need help urgently

وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَائِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاء بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُوْلِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاء وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

024.031 And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.


Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 6, Book 60, Hadith # 282
Narrated Safiya bint Shaiba (Radhiallaahu Ánha) "Aa'ishah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) used to say: "When (the Verse): "They should draw their veils over their necks and bosoms," was revealed, (the ladies) cut their waist sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut pieces.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 1, Book 8, Hadith # 368
Narrated 'Aa'ishah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) used to offer the Fajr prayer and some believing women covered with their veiling sheets used to attend the Fajr prayer with him and then they would return to their homes unrecognized . Shaikh Ibn Uthaimin in tafseer of this hadeeth explains "This hadeeth makes it clear that the Islamic dress is concealing of the entire body as explained in this hadeeth. Only with the complete cover including the face and hands can a woman not be recognized. This was the understanding and practice of the SAHÂBAH and they were the best of group, the noblest in the sight of Allaah (swt) with the most complete Eemaan and noblest of characters. so if the practice of the women of the sahabah was to wear the complete veil then how can we deviate from their path? (Ibn Uthaymeen in the book "Hijaab" page # 12 and 13)

sorry to hear that sister, if he doesnt understand...even after you explaining to him (that aayah and Ahadeeth that brother Abdullah gave are excellent for that) then i think all you can do is pray for him.

Oh and one more thing...how about asking your mother? or explaining to her why you wish to wear the hijab? I'm sure you'll find it easier Insha'Allah

Read my signature insha'Allah by the way...

format_quote Originally Posted by Abida

My mother is for that but theres no way she can have influence on him. She told me to wait a while and when I go to Sarajevo on university to do it. But Im really scared for me and for him. He never went to salat or even mosque. And a few my friends have the saim issues. People here hate that so much and theyre telling theyre muslims? Everybody is saying i can do it when i grow old or when i get married but thats not right. Every day Im scared for myself, when i will be asked for that... every girl in my town has that problem so they all get married or do it on force. I have boyfriend hes in islam too but he cant help me so much.. SubhAllah..

sis, i'm sorry I just saw this post...

I'm having the same problem with my family about observing the niqaab, whilst they havent opposed me outrightly, I know they'll have a problem with it. But...I would never let my family get in the way of my hijaab...if you went out one day wearing it...what is the worst that could happen?

format_quote Originally Posted by Abida

I dont understand what ure trying to say..?

Sorry sis...which part wasnt clear? I didnt mean to confuse you

i believe there was just a simple misunderstanding on the thread and that things are now back on track.

format_quote Originally Posted by Abida

What I do wrong?

Nothing sister lets just concentrate on you wearing the hijab, Masha'Allah its great that you're trying to...Just one question, does anybody in your family wear it?

format_quote Originally Posted by Abida

My grandmother wears it...
On my mothers side everybodys in islam, but fathers not so.

ok Insha'Allah, maybe you need to sit down and have a chat with your father, explain to him how important it is for you as a Muslim woman to observe the hijaab, the evidences for it being comulsory in Islam and how determined you are to wear it...when he sees your sheer will and determination...i cant see him refusing to let you. But I do know that many sisters go through this same thing...my advice is probably not very helpful as i cant relate to your problem, May Allah help you sis

Thats sad to hear sis, and I'm hoping somebody with more knowledge can help you further, but how can covering yourself, a fundamental of faith be seen as extreme? I just cant understand, if that was me i'd go to my father and tell him politely that i'm going to begin observing hijaab and there's nothing he can do about it :X

SubhanAllah! sis where abouts do you come from? Dont be specific by the way if you'd rather not. But isnt there any support for Muslimahs? at least that way you might be able to talk to sisters who are experiencing the same difficulties?

...and neither can you expect it to be easy, but obstacles in life are there for a reason, they're there to test and push to the limit your determination. insha'Allah persevere and you'll reap the rewards! In the meantime pray for Allah to make your task easy. May Allah bless you. Ameen. FiAmanAllah