I am unsure if it is unacceptable to chat online with members of the opposite sex. I suppose I'm Christian and never thought of such conversations as forbidden. However, I want to let the ladies know that it has been my experience (over the last five years) that the majority of men on Christian and Muslim dating sites tend to lure women into IM chatting with the intention of "cybersex". They typically start out very kind and respectful before conducting themself in a sexual manner.
I also want to point out that this has been the experience of ALL my girlfriends. I guess I'm just warnnig any young females who have honest intentions.
That has happened to me alot of times first they are all nice and then they ask for sex!And you know the sad things is sometimes it would be ''muslims''.
You know thats ridiculous and uncalled for.
I mean why would somebody do that?!
And i just say,'' you know i dont have time for that...
Last edited by Tasneem; 03-09-2006 at 04:22 PM.
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I'm a teacher in a university, so it's OK to teach a class with both males and females right? I think from the conversation it would be fine but I'm not sure.
That has happened to me alot of times first they are all nice and then they ask for sex!And you know the sad things is sometimes it would be ''muslims''.
You know thats ridiculous and uncalled for.
I mean why would somebody do that?!
How's that ? May Allah guide all Muslims in the path of the enlightened !
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Chatting with members of opposite sex, whether they are Muslims or non-Muslims, personally face to face, or on phone or chat lines all fall in the same category. The haram of it is haram, and the halal of it is halal.
Islam does not allow Muslims to be befriending members of opposite sex for the sake of companionship or for casual conversations; it has been forbidden because of its risks; it may entail isolation, lead to unlawful flirting, and engender unlawful thoughts, desires or lusts.
However, occasional, serious, business-like conversations with the members of the opposite sex are considered lawful, just as they are lawful when done face to face so long as one observes the Islamic ethics of interaction.
Islam teaches that as Muslims we must shun not only that which is clearly haram, but also everything that creates agitation or doubt or restlessness in our souls. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Sin is that which causes agitation in your heart or mind; whereas virtue is that which the heart is content and at peace about!” (Reported by Ahmad)
So engaging in unnecessary chatting may lead to unforeseen consequences. It may also engender doubts and suspicions in our minds as well in the minds of others. So we are best advised to shun them altogether in the first place in order to safeguard our religion and honor. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Halal is clear; haram is clear, but there are certain cases which are dubious or doubtful; whoever shuns them safeguards his religion and honor; whoever falls into them risks falling into haram like a shepherd who lets his herd graze around the forbidden territory, for it may thus encroach upon the forbidden territory!” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.islam.ca
Now my imam told me that the internet maybe my best option. Although I live in an area where there are not many muslims, I was very surprised to get this advice from him. Insha'Allah I will have a more indepth conversation with him about this,
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