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@ brother scimitar
Brotherhood is a communal bond among people who are in one group. Friendship is a personal bond between two persons who make relationship.
If we help other Muslims because we feel there is a bond between us and them, this is brotherhood. But if me and you make a close relationship which we support and help each other, it called friendship, because this relationship is personal.
When I was in trouble I often got help from my friends without they expected anything from me.format_quote Originally Posted by Scimitar
Bro, as long as people are still willing to help their friends without expect anything, friendship would always exist.
What you call frinedship, I call brotherhood - thats where we differ. I prefer to honour them with a better title, is all.
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^I know what you mean I think.. You're saying that whether it is someone you are close to or not, in your eyes they are all the same as in equally worthy of love and respect. If that's what you mean, it's a great outlook you have. But sadly as sis Insaanah pointed out, all muslims are brothers (and sisters) but not all are friends.
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I have actually met some amazing sisters online and we made some plans and met in person, and now they're close friends, part of my family.Alhamdulilah we Muslims have this bond that connects us.
I'm not close to any of my cousins ( the ones I've met so far) simply because I don't talk their talk nor think like them. Even the ones I've not met, seem to blow me off simply because Im not like them. I've shared more with sisters online than I ever have with cousins Ive known since I was kid. I can trust some of them (online), others I've regretted sharin anything with. I can't share anything with my cousins. The last time I did, they couldn't hold anything to themselves....word travels.
So it all really depends what they're like...
The sisters I've known online over the years, I love them dearly. They have yet to break my trust. Alhamdulillaah.
So I voted yes.
Last edited by Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн; 09-27-2011 at 04:44 PM.
Most of my cousins are in Pakistan and when I go there I tend to enjoy it because of them.
The few that are here in England, Im not very close to. But they do come round on occassions and we go to theirs sometimes.
I dont have one particular best friend but a few close ones and I cant really compare them to cousins. We talk about different things, and they dont really know my family, whereas with cousins we can discuss family issues.
I dont have that many online friends, a few that Ive met on a different forum and I am quite close to them. I can talk about things that maybe I wouldnt with other people. I havent known them for too long though but I find it easier to talk to them sometimes.
I suppose you can be closer to online friends, but its a different kind of closeness. A different kind of friendship, because you probably havent grew up with them, you havent experienced the same thing and maybe even live in different parts of the world and this makes it a much more interesting friendship I suppose, because your sharing different experiences.
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I am closer to my friends than I am to my cousins. I haven't talked to my cousins in years. I talk to my friends almost every day.
Salam Alaikkum
My best friend is my husband and I had ex best friends before (non Muslim time) and they were all end up using me.
For 5yrs my husband never sell me to anyone or put me down, even the darkest secret I have he will never tell anyone. He covers my mistakes too and trying hard to influence me to do good
I'd rather have online friends like IB members, they are so much BETTER than real life friends. Real life friends can leave you broken into pieces, online Muslim friends are great to find. ALHAMDOLLELAH
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i think were forgetting one thing when you post hadiths in which the word "friend" or "friends" is used the actual meaning may have been lost in transalation as some words cannot be transalated exactly from arabic to english so it may be that the word friend in hadiths and quran may mean different to the english word "friend" it may be that the meaning of the arabic word for friend is closer to the word companion or it may be used to refer to a man who is not of blood relation but of equal or more value in your heart this is just an example so someone who understands arabic might be able to the context of the arabic word that we transalate to friend
I believe some friends can be more close than cousins, I hope we agree on that. But I think some readers of this thread will feel that we are attacking cousins in some way, lol, that we should leave our cousins.
I shall return to emphasize the importance of kinship in islam. We should never treat our relatives in a bad way, even if they could be harsh with us.
edit, double post, bla bla
Real life friends/cousins love me despite my faults.
Internet friends only give you what you give them.
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I don't think a poll is going to make a difference. Every experience is different. Some people alhamdulillaah have wonderful cousins, while others do not. In my case, I've only been disappointed...so I'm of the view that friends can be closer. My best friend is my mom. True friend.
Last edited by Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн; 09-29-2011 at 01:04 AM.
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i he met amazing and wonderful people online no doubt but they can never be closer to me than my cousin, i cant trust her, i can tell her everything and anything =)
Well it depends on that friend and your cousin. For me, no-one ever would replace my cousin, not even my siblings. It depends on how close you are to both of them, really.
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im not really close with my family but my friends i know they wont judge me..so i know i can just talk freely.
Depends, because you'll love your friend more as he doesnt know your parents much! So you know if you do something bad he wont go around telling your parents how ever with your cosin its different.
when it comes to choose btw internet friends and cousin i will choose neither... i would prefer my real life friends.. they are wonderful..
although i have met very nice sisters on internet but i cannot become a very close friend with a sister online until i meet her in real life..
I have no friends =( except one or two but I don't like to hang out with them because there idea of having fun goes against the teachings of islam..
thats why I come here to engage in conversations with like minded people....
to answer the questions can you become closer with an internet friend than a cousin... I can't see why not.. your only related to you cousins by through family but your related to a "friend" through love?
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