Everyone who is young and single is so focused on getting married and some people end up in family feuds over the subject of finding a suitable partner.
I don't intend to discourage any two muslims who are "in love" from afar to not get married and it is completing ones faith and it is an important sunnah.
I'd like to bring to light a different perspective for those who are doing everything to get married, instead of staying single for awhile and waiting longer before tieing the knot. Perhaps their is a reason for why you are not getting married so quickly? Perhaps there is a hidden blessing that you are over looking.
Think about it....
1. Single means you can eat, sleep, study, work, go out to the park when ever you want.
2. Being single allows you the opportunities to earn your own living in order to travel to far off major booming economies such as Dubai or Qatar, and you can work how ever many hours, jobs as you want.
3. Being single means you can spend your last two dollars on a chocolate covered chocalate if you wish,without anyone standing over you forbidding you for any reason.
4. Being single allows you to choose how you want to live, go to the masjid at anytime you like, not being forbidden from doing so.
5. Being single means you have more time to wait for Allah to send you a good Muslim your way, by waiting, sometimes you actually get better end results in finding a suitable marriage partner.
6. Being single allows you time to explore your own personality, and to buid "you" before you try to build a relationship based on "us".
7. Staying single longer means you can jump at any opportunity that comes your way, and you can set your life up, buy a car, build a nice house, so you'll always have something to call your own in your own name no matter if you get married or not.
8. Delaying marriage means more time that you can spend with your mom while she is still alive, instead of having to deal with a needy spouse who always wants you at home cooking and cleaning.
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
Bismillah Hairamaan Neeraheem. Asalam Alaykum Warakmatulah Wabarkatuh. I will now give a more serious reply. How will you be discouraging only two muslims when you posted this in the public forum, everyone can see it and everyone will be affected but no real harm will be done. I know no one should marry early but in the 1900s people married when they were 13 and so did Aisha(AS) was that a sin no it was a blessing.You can eat sleep, study and go to the park with you potential partner anytime as well infact it will be more fun to do so then rather "Chill" with your friends. Why work hard when you can work towards Allah and gain something more important. Giving others or sharing is better then being selfish. You will never be forbidden to do so, it will be a good deed for the other partner if he or she comes with you or only gives you do the permission to do so. You can also have a love marriage. Didnt you have 25 years of yourself already i think once i hit 25 i might start thinking about marriage. Number 7 has some truth but has no plot or concept. If you buy a house or buy a car whose going to get impressed, maybe some neighbors but if youre married and you do that it will be a good impression on both partners. Number 8: I will keep my mother with me actually even my father with me and if my life partner leaves me because of it i will not care because my parents raised me and it will soon be my turn to raise them before there death. You should never think your spouse grumpy rather think them of having mood swings. In heaven you can do anything with your friends. After i get married inshAllah i will ask my wife to join LI if it still exists and we will both build our imaan so high that Allah will be pleased from us after all. Walakum Asalam Warakmatulah Wabarakatuh. Your brother in islam Yanal Latif.
By the way there is things which could not be paid by anyone: Rasulullah said
"Marriying is half of Din(Religion). And then he has to fulfill the other half."(Silsilah Hadits Ash Shahihah 3).
If Najm choose 4 Shalihat women rather than 1 very beautiful woman, he will be succesful in his marriage, and will no need of divorce.
indeed the thread made me smile
every one likes to get married even if there is 100^100 reasons not to get married
but it should be in the right time and place that's all
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Our prophet (pbuh) said: “Haya does not bring anything except good.”
A lot of people would like to get married but cannot do so immediately due to different reasons, such as finances, not meeting the right person etc. Instead of looking at this post negatively, these points could be used as an encouragement and means of helping those that aren't able to get married immediately to make the most of their single time and not spend their days being miserable.
I think that when the opportunity arises and the right person comes along, we shouldn't delay getting married, but at the same time we should make the most of being single while we still are.
7. Staying single longer means you can jump at any opportunity that comes your way, and you can set your life up, buy a car, build a nice house, so you'll always have something to call your own in your own name no matter if you get married or not.
but living in this day and age, it also may involve riba. alot of riba
10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
i disagree...you have someone to revise with, and help you build your home in the hereafter, inshallah! not necessarily with them, but a home none-the-less...
also check this thread out...
What the...? Being married means you have your very own bodyguard....Mahram to go with also that us sisters wont really have to work, beat that!
i reckon!!!
Why would your spouse wanna do that?
Being married means you dont have to drool over them chocs,you'll have someody to buy them for you
yh buy them for you then they end up eating them themselves and also i image that your spouse would force you to buy that chocolate for them
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 01-31-2009 at 09:50 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
just out of interest, why is this thread in the "Manners and Purification of the Soul" section
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
To purify our souls to get married.
