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    i dont feel welcome at the mosque :( (OP)


    salaam,

    hey, i am a revert...of 6 yrs. i dont really like people too much though.
    i have started going to jum'ah for the last 4-5 weeks. but i feel kinda like awkward.

    can someone please reinforce my reasons why i need to integrate into a community??

    please.

    just load up the advice on me.... dont ask too many questions about why i feel this way or what has made me this way or what why who.......

    just load up the advice.... positive reinforcement of why i have to get in with a community.

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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

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    Glo I reverted 6 years ago, I started to take it seriously 1 and half yr ago but mosque was v strange concept for me. My wife seems to be following my lead and has started praying namaz, eating halal etc All praise to Allah for this, duas work what can I say. My kids wont go mosque for 2 yrs but they half prayer mats at home and they pray with me whenever they want, I dont ask them, theyask me. I dont want to push them, but its a dad son thing anyway at moment. I pray for them to come close to Islam of their choice. They also want to come running with me !!! btw their prayer mats are infant size and the cutest things you ever will see. Cant seem to rep u as much as u deserve Glo but thoughts there
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    Glo, there 4 and 3,hahahaha, I dont take them running with me sister. God gave you the gift of being blissfully unaware of ur genius funny streak. Proper laughed when I saw ur post, got picture of myself in military uniform screaming at them to do pressups in the rain:laugh::laugh:
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by TKTony View Post
    Glo, there 4 and 3,hahahaha, I dont take them running with me sister. God gave you the gift of being blissfully unaware of ur genius funny streak. Proper laughed when I saw ur post, got picture of myself in military uniform screaming at them to do pressups in the rain:laugh::laugh:
    Haha!
    Well, my husband might call me naive (perhaps even a bit dippy ) ... although personally I prefer the genius funny image!

    But to be honest, I wsn't imagine army style drills ... more like little jogs around the block.

    What kind of distances do you run?
    (And now I promise to no longer take this thread off topic ... :X)
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by glo View Post
    Haha!
    Well, my husband might call me naive (perhaps even a bit dippy ) ... although personally I prefer the genius funny image!

    But to be honest, I wsn't imagine army style drills ... more like little jogs around the block.

    What kind of distances do you run?
    (And now I promise to no longer take this thread off topic ... :X)
    when i trained tkd i woul do 3 to 6 miles on top of training. then i trained for 1/2 mthon in leeds and did ok, (used to smoke), now trying to find some way forward, have done fell runs and loved em but am easing back into it at mo. Finding time for distance run is not easy for me, but I want to train for mthon. missed out on London virgin for next yr, wld have liked to run for islamic relief. Need some sort of direction with it now as seem to be trundling round park aimlessly. ps, get to mosque op
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    just smile and people will feel more comfortable to took to you and it would be good aslo to say salaam alaikum
    ...... wish you the best
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    I mean people will be more friendly and they will talk to you and hopefully you will find some friends.... I always talk to people how i used to see their faces and say salaam alaikum for them so maybe other people will talk to you and be your friend if you give them a chance .......
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    Find those who look like u n jst wasap them ..I mean Salam them.:

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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    It seems that some people instead of going to a house of worhsip to pray and worship God are going to socialize instead. I have seen this in many churchs as well sadly.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    tho I said th above^in a jokey way, It's a reality in our Mosques. Everyones talks to their own kind, basically won't give a second look let alone salaam those who look different (not from their country/culture).

    I feel bad for u, we as Muslims we are mirrors for one another, I can't believe that no one sees that u feel this way. Don't brothas come up to u, ask u ur name?

    Have u tried a different mosque?
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    i am in my 3rd week of going mosque now. i am only white face there ! u can feel unwelcome or you can smile and suddenly be surrounded by pearly white teeth. when ppl see u r their to worship Allah they will say hello tou. if u want to feel friendly go to mosque runners and they will get u a buddy to ease u in.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by ragdollcat1982 View Post
    It seems that some people instead of going to a house of worhsip to pray and worship God are going to socialize instead. I have seen this in many churchs as well sadly.
    Well, there is a place for people to socialise and support each other in places of worship - although perhaps it should be the main reason for attending. I especially feel that about the elderly and the disabled, who may not easily feel welcomed in other places.

