Everyone who is young and single is so focused on getting married and some people end up in family feuds over the subject of finding a suitable partner.
I don't intend to discourage any two muslims who are "in love" from afar to not get married and it is completing ones faith and it is an important sunnah.
I'd like to bring to light a different perspective for those who are doing everything to get married, instead of staying single for awhile and waiting longer before tieing the knot. Perhaps their is a reason for why you are not getting married so quickly? Perhaps there is a hidden blessing that you are over looking.
Think about it....
1. Single means you can eat, sleep, study, work, go out to the park when ever you want.
2. Being single allows you the opportunities to earn your own living in order to travel to far off major booming economies such as Dubai or Qatar, and you can work how ever many hours, jobs as you want.
3. Being single means you can spend your last two dollars on a chocolate covered chocalate if you wish,without anyone standing over you forbidding you for any reason.
4. Being single allows you to choose how you want to live, go to the masjid at anytime you like, not being forbidden from doing so.
5. Being single means you have more time to wait for Allah to send you a good Muslim your way, by waiting, sometimes you actually get better end results in finding a suitable marriage partner.
6. Being single allows you time to explore your own personality, and to buid "you" before you try to build a relationship based on "us".
7. Staying single longer means you can jump at any opportunity that comes your way, and you can set your life up, buy a car, build a nice house, so you'll always have something to call your own in your own name no matter if you get married or not.
8. Delaying marriage means more time that you can spend with your mom while she is still alive, instead of having to deal with a needy spouse who always wants you at home cooking and cleaning.
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
hmm.. the article relates a lot more to females than males me thinks
Marriage has loadsa advantages too, u got someone to share ur troubles with, someone you can go out with and someone you can share your chocolates with
The believer has four characteristics: if he is afflicted by any misfortune, he remains patient and steadfast. If he is given anything, he is grateful. If he speaks , he speaks the truth. If he passes judgment on any issue,he is just .
Aaw, see? That's the sort of thing we like to hear! Wanting to share your chocolate covered chocolate with your spouse...(I'm gonna secretly pray my spouse won't like chocolate :P)
Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
Marriage is half your deen. It can help you stockpile on loads of hasanah for doing lil things. And that'll speed your entry to Paradise, Insha Allah.
After marriage, a man gets rewarded for every single morsel that goes inside the woman's mouth. Similarly, a woman gets rewarded just for making her husband smile when he looks at her.
You get more hasanah by spending time with your spouse than nawafil Ibaadah .
Temptations will be reduced, so, seeking ilm will be easier.... without the whispers of Satan & Nafs pushing you towards haraam.
Marriage is endlessly rewarding....and has been higghly recommended in the Suunah.
So, no number of reasons can be convincing enough to avoid marriage.
Yes there are many many more advantages to being married then there are to being single, but as has been mentioned earlier not everyone can get married exactly when they'd like to owing to many different reasons such as not being financially ready, not finding the right partner, etc.
So just because a person is single does not mean that they do not want to get married, but that the time isn't right.
And being miserable and depressed over something that is not completely in our control is pointless.
So while being single we should take advantage of it, and make the most of our time to ourselves.
I don't agree. Marriage can be a pull down on your education or the likes, but the younger you start, it's probably better. There's more time to adapt and adjust. This is coming from a non-married single point of view though
1. Single means you can eat, sleep, study, work, go out to the park when ever you want.
1- Married means you can eat, sleep, study, work, go out to the park with someone you care about, and enjoy all of that so much more.
2. Being single allows you the opportunities to earn your own living in order to travel to far off major booming economies such as Dubai or Qatar, and you can work how ever many hours, jobs as you want.
2- Being married allows you the opportunities of two incomes, and two fields of expertise in order to travel to far off major booming economies as Qatar (Dubai is sinking, yuck!), and you can work with the support of your spouse however many hours, jobs as you want.
3. Being single means you can spend your last two dollars on a chocolate covered chocalate if you wish,without anyone standing over you forbidding you for any reason.
3- Being married means you can spend your before-last dollar on a chocolate that you share with your loved one, and means there is someone there wiser to tell you not to spend your bottom dollar on a silly chocolate.
4. Being single allows you to choose how you want to live, go to the masjid at anytime you like, not being forbidden from doing so.
4- Being married means that you can have a real home, and someone to wave goodbye to you when you go to and hug you when you come back... from masjed, and never feeling too lonely and depressed to do so.
5. Being single means you have more time to wait for Allah to send you a good Muslim your way, by waiting, sometimes you actually get better end results in finding a suitable marriage partner.
5- Being married means that Allah has blessed you with a good muslim, and you have made a conscious decision to CHOOSE to be with a good loving muslim.
6. Being single allows you time to explore your own personality, and to buid "you" before you try to build a relationship based on "us".
