I encountered a situation last weekend. I went to the halal shop and instead of the normal brother serving this time, it was a sister. She was arab speaking I think probably Lebanon origin. I have only been to the shop 2, 3 times, with my husband and I was shocked at the women who came in there I only saw this time. Arabic speakers, they were dressed very improperly. The counter girl must have been around 21, 22 years old and had a halter top!!! I was amazed, she said salam and I felt a frown on my face automatically. I am so ashamed now.
It;s ignorance, i never did this before, but I thought, man your language is arabic, I am even deprived of this, you can understand all the ahdeeth and quraan first hand, and yet you stand here like this???
to make her feel guilty I went into the shop again, without my family and bought a Quraan and some islamic CDs for my kids. This time I tried to smile.
I wanted to ask all the hijabi and niqabis how would you treat a non hijabi muslim woman who dresses indecently.
Do you also feel sour? I normally feel very open minded and try and treat them well, so tey can be attracted towards hijab, but I feel so guilty now, I dont know why I was feeling kinda biased.
I was wondering what the etiquettes were for encountering non hijabi sisters...
You know if a women doesn't cover up it's not just her that will get questioned about it??
There's a hadith that says there will be four who are punished for a lady who doesn't wear hijaab, the father, her brother, her husband and her son. Sheikh Yusuf estes talks about it in this vid http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uUZ3gfoRl0c
We should treat all with respect, regardless of what they are wearing (or not wearing). I am friends with both hijabis and non-hijabis. I do not make that distinction. Although I know and understand that hijab is not a "personal choice," I do not feel that anyone has the right to judge anyone else based on the clothes that they are wearing.
We should be mindful, as well, that simply wearing a scarf on our heads does not make us "perfect Muslims," or for that matter, even "good Muslims." Hijab does not act like a "fitnah shield" or anything, and we can still get up to bad things while wearing it.
I know Muslim women who do not cover, yet pray five times a day, fast every day in Ramadhan, do lots of charity, etc. And I also know hijabis who smoke, hardly pray, complain when Ramadhan rolls around, backbite about their friends, etc.
As I like to say, "hijab takes iman, but iman does not take hijab."
For whatever reason, some women choose not to cover, and we should not judge them. We should be their friends, and treat them with kindness. Maybe in being their friends, we can help to inspire them to also wear hijab, inshAllah. Every person has their struggles, and for some women, they struggle with hijab. Maybe they desperately want to cover, but need some encouragement. We can offer that encouragement, inshAllah.
By being cruel or judgmental, we are encouraging them to never cover, because they may have it in their minds, "I never want to be like those sisters who think that they are better than everybody else because of a scrap of fabric on their heads and long sleeves!"
Be very kind to your sisters, regardless of their dress.
If I meet a Muslimah who is a non-hijabi.I will advise her to wear it and go through the Quran and Ahadith.I will not force her to wear.Because I know forcing has no result.When you tell her the advantages of wearing it, she will definitely wear it.
I'm sorry but a brother saying this to a sister will mean very little. It's our hijabi sisters that should be educating the non-hijabi sisters about the importance of hijab.
And no, she will not definitely wear it in all cases when presented with proof. This issue is more delicate to the sisters than you realize; it is not a simple matter.
I'm sorry but a brother saying this to a sister will mean very little. It's our hijabi sisters that should be educating the non-hijabi sisters about the importance of hijab.
And no, she will not definitely wear it in all cases when presented with proof. This issue is more delicate to the sisters than you realize; it is not a simple matter.
I agree completely!
Those who willingly want to ignore the hijab will ignore it...if they want nothing to do with it...others might contemplate it and come around to it sooner or later.
*Without Allah, without Islam, life would be meaningless. If I've ever learned patience, it's because of this. Alhamdulillah...*
I encountered a situation last weekend. I went to the halal shop and instead of the normal brother serving this time, it was a sister. She was arab speaking I think probably Lebanon origin. I have only been to the shop 2, 3 times, with my husband and I was shocked at the women who came in there I only saw this time. Arabic speakers, they were dressed very improperly. The counter girl must have been around 21, 22 years old and had a halter top!!! I was amazed, she said salam and I felt a frown on my face automatically. I am so ashamed now.
It;s ignorance, i never did this before, but I thought, man your language is arabic, I am even deprived of this, you can understand all the ahdeeth and quraan first hand, and yet you stand here like this???
to make her feel guilty I went into the shop again, without my family and bought a Quraan and some islamic CDs for my kids. This time I tried to smile.
I wanted to ask all the hijabi and niqabis how would you treat a non hijabi muslim woman who dresses indecently.
Do you also feel sour? I normally feel very open minded and try and treat them well, so tey can be attracted towards hijab, but I feel so guilty now, I dont know why I was feeling kinda biased.
I was wondering what the etiquettes were for encountering non hijabi sisters...
JazakAllah
Oh my sister I understand your feeling.. But as they said in the previous posts, Arabic people are not necessarily to be good Muslims, and unfortunately we see this everyday.. I usually see in my university some non-hejabi girls who are Muslims! And as you said, they understand the holy Quran and Hadiths very well and they memorize some of them by heart.. But some people are simply fractious! You said that you are even deprived of reading the original Arabic verses and hadiths, but let me tell you that you are not deprived insha Allah my dear.. Allah has guided you to the straight path, and you wear hejab which some Arabic Muslims are deprived of the reward of wearing it!
In each country you can see people with good or bad morals regardless of their nationality.. It's right that the Holy Quran is Arabic, but Islam is global and you have the translations, and you are better than many Arabic people.. This shows us how Allah is The All-Just.. It's fair when all people are likely to obey Allah or not regardless whether they are Arabs or not.. Bukhari for example is not Arabic although, as we all know, he is the best scholar of Hadiths..
As I told you, I see some Muslim girls without hejabs in the university, but here usually their clothes are not very indecently.. I always try to treat them nicely and advise them either directly or indirectly, depending on the situation.. But still in a nice way because this encourages them to be nice and good Muslims.. I feel that if a non-hejabi girl saw a bad treatment from me to her, she might think that I am not happy with my hejab, I might be forced to wear it, and I am grudging her because she is free! Some girls think in this way, believe me! Therefore, I should show her that I am VERY happy with my hejab, I am living a very nice life, and I am enjoying my time with the all including her.. It's very influential if I show her with a smile that she is doing a bad thing, and she is deprived of the happiness that I feel :sunny:
and bought a Quraan and some islamic CDs for my kids
May Allah protect your kids & make them true Muslims insha Allah
We can't make excuses for those who choose not to wear hijaab but we can give them dawah without being patronising/ "lecturing" them/ acting superior than them. We can give them dawah by our actions/speech etc.
Since I've been at uni I have seen so many sisters reform themselves masha'Allah and resort to modest clothing/hijaab. Some do it all togehter and get rid of everything immodest replacing with everything modest and some do it in a sequence ie loose clothing first then move on to the head covering etc.
In a perfect world yes we should all be covering ourselves up but that isn't really the case. We tend to change our exterior when we feel ready and understand why it is a necessity to cover up and obey the orders of our Lord.
Undermining sisters and looking down on the ones that dont dress like a Muslimah can actually turn them away instead we should treat them as we would treat any other practicing pious sister ...
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