What to do if your friend gets 'heart-broken'?

**- Qatada -** · 12-07-2006

What to do if your friend gets 'heart-broken'?

Remember when you and your friend were always close and you could tell each other anything? You were the closest to each other and nobody else came between you two?

After some time, you noticed that this friend was acting abit strange, and they wasn't giving you the attention you usually had.. wasup with him/her? you asked yourself. This friend gradually started hanging out with you less and you never spoke to each other that much. They started acting abit more 'kool' and they felt that you was oldskool..

What if it's a guy, or a gyal? you thought to yourself.. i've never seen them act this strange before.

Turns out, what you thought was right. They wanted to join the scene too and you was left behind, you're still a kid in their eyes but they've grown up. I'm hangin with the bad boyz now, or the 'thuggetez.'

You either had two options; you could do the same, or you could stay quiet and be a good practisin muslim right? Yeah man, you're bare shareef, thats what they all say... you felt uncomfortable with that, but you was scared about what the rentz [parents] would say, so you decided to stay on the back rowz for abit.

Turns out, this mate that you had - they wasn't interested in knowing you no more, they were with their crew and had their gyal/kuri or their thug with them. Man, why did this have to happen to me for.. you thought to yourself. Deep down inside, you was kinda jealous - how come this person got all the popularity, even though you was the 'good one.'?

A little time passed, a while later.. this friend came back to you. They were sad, but still you saw they was dressed the same way as their crew. Hoodie on, and rockiez.. or was it the big hoops and foundation?

"What's up?" you mumbled..

"Nothin much, u?" they said.

You was still kinda sad, confused and not sure what was goin on. You wanted to talk to them like the times before, but you knew that loads of things had changed now. What if things could get better? You wasn't practisin full time, but you knew that dating was wrong, you knew that because you wasn't allowed to talk to that gyal/guy on parents evenings when your parents came over to check up on your progress at school..

"I got sutin to tell you yeah.."

You was confused, not knowing what to do or how to respond..

"Yeah?" you asked.. not knowing what tone of voice to use.

"It's about this person i got to know a little while back..."

To be continued insha'Allah..

**------** · 03-08-2007

Masha'Allah, a really good ending to a really good story!

**Tania** · 03-08-2007

Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah

i dno why i keep doin it, buh uncle keeps popping up in all the stories init

I read it

and just waited to see whats happening after moving out.

**- Qatada -** · 03-08-2007

Originally Posted by Tania

I read it

and just waited to see whats happening after moving out.

It's supposed to be the ending.. so Allaah knows best if they would ever meet again in the future.

I know its a sad way to end it.. but it shows that life isn't always how we expect it to be, and sometimes you have to move on whether you like it or not.

**Tania** · 03-09-2007

Are very good writed stories. May be you will write another story then, with other characters

**- Qatada -** · 04-11-2007

I think alot of people got disappointed for that last chapter as an ending.. so i've made a last part to it, and i hope you don't be disappointed this time, inshaa Allaah.

**- Qatada -** · 04-11-2007

Al-Nikah [The Marriage]

RingRing.. Ring Ring.. R..

Hello?

Asalaamu 'alykum?

wa alykum assalaam, who is this?

Are your parents at home?

Yea..

* whisper:who is it? *

* They asking about you..*

Asalaamu 'alykum, who is this?

Er.. we live in your town.

Yes?

Is it okay if we come to your house? To discuss this issue?

What is it about?

I have a.. proposal.. to make.

What kind of proposal?

Inshaa Allaah we can discuss this if we come over, is that okay?

Erm.. okay, do you also know my address?

Yes alhamdulillah, i got it from the Masjid Local Directory.

..Okay, when will you be coming?

We are on our way..

erm.. okay insha Allaah.

......

They hung up.

"What proposal?"

Your mom stared at you with a grin on her face.

huh? Go on tell me!

You're going to get married.. you're going to get married! said your little sis/bro.

What?! to who?

Your father walked in: What happened?

Your mom went to her husband;

"I think its about time.. you're childs grown up now, they need a companion. Someone who can help them through the good and bad.

Look at all the temptations they face today, don't you think its best that they do it through the way which Allaah has prescribed? It's much better for them. What do you say?"

"I've been thinking about this for quite a while myself.."

"So what do you say?"

*KNOCK KNOCK*

....

"I'll go open it, you should go in the living room for now."

Okay.

So who do you think it is mom?

I'm not sure, we'll see what your dad says.