This particular article is very delicate, interesting having read it many times, and having many views on it, and it has many levels of understanding depending on the current status of the readers. Hence theres complete different set of views coming from different readers.
The article is funny, lame, yet midleading, can be depressive and serious........Only depends how you see it.
An interesting post, at first glace seemingly belonging to the humor section.
I think the sum conclusion of those statements is basically that your time will not be to yourself only.
Something that we may find a tad difficult at first in certain things maybe?
Otherwise yeah, i can also bring on comebacks, lol.
But as most done already i'll pass... for most.
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
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10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
Insha'Allah if we marry good partners than they will be a source of Deeni inspiration instead.
I dont have time to read the rest but they're all silly, surely a pious husband/wife would support you in all of them things and would be a blessing rather than a burden, no?
Yep, I can attest to that, being married myself. And I can safely say marriage is one of the greatest blessings that Allaah ever bestowed upon me. Some ayaat, you can only understand when you experience them:
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect." [30:21]
whoever wrote that must have one mean pushy spouse (?)
marriage is a big blessing, hard work maybe but a blessing in any case
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
Yep, I can attest to that, being married myself. And I can safely say marriage is one of the greatest blessings that Allaah ever bestowed upon me. Some ayaat, you can only understand when you experience them:
"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect." [30:21]
Come on now, when you are not married, you have much more free time and much less responsibilities. This we all have to admit.
I have a friend who has an extremely supportive, wonderful and practicing husband and she told me she was going to have to drop out of this really beneficial Islamic course she is doing because she has two young daughters and can’t cope. And I couldn’t tell her that 'no your studies are more important' because right now her priority and responsibility were her family and daughters.
It is true that learning and seeking knowledge is done throughout your life, and one can even do this when married, but the most ideal and quality time to study and gain knowledge is the years when you are single. Because then you have more free time. These are the benefits and advantages of being single.
It is true that learning and seeking knowledge is done throughout your life, and one can even do this when married, but the most ideal and quality time to study and gain knowledge is the years when you are single. Because then you have more free time.
You can concentrate much more when you are married, as your husband/wife will be there to aid you and support you. Just having someone be there for you throughout everything makes any trial seem easy, al-Hamdulillaah. This is something that many married people have told me. And really, you need to busy yourself in khayr, else the shaytaan will busy you in ma'siyah. For example...
Umu 'Abdillaah 'Aa'ishah bint Muqbil has six children, and is married. Yet she is mustafeedah, maasha'Allaah, so she teaches constantly in Daarul-Hadeeth dammaaj. Simialrly, shaykh Yahya al-Hujooree has four wives, and a whole bunch of kids. Yet he's constantly opening more lessons, and there are the three cumpolsory duroos that run every day. And yet, he still has time for his family and even gives them private lessons, as I've been told.
And the best example I can give, is the example of the Prophet salAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam. He had 9 wives at one point, and yet, who had more responsibilities than him? SalAllaahu 'alayhi wa 'ala aalihi wa sallam.
As Allaah stated, "... He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them...". This clearly shows that a loving marriage settles the mind. And I feel that I have a much more supporting atmosphere to seek knowledge now, than when I wasn't married. With my husband, my lessons come first. It's really just a matter of scheduling yourself.
I think it depends on the individual and their situation, really. For some, their ideal time might be whilst they are single, and for others, their ideal time might be after getting married. And being married and being single both has its advantages.
Come on now, when you are not married, you have much more free time and much less responsibilities. This we all have to admit.
I have a friend who has an extremely supportive, wonderful and practicing husband and she told me she was going to have to drop out of this really beneficial Islamic course she is doing because she has two young daughters and can’t cope. And I couldn’t tell her that 'no your studies are more important' because right now her priority and responsibility were her family and daughters.
It is true that learning and seeking knowledge is done throughout your life, and one can even do this when married, but the most ideal and quality time to study and gain knowledge is the years when you are single. Because then you have more free time. These are the benefits and advantages of being single.
AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu
Alhamdulillah!! I agree!!
A lot of us are not married yet, and maybe its not time to etc.
What im saying is lets not detest that fact that we are single, lets enjoy the benefits while it lasts.
Marriage can never be smooth sailing!!! Being single means you can blame yourself, and not your spouse for all the mistakes etc.
Reading all these marriage thread makes me go into DreamLand!!! It makes me feel soo annoyed!
People should encourage each other to get married, but not detest being single. There are some who have been looking for more than 5 years, they must feel soo negative all the time for still being single
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