6- Being married allows you to explore your own personality through the eyes of a soulmate, who is honest enough to show your mistakes, yet kind enough not to redicule them, yet understanding enough to love you just the same. And allows you to build yourself n the right track while getting feedback that indeed are, instead of assuming that you are on the right track on your own.
7. Staying single longer means you can jump at any opportunity that comes your way, and you can set your life up, buy a car, build a nice house, so you'll always have something to call your own in your own name no matter if you get married or not.
7- Being married means you can see twice the opportunities, make twice the money, buy two cars, build a nicer house, so you'll always have someone to whom you belong (and to all other earthly possessions, there are always pre-nups. )
8. Delaying marriage means more time that you can spend with your mom while she is still alive, instead of having to deal with a needy spouse who always wants you at home cooking and cleaning.
8- Being married means you have two mums to care for you, love you, and nurture you, and means more sons and daughters for them to respect them, love them, and take care of them, instead of being a single person being nagged to and upsetting your mother because you still didn't get married and there are no grandchildren and making her feel like a failure because you'll grow into an old spinster or bachelor!
9. Staying single a little longer will allow you the opportunities stay out with your best friends instead of having to always be at home having to deal with a grumpy nagging spouse.
9- Getting married will save you from wasting your time with friends who want to stay out and play, and might lead you astray and into haraam practices, or looking miserably at all the married people, and getting all of the distracting lustful thoughts, while a spouse at home will give you a lot of fun, not to mention lots and lots of halal sex!!
10. Last but not least, staying single means more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up!
10- Last but not least, being married quickly means you have more opportunities to seek knowledge and more time to build your Imaan up! Especially as there is someone who might share their income, someone to make your meals and make you a cup of tea to stay up and study, someone who can study WITH you and help you learn faster and better.
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Reason number 11- Have children when you're still young, who will be your joy as babies, your play as kids, your pride as youth, and be adults and support you when you are old and shriveling, carry you and look after you when you are sick, provide for you if your pension isn't good enough, call you to keep you company, give you grandchildren to be again more pride and joy before you are senile, and most importantly carry you to your grave in tears and be the ones asking God to forgive you long after you were buried and everyone else forgot about you.
(Written by he who is enjoying the wonderful bliss of proper marriage )
SubhaanAllah!! Sampharo your one lucky man. InshaAllah we all have great things from our marriages. InshaAllah i will have a beautiful marriage like yours. Ameen. And I know what your saying is true, and speaking about the advantages of marriage.
Nevertheless i can assure you i know enough marriages that is quite the opposite to what you and everyone wrote.
And thinking about it now, it really depends on the person you get married to and what is their motive to get married. They will either help you or destroy you. I know enough about marriage to wanting to get married but if i put across the points you did to my own sister, she would reply in contrast to yours.
And thinking about it now, it really depends on the person you get married to and what is their motive to get married. They will either help you or destroy you.
You got it!!! Somebody give Najm the grand prize!
Look, most things that are haraam have both harmful aspects as well as benefitial aspects, but the harmful aspects outweigh the benefits, like alcohol. Well, not having close open contact with members of the opposite sex until you get married as Islam dictates is much purer for us and takes away so much filth and evil, but it does mean that you have to work so much harder to understand enough about women, in order to be able to judge in the brief meetings and arrangements leading up to your engagement and marriage whether that is the right person for you or not.
Choosing the right person is crucial, and it is not at all easy for muslims in western countries because they can hardly bump into each other, and if they do, you're not supposed to communicate and have close relationships. So many times muslims just accept whomever is arranged through family and end up with hugely incompatible people.:blind:
You need to work a bit, talk your sister's head off and use every halal outlet to learn more about different women types, and what would a woman expect when you get married, what would they desire. Talk to different women in your family, learn what they do and what they like, and you'll start drawing patterns. Check with yourself what you like and how you want your life to be and start creating a vision for yourself. My wife doesn't do all the wonderful things because she is a pious god-fearing woman, she does all those wonderful things because she is a pious god-fearing woman who loves me and loves what I do for her and the way I treat her, and she is compatible to me because the things she does, I like, and it becomes a properly directed energy cycle that just grows. She knows how to wake me up, she knows how to get my attention, she knows how I like my space and things, and she is very comfortable doing all that. Guess what? She was divorced from a previous marriage that was the most horrible relationship she had. Relationships are not about bad people, it's about bad combinations.
Almost everybody loves chocolate, almost everybody loves a nice cool Coke, nobody will ever drink a chocolate soda!!!!
So make sure you choose a cherry for your cream cake, or suffer the consequences of fish and milk. :'(
When you have the right marriage, hold on tight and watch your life sail through in the right direction, and you'll be insha Allah reaping the benefits as you go along.
And most of all, say Al-Hamdolellah. A good compatible spouse is the biggest blessing you can ever have.
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