parent troubles

My parents are treating me in a similar way but all I can tell ya is to just be patient and take it with time. When I first started wearing hijab my parents said they didn't want to be seen anywhere in public with me because of it. My father actually yells at me for dressing modestly. Very strange to me since most fathers would be excited to see their daughter cover up. But I just kept wearing it and then eventually they stopped pestering me about it as much. I still get some comments here and there but it's not nearly as bad as it was before.

Just continue to learn and follow the religion and they'll recognize the change in you and see that it is not bad at all. It's a tough road, because they're your parents and you don't want to hurt them but you also don't want to disobey Allah. Just be patient, make lots of dua and keep up with the prayer. That's what is helping me get through. Let them know you love them and just keep doing what you need to.

Also, is there an MSA where you go to school? Before I reverted to Islam, I joined the MSA and I made some Muslim friends that way. If not remember you have us here too.

May Allah strengthen you and keep you on the right path. Ameen.

thank you very much brothers and sisters, Aprender there is no MSA where i currently am, only a masjid nearby which is not really nearby but have plans about visiting now after thinking about possible ways to and fro since I cannot drive yet.
Insha'Allah we will be guided (thank you all for advice and for those who may post ahead of time!)

Brother,

Masha Allah good advice has already been given. Stay strong brother. May Allah's help and guidance be with you in every moment of your life. Ameen





General advice from Prophet Muhammad (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) when you are in distress or suffering from anxiety:

In hadith #599 narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas in Sunan Abu Dawood, The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If anyone continually asks pardon, Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress, and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide for him from where he did not reckon.



When in distress or difficulty or sorrow:

Source for this dua subsection: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, no 128
1. Ibn ‘Abbas reported, “The Prophet, peace be upon him, at times of sorrow and grief used to supplicate, La ilaha illa Allah Al-’Azim, Al-’Alim, la ilaha illa Allah, Rabbul ‘arshil ‘Azim, la ilaha illa Allahu, Rabbus-Samawati wa rabbul ardi wa rabbul ‘arshi karim (There is no god but Allah, the Mighty, the Forbearing, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the mighty throne, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the heavens and the earth, and the Lord of the throne of honor)’.”
Source: Bukhari and Muslim.
2. Anas said that when the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate, “Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace)."
Source: Tirmidhi
3. Abu Hurairah reported that whenever the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would raise his head to the sky and supplicate, “Subhan-Allah al-’Azim (glory be to Allah, the Mighty).” And when he implored seriously and strongly, he would say, “Ya Hayyu, Ya Qayyum (O the Living, the Eternal One).”
Source: Tirmidhi


4. Abu Bakrah reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “The supplications of distress are,‘Allahumma rahmataka arju, fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘ain, wa aslah li sha’ni kullahu, la ilaha illa anta (O Allah, I hope for Your mercy, so give me not over to my self even for as little as wink of an eye, and set right all my affairs, there is no god but You).”
Source: Abu Daw’ud



5. Asma, daughter of ‘Amais, reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, asked her, “Shall I tell you words that you may say in times of pain or distress. These are,‘Allah, Allah, Rabbi la ushriku bihi shai’an (Allah, Allah, my Lord, I associate none with Him).” Another narration says that these words should be said seven times.
Source: Abu Daw’ud


6. Sa’d ibn Waqas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “The supplication made by the Companion of the Fish (Prophet Yunus) in the belly of the fish was, ‘La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minadh-dhalimin (there is no god but You, You are far exalted and above all weaknesses, and I was indeed the wrongdoer)’. If any Muslim supplicates in these words, his supplication will be accepted.”
In another report we read, “I know words that will cause Allah to remove one’s distress. These are the words (of supplication) of my brother Yunus, peace be upon him.”
Source: Tirmidhi



7. Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “If any servant of Allah afflicted with distress or grief makes this supplication, his supplication will be accepted: ‘O Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of your maidservant. My forehead is in Your hand. Your command conceming me prevails, and Your decision concerning me is just. I call upon You by every one of the beautiful names by which You have described Yourself, or which You have revealed in Your book, or have taught anyone of Your creatures, or which You have chosen to keep in the knowledge of the unseen with You, to make the Qur’an the delight of my heart, the light of my breast, and remover of my griefs, sorrows, and afflictions‘.” A supplication in these words will be answered. Allah will remove one’s affliction and replace it with joy and happiness.
Source: Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban



8. Anas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to supplicate, “O Allah, there is no ease except what You make easy, and you alone can turn a difficulty into ease.” (Ibn As-sinni)
Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 4, #131



9. Allah’s Apostle used to say at the time of difficulty, “None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Majestic, the Most Forbearing. None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Lord of the Heavens and the Lord of the Honourable Throne.”
Source: narrated by Ibn Abbas in Sahih Bukhari, volume 9, #526.




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After much thinking and coming to an apparent stone wall with my parents, i decided that i will wait around 1 year when i shall be leaving home for university that i can truly begin my conversion to islam since i must respect the rules of the house, but also because i am denied many chances to explain or to try and reason when talking with my parents, and it would not be true faith.

We enjoined man to show kindness to his parents, for with much pain his mother bears him, and he is not weaned before he is two years of age. We said: ‘Give thanks to Me and to your parents. To me shall all things return. But if they press you to serve besides Me deities you know nothing of, do not obey them. Be kind to them in this world, and follow the path of those who turn to Me. To Me you shall return, and I will declare to you all that you have done. Surah . 31:14-15

Thanks a lot brothers and sisters, I continue praying and adhering to the teachings of the qu'ran and Islam, and really i cannot deny that I have not felt this positive for many years. Praise be to Allah.

SubhanAllah , just be persistent in your faith without showing much to your parents, do not indulge in arguments with them, just tell them politely if they ask about something, otherwise do not even mention anything about islam. Be happy, smiling infront of them, be obedient and they are bound to notice the nice changes in you InshAllah, and that will make them think over their reaction.