will admit those who believe and work righteous deeds, to Gardens beneath which rivers flow: they shall be adorned therein with bracelets of gold and pearls; and their garments there will be of silk.

[Qur'an Al Hajj - 22:23]

What you waiting for..?

"O My slaves who have transgressed agaisnt themselves! Despair not for the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." »

[Qur'an, Chapter 39: Verse 53]

If you give up something for the sake of Allaah, Allaah will give you something better in return. And Allaah never overburdens a soul with more than it can bear.


Remember - Allaah is the source of Strength. He is the Protecting Friend & Supporter, and He is the Most Loving to those who turn to Him.

format_quote Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah

The person's personality changes, they become more harsh and they not that innocent as you thought them to be before? If they don't turn back their life just goes worse, but if they turn back to Allaah they will see that Allaah will make their life easier for them.

I think the personality changes because life is harsh, step by step we are forced to change ourselfs. If every people would be good we would always keep our 'innocent' behaviour.

format_quote Originally Posted by Tania

I think the personality changes because life is harsh, step by step we are forced to change ourselfs. If every people would be good we would always keep our 'innocent' behaviour.

Yeah, but if we follow islaam we know that we have to be good and even if people think we're 'soft' - we doing it to please Allaah anyway so our reward is with Him. If we become harsh, Allaah removes that mercy from our hearts which might seem like a good thing in society, but Allaah shows mercy to those who show mercy to others.. so we should work hard to please Allaah.

The Messenger's of Allaah came to people who were harsh hearted, but these messengers still remained merciful. If we doing it to please Allaah then we need to stay this way, otherwise people will hate us. Allaah says in the Qur'an:

And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh*hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah's) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).

[3:159]

And our best example is the Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him.)



Peace.

What you waiting for..?


"O My slaves who have transgressed agaisnt themselves! Despair not for the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." »

[Qur'an, Chapter 39: Verse 53]

Indeed...What is mankind waiting for?!

Wicked posts brother Fi-Sabilillah...keep it up!

May Allah give you the best in this world and the Aakhirah. Ameen.

And the ummah. ameen. jazak Allaah khayrun.

subhanallah!if u have written it urself,then u r one of the best intellectual i've known.your posts kinda make one think deep.keep writing such nice posts,all the best.

format_quote Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah

But it can happen. You can experience it again, and it doesn't have to have that same taste/feeling like the first time. Alot of people think this, and they don't truely understand because their too scared to take that step forward.

I found this so profound. Its like bringing hope for those who have none. Because i think in the same way with the beginning of the post: once you have your first love, i don't think thats can be replaced. Many prefers to remain single than to experience another failure.

Because i think in the same way with the beginning of the post: once you have your first love, i don\'t think thats can be replaced.

Sister I understand what you are saying completely, and u can probably never forget the moments you shared with your first love, but people can move on sis, as much as it is hard to believe they can.

i dno why i keep doin it, buh uncle keeps popping up in all the stories init