*Meanwhile*

Asalaamu 'alykum, so this is your son?

Yeah, alhamdulillah he's been practising Islaam for a few months now.

Oh, that's good Maasha Allaah. It's quite hard to find people like this nowadays. Most want to be be like them 'rap stars' on tv, you know?

Alhamdulillah, Allaah has protected us from that.. now.

Yes?

He means that we're happy that Allaah has saved us from that evil.

Oh yes, yes. Alhamdulillah very much.

*silence*

One minute, i think the tea's nearly ready. Let me just go and get it.

Okay, inshaa Allaah.

---

- The door opened -

So who is it?

It's the family who was going to move houses today, they proposed, subhaan Allaah.

Have you ever spoken to them in the past?

Yes, he's my brothers friend. I think i'll call him over now aswell. Is the tea ready? Alhamdulillah their son is good muslim now, i think he used to be with them bad boys in the streets last year..

Alhamdulillah, that's good.

So what do you think daughter, would you be willing to accept the proposal??

.....

I think.. she would be. We have a good daughter alhamdulillah.

So what do you say?

I think her silence is her consent, don't you know that the Messenger of Allaah said:

“A deflowered unmarried woman (i.e., widow or divorcee) may not be married without her instructions; and a virgin may not be married without her permission, and her silence indicates her consent” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

Oh yes, that is true. So we agree, right? This is a lifetime decision.

Inshaa Allaah, let's pray to Allaah that we make the right decision. Are you pleased with his character?

The Prophet of Allaah said:

“If there comes to you with an offer of marriage (for your daughter, sister, etc.) one with whose religious commitment and character you are pleased, then marry (your daughter, sister, etc, to) him. If you do not do so, there will be mischief on earth and widespread corruption.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 1004; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 270)

Yes, he seems like a good lad. And alhamdulillah it seems like he is following the Sunnah.

Okay, i think the tea's ready. You can take it now.

*Knock Knock - Ding Dong*

hm.. i think its the door again, i wonder who it must be? Can you make another cup of tea, i think you should get the cake out too. Just incase.

Okay inshaa Allaah.

The sun was shining through the window, it was kinda hot today. lol, but it felt special, and it was all thanks to Allaah:

He it is Who makes (men) laugh and makes (them) weep;[Qur'an Al Najm 53:43]

Who could have thought this could ever happen? Only Allaah provides us from ways we dont' expect..

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Asalaamu 'alykum warahmatulah!

wa alykum as-salaam warahmatulahi wabarakatuh ya akhee! kayfa haaluq?! [how are you]

Alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah.. bi khayr shukran.

Come in inshaa Allaah, we have some visitors.

Ohh, its you! Asalaamu 'alykum brothers and young man!

wa alykum as-Salaam. *they said together.*

*I hope Allaah makes this go well, Oh Allaah, please only allow this if it is good for me, and her, in this life and the herafter. ameen.*

Young man, are you embarrased. Look up now, is everything alright?

Yes, uncle. Alhamdulillah.

Okay, i think the tea is ready now. Inshaa Allaah i will get it.

----

So young man, are you looking forward to marriage? I'll tell you its tough these days, women expect alot off us men..

Inshaa Allaah uncle, the Messenger of Allaah said:

The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman. [Sahih Muslim #3465]

Maasha Allaah, son. It looks like you've prepared for this a long time ago.

No, i havn't really.. hm...

*Her father came back*

Okay, is everyone ready now? This is serios, and lets pray to Allaah to guide us to what is right.

"Young man, we have two male witnesses here - which is required for a marriage to take place; your father and my brother. I am my daughters wali [guardian] - so what you say now is extremely important. This will affect your and my daughters future.

..Yes, i understand.

Okay, now; Do you accept my daughter in marriage?

....I accept.. your daughter in marriage.

Alhamdulillah, can you sign these papers now. Just sign your signature here inshaa Allaah;

Husband: ___________ son of ____________.

Daughters Guardian (Wali): ____________.

Witness#1: __________________
Witness#2:___________________

Mabrook! Congratulations, alhamdulillah now you are married!

..Alhamdulillah. Thankyou Oh Allaah. *sigh* I remember how i felt, back in the days...

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*Back in the Living Room*

What do you think the noise is about?

I'm not sure, yet.

Your dad walked in.. he has a smile on his face. Alhamdulillah, its done. May Allaah bless your marriage.

Ameen, you whispered to yourself. You couldn't control yourself... lol you smiled back.

The End... a new beginning.