    Today I was working in the church yard, pulling weeds and maintaining the flower beds.
    A lady with back problems so profound that she uses crutches came over and said that she would love to help me. Now I know that she will probably only ever be able to sit on a chair and give me advice - but I greatly appreciate her input and I told her so.
    If nothing else it may give us the opportunity to chat, talk about our faith and God, and perhaps pray. (Plus, I don't know much about flowers, so I could use somebody who can tell me what to do! )

    People attend places of worship for all kinds of reasons. Whatever we may think of their reasons, at least they are in a place where they may learn about and connect with God.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    I live on an island in the Pacific, and as far as I know, I'm the only muslim on the island. There is no community to join here, but that has not stopped me from being a muslim. Fortunately, the internet connects me to many muslims, and mediums such as the LI Islamic formum are extremely educational and informative. The moderators here have set me on the correct path many times. Make sure to advantage of the educational resources here. They are excellent! If there were a community of muslims here, I would certainly be interested in joining, but my prayers to Allah, striving to do good and to please Allah are my primary concern and the most satisfying aspects of being a muslim. I live in a community of people, and being a good muslim among them, even though they are not muslims, is probably just as good for my soul as being good to other muslims would be. I have certainly changed many people's opinions of what islam is, and I have also made them curious to know more about islam because they see it bringing peace and contentment to my life. Being a good example as a muslim is a good way to begin attracting other potential muslims...which in turn could create a community.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by Al Qalam View Post
    I live on an island in the Pacific, and as far as I know, I'm the only muslim on the island. There is no community to join here, but that has not stopped me from being a muslim. Fortunately, the internet connects me to many muslims, and mediums such as the LI Islamic formum are extremely educational and informative. The moderators here have set me on the correct path many times. Make sure to advantage of the educational resources here. They are excellent! If there were a community of muslims here, I would certainly be interested in joining, but my prayers to Allah, striving to do good and to please Allah are my primary concern and the most satisfying aspects of being a muslim. I live in a community of people, and being a good muslim among them, even though they are not muslims, is probably just as good for my soul as being good to other muslims would be. I have certainly changed many people's opinions of what islam is, and I have also made them curious to know more about islam because they see it bringing peace and contentment to my life. Being a good example as a muslim is a good way to begin attracting other potential muslims...which in turn could create a community.
    wow, that is an awesome job u got there brother, taking Islam to the islands.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by Al Qalam View Post
    I live on an island in the Pacific, and as far as I know, I'm the only muslim on the island. There is no community to join here, but that has not stopped me from being a muslim. Fortunately, the internet connects me to many muslims, and mediums such as the LI Islamic formum are extremely educational and informative. The moderators here have set me on the correct path many times. Make sure to advantage of the educational resources here. They are excellent! If there were a community of muslims here, I would certainly be interested in joining, but my prayers to Allah, striving to do good and to please Allah are my primary concern and the most satisfying aspects of being a muslim. I live in a community of people, and being a good muslim among them, even though they are not muslims, is probably just as good for my soul as being good to other muslims would be. I have certainly changed many people's opinions of what islam is, and I have also made them curious to know more about islam because they see it bringing peace and contentment to my life. Being a good example as a muslim is a good way to begin attracting other potential muslims...which in turn could create a community.

    u absolutely amazed me. Alhamdulillah, such person as the likes of u should exist in every corner of the world.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    when i read this post it semed to apply to me as well, but in my case im not allowed to go to our mosque, as women are not allowed but i have been told they are allowing women in on a sunday for study for a couple of hours, but not during prayer times, i dont understand there rule, and without travelling to other towns and cities i dont know how to find a mosque that will welcome me, i really feel alone most of the time, i try to explain this to my husband but he really doesnt seem to see where i am coming from, im also a revert, it will be a year in august, i also know women dont have to attend mosque, but i want too, i feel almost incomplete if that doesnt sound crazy
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by jennifer sky View Post
    when i read this post it semed to apply to me as well, but in my case im not allowed to go to our mosque, as women are not allowed but i have been told they are allowing women in on a sunday for study for a couple of hours, but not during prayer times, i dont understand there rule, and without travelling to other towns and cities i dont know how to find a mosque that will welcome me, i really feel alone most of the time, i try to explain this to my husband but he really doesnt seem to see where i am coming from, im also a revert, it will be a year in august, i also know women dont have to attend mosque, but i want too, i feel almost incomplete if that doesnt sound crazy
    mashaallah, another revert, alhamdulillah. why not put a poster in mosque and see if any other sisters want to get together in houses to pray
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    Is your husband a Muslim too, Jennifer?

    Welcome to LI, by the way.
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    format_quote Originally Posted by TKTony View Post
    mashaallah, another revert, alhamdulillah. why not put a poster in mosque and see if any other sisters want to get together in houses to pray
    While women are recommended to pray at home, can they be prohibted from attending the mosque? I thought all were welcome ?:confused: Dont mosqu have seperate areas for men and women?
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    Re: i dont feel welcome at the mosque :(

    ^no, they can't be forbidden/prevented.
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