Inshallah if anyone could help me out with this problem I will be very greatful. The problem is a very complicated one and is causing me a great deal of stress. My brother has been married for almost two years now to a very beautiful girl who is now 21 years old. Since our parents live in my home country, my brother and I are the only two of my family members here in the United States. So we are very close. Anyways, I used to visit his house about once every week to hang out and play with my little nephew. Due to the nature of his job my brother has is gone for about a week every month due to traveling, and since he didn't want to leave his wife and baby home alone he asked me to stay with them while he is gone. I was happy to help him out and things were going smoothly until a few months ago. One day when I was at my brothers house and he was away I was writting a term paper for one of my university classes when my brothers wife tried to seduce me. Anyways I refused her advances but she kept trying to seduce me many times after that. Even when she is breast feeding her baby she will expose her breasts infront of me to gage my reaction. I told my brother that I can no longer stay at his house and he wanted to know why so I gave him a fake excuse. But now all I can think about is what happened there at his house. The problem is that I want to tell my brother about this but I'm afraid that if I do he will divorce her and I don't want to cause that to happen. Also, my brother really loves his wife and thinks that she can't do any wrong.
k first off it wasnt dawood's fault. he was simply in the wrong place - that happens 2 all of us one in a while.
so he has committed no crime
however, his sister in law has. but, there are probably countless reasons for her behaviour. if it were me i would try and talk to my brother. i understand the implications of this and that they would be extreme. however, if you truly love your borther and wish no harm 2 come to him then talk to him about it. dont start saying, however, oh she came on to me the other day - that wont work.
start the convo off nice and smoothly. i nfact, make dua for your sister in law so that she remians on the right track (btw, dua's do work )
When was the last time she tried 2 come on to you?
if she tries it again then you should say that it isnt right - she is already married and has a kid and the husband is ur bro...that is really serious neways and could be considered an offense. it is also seriously haram that she even think about it.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
[QUOTE=metsudaistwice]Brother you should never have beem in the same room as this sister, whenever there is a male and female in the same room Shaytan is the third person among those two. The Prophet (saw) did not even allow his wife Aisha(ra) to be alone withher own father Abu Bakr(ra).[/QUOTE]
^^ I've never heard that before as well..I'd like to see the Hadith for that too
"If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow"
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"Indeed Islamic History is not written except with the blood of the Shuhadaa (Martyrs), except with the stories of the Shuhadaa and except with the examples of the Shuhadaa".
Whilst we are not scholars...i would ask myself..if i was that husband, would i want to know if my wife isnt acting proper?? What if i as a her husband get deseases from her? if she came on to my brother, who else would she give the come on? who is next? my father? my best friend, neighbour? Normally it is the betrayed person who is the last to find out.
Br Dawood, put yourself in your brother's position and see if you would want to know about this. I sure would want to know.
I don't think she's been with other guys. I think she's been lacking attention from her husband, especially after the baby. The next closest male being her brother-in-law, so she became attached to him. I think you need to tell your brother to spend more time with her, she has rights on him. I don't think you should tell him what happened (especially if she is housebound and rarely leaves the house, there's no reason for more undue suspicion). I think you should tell his wife that she was "mistaken" and that she's just missing her husband - that way you'll save her some embarrassment, and help her get close again with her husband.
bro metsudaistwice, when hyprocrites accursed Aish (may allah bless her) of adultery, Prophet allowed her to goto Abu Bakar's (may allah bless him) house...is there any authentic hadith for that statement of yours?
Firstly you should not be alone with her as you have however innocently encouraged her by over familiarity.
DO NOT tell your brother what has happened. Excuse yourself by telling your brother that he should be giving his wife more attention and you are getting in the way. This is the truth.
If we are honest it is often a failing of us men that we do not give our wives enough attention. Maybe more time together will either highlight the devide between them and they can then do something about it or it will draw them together.
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