So is that it? The whole things done?

Yes. It's all done now, alhamdulillah.

Jazaak Allaah khayr (May Allaah reward you) all!

Ameen, everyone whispered.

- Everyone was smiling now -

*Knock knock*

Dad, why.. would someone knock in the living room door?

I'm not sure, let me see..

Okay.

"Uncle, my fathers calling you."

Okay, my.. son? he grinned.

lol, if you want to call me that..

hm.. You two, go upstairs now.

Mom?

Yes?

Can I?

Sure you can, he's your husband.

loll subhan Allaah, okay.. then...

You turned your head, looked at each other, he stared back - with a grin on his face.

"Ayt, get upstairs old man."

"lol safe honey."

You ran to your room.

You want anything to eat?

Nah, its kay.

You still got that in you eh? I thought you was all pious now?

haha, shurup.. alhamdulillah Allaah guided us to good init.

Yeah, alhamdulillah. Otherwise we wouldn't be together now.. would we?

..Allaah knows best.

And remember! your Lord caused to be declared (publicly): "If ye are grateful, I will add more (favours) unto you; But if ye show ingratitude, truly My punishment is terrible indeed." [Qur'an 14:4]

yeah.. all the praise is for Allaah who gave us good so we could be thankful to Him.

hm.. yeh.

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. [Qur'an 30:21]

lol yeh.. i'm just reflecting on that right now.

yeah, so am i.. the beginning to a new road huh?

May Allaah make it a success in this life and the next, ameen.

Ameen.

mmm... MWAH! x

OI! LOL. People are reading this you know!

lol joka! i think its about time this story ended.. what do you say?

Hm.. lol, its not good to spy is it?

Yup, i think this is a good way to finish off our story..

Me too.

see ya, inshaa Allaah!

take care!

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Are they still reading this?

No, i shut it off.. i think my moms coming. sshh..

*knock knock*

"Come in!"

"Asalaamu 'alykum son in law, i've writ a list of things you have to do before the end of the week, here's the whole list."

Seriosly?

Yes, alhamdulillah we've wanted a son in law for quite a long time, alhamdulillah my daughter - your dad can retire now and my son, you can take his place.

Huh? Me? work instead?

Yes, you.

Uh oh.... sigh

The END...but the start to a new beginning, inshaa Allaah...

**------** · 04-11-2007

Woah....Masha'Allaah...I'm lost for words!!!!!!!!

KOOL ENDING!!!!!!!!!

**- Qatada -** · 04-12-2007

Quick Quiz

guess who that uncle in the nikah was?

**Al-Zaara** · 04-12-2007

You? :X (JUST A GUESS, don't kill me!)

**- Qatada -** · 04-12-2007

No.. it was supposed to be the uncle who they saw in the park, and in the masjid.

I dno.. it just matched. It was a stupid question.

**Al-Zaara** · 04-12-2007

loq! No... it wasn't a stupid question! Now when you said it, it makes sense!

It was just my stupid answer.

**Tania** · 04-12-2007

Its a happy ending

they are together and how simple it was everything. And i like how they talked, so solemn and in the end when they remained together it was more a familiar talk (yup, joka) .

**Al-Zaara** · 04-12-2007

Assselamu aleykum,

^^I agree with you Tania.

MashaAllah, I'm printing the pages out and make some of my friends read it inshaAllah.

I actually think this should be published, brother. Many people would need to read this.

**Maarya** · 04-12-2007

that was a really good ending brother

**- Qatada -** · 04-12-2007

The stories finished now.. but i think i might add about 1 or 2 more parts related to marriage inshaa Allaah. I'm not really sure yet.

Jazaak Allaah khayr aswell, all good comes from Allaah, alhamdulillah.

**Irfan's Wife** · 04-12-2007

Mashallah I read every single post,and this is a really good thread bro!!!!

May Allah bless you Ameen

**IbnAbdulHakim** · 04-12-2007

lollllll happy endin eh

**Tania** · 04-13-2007

Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah

The stories finished now.. but i think i might add about 1 or 2 more parts related to marriage inshaa Allaah. I'm not really sure yet.

Jazaak Allaah khayr aswell, all good comes from Allaah, alhamdulillah.

You could go with a wedding description too

before to hear about married life. I always wondered how dramatically is our life changed after marriage.

**SirZubair** · 04-14-2007

When i was heartbroken some years back, one of my cousins threw a Straw at me and told me to Suck It Up.

I got over my broken heart pretty soon after that.