Salamoalaykum, I am a muslim convert. For the past 4 years alhamdullah, I have been learning Islam and struggling as a new muslim. At work there is a muslim gentleman who I have become particularly fond of, my modesty and shyness causes me to not even look at him more than what is necessary during work and to just as seldom speak to him. Yet, in these past weeks I have known him I have fell deeply in love with him, I found out his attends an Islamic university overseas and has memorized the entire Quran. His manners are immaculate. I love him so much and wish to pursue a relationship, however, it must be purely Islamic. I am afraid that my shyness and extreme modesty has made him think that I do not like him. After we greet eachother I do all that is possible to either turn my back and avoid him because of my shyness. How can I send him the right message without it being 1) haram and 2) culturally wrong (he is egyptian) or 3) strange.
Jazaka Allah khyran
I have no doubt you know what you are talking about.. perhaps a grievous offense was carried out against the sheikh by writing something in his name that he didn't write.. but I like to give Muslims the benefit of the doubt.. perhaps it an honest mistake.. either way the fatwa itself seems sound without the scholar's seal of approval.. and there are many other good scholars out there..
Text without context is pretext If your opponent is of choleric temperament, seek to irritate him
salamoalaykum guys, i have been following your posts closing and taking them all in. wow alhamdulilah each response helps me in its own way! its so great to have such a supportive community...
well bad news.. today i was informed that he was 'engaged', after feeling rather disappointed, I realized that maybe this is false. I am not sure if this was the wisest decision, but I told another girl at work of my fondness for the polite gentleman toay. She told me I was in bad luck because he was engaged... yet, the gentleman does not wear any ring. But alhamdullah if he has found someone special may Allah bless them in this life in the next life.
Still, however, I am not sure of the legitimacy of this claim. I think I will make istikhara prayer tonight, inshallah, and may Allah guide me.
Thanks so much for your support guys, I really intend to keep everything halal and inshAllah I will be guided and increased in faith.
awww... not to worry ukhtee InshaAllah you'll find a better person. You'll always be in my duas
p/s: good guy is always taken. Well...first come first serve...huhuhu
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
salamoalaykum guys, i have been following your posts closing and taking them all in. wow alhamdulilah each response helps me in its own way! its so great to have such a supportive community...
well bad news.. today i was informed that he was 'engaged', after feeling rather disappointed, I realized that maybe this is false. I am not sure if this was the wisest decision, but I told another girl at work of my fondness for the polite gentleman toay. She told me I was in bad luck because he was engaged... yet, the gentleman does not wear any ring. But alhamdullah if he has found someone special may Allah bless them in this life in the next life.
Still, however, I am not sure of the legitimacy of this claim. I think I will make istikhara prayer tonight, inshallah, and may Allah guide me.
Thanks so much for your support guys, I really intend to keep everything halal and inshAllah I will be guided and increased in faith.
Jazakallahukhair
Ramadan kareem, Salam
Tell me about it. I tried to approach a very nice Muslim girl who turns out... just had her nikkah.... lol. Yea I was deeply dissapointed, then angry, then remembered that everything happens for a reason. I prayed to Allah to grant me a good wife and I am sure He has heard me and is doing things His way.
Don't worry. Every time you think they are the perfect one then a couple months later or next year, a better one comes along.
salamoalaykum guys, i have been following your posts closing and taking them all in. wow alhamdulilah each response helps me in its own way! its so great to have such a supportive community...
well bad news.. today i was informed that he was 'engaged', after feeling rather disappointed, I realized that maybe this is false. I am not sure if this was the wisest decision, but I told another girl at work of my fondness for the polite gentleman toay. She told me I was in bad luck because he was engaged... yet, the gentleman does not wear any ring. But alhamdullah if he has found someone special may Allah bless them in this life in the next life.
Still, however, I am not sure of the legitimacy of this claim. I think I will make istikhara prayer tonight, inshallah, and may Allah guide me.
Thanks so much for your support guys, I really intend to keep everything halal and inshAllah I will be guided and increased in faith.
Jazakallahukhair
Ramadan kareem, Salam
MashaAllah sis, I pray Allah increases you in knowledge, imaan and goodness. Ameen.
Muslims needn't wear engagement rings etc. So the absence of one doesn't mean anything. You should have asked the girl if she knows for sure or just assumes he is engaged. It's better to be sure. Why not confide in someone you can rely on and ask them to tell him that someone (no names mentioned) is interested in him and wants to know if he is spoken for?
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Tell me about it. I tried to approach a very nice Muslim girl who turns out... just had her nikkah.... lol. Yea I was deeply dissapointed, then angry, then remembered that everything happens for a reason. I prayed to Allah to grant me a good wife and I am sure He has heard me and is doing things His way.
Don't worry. Every time you think they are the perfect one then a couple months later or next year, a better one comes along.
(though that last one was VERY pretty )
lol aw (funny the way you put it)
May Allah replace the 'one that got away' with something better. Ameen
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