Cut..CUT..=Yes/No?!

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Hope all of you are in the best of health Inshaa Allaah.

I know quite a bit of people that self harm, e.g. cutting themselves with razors/knife/scissors, etc.

I just wanted 2 see how common this is, like a survey thing.

Could you please help me by voting on the poll above, its completely anonymous!

Thanks

P.S. Can you please vote if you haven't self harmed as well.

P.P.S. Mods, I am not encouraging this! Just wanted to see the number of people that do/dont do this.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

does it just have to be with the mentioned

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does it just have to be with the mentioned

Nope sis, any type of self harm.

[nadia85]

intresting poll I have voted

[nevesirth]

when i get frustrated or mad, i dont feel like harming myself, rather i feel like venting it out on someone else.:grumbling

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Alhamdulillaah, thats kool brother. Could you please vote on the poll

[gladTidings]

Self harm really frustrates me! I dont understand the logic behind it. I think too many youths are unaware of the long term damage and the fact that its sinful. Surely the scars will bring back any pain you tried to supress by self harm. Why do it?!!?

[nadia85]

self haram is a way out for some ppl when they dont now what else to do it s like a relife something they have control over if they have no control of anything else in there life

[nevesirth]

i dont think its an intentional thing, its something those who indulge in it cant help. its mostly caused by psycho-emotional stress when u feel no one seems to understand u or no one hears ur cries. at times it might be a craving for attention. no one enjoys harming self, although there are some sado masochists who actually enjoy self infliction of harm.

from wht im seeing in the polls so far, it seems sisters are more prone to self harm, seems the brothers have an optional way of releasing pent up frustrations or maybe they just know how to control their emotions better!!!!!

[nadia85]

well said bro nevesirth

[gladTidings]

So the pain from self harm is like a relief/distraction? SubhanAllah. I still dont get it lol. I feel very strongly about it because a member of my family has been self harming herself quite deeply...I try to understand it, but its something I can never make sense of. We guard the amanah of others with our life, but our body is an amanah from the Almighty, surely we should do everything to protect it.

[nadia85]

I think only the person who self harams can really understand why they do it and mayb they have a low imman but lets not judge them

[nevesirth]

when u start inflicting self harm, it at times becomes addictive. so when ever u get upset, ur brain sends signals instructing u to resort to self inflicting of harm.

and i feel some pple indulge in this because they feel tht they are worthless and they also hate themselves. suicide is kind of an extreme and advanced form of this illness. its a serious chronic illness

[nadia85]

why r u not suprised there r more sisters who self harm?

[S.A.]

So the pain from self harm is like a relief/distraction? SubhanAllah. I still dont get it lol. I feel very strongly about it because a member of my family has been self harming herself quite deeply...I try to understand it, but its something I can never make sense of. Your imaan would have to be pretty low to get that far. We guard the amanah of others with our life, but our body is an amanah from the Almighty, surely we should do everything to protect it.

:bravo:




We have so much in common sis pearl

[Woodrow]

Self harm take many forms. It is done for many reasons. Some times the person doing it does not even recognize it as self injury.

Ritualistic: part of some religious practices. Such as flagellation for the repentance of sins, self crucifixtion, etc.

Sociological/tribal: Such as provoked animal attacks, sport injuries etc.

Peer Pressure: a desire to have scars to prove manliness etc. Heidelberg dueling scars. the badges of gang members, tattoos, body piercings

Habitual: self inflicted; Pinching, scratching, cutting, nail biting,


Symptoms of a Psychological/Personality disturbance: Chronic depression, amoral disorder, Lack of self worth, etc.


The reasons are as varied as the individuals. But, the basic reason seems to be the achievement of some degree of self awareness and determination of self identity.

The problems arise when this actions become uncontrollable and an apparently unstoppable behavior, even when the person wants to stop. It does little good to point out the futility of such actions. The actions only stop when a person gains sufficient self control to understand that it is unneeded. The best assets are to form deep spiritual bonds with our Deity and religious beliefs, engage in strenuous activities, develop constructive hobbies, seek realistic goals that can be accomplished.

[nadia85]

I feel there is a lot of bad feeling towards ppl who self harm is it just me?I guess it s hard 4 ppl 2 understand it ?

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I spoke 2 a few people, and they said it's mostly a way to relieve tension, as their attention is distracted from the real problem, momentarily, and they have to take care of the 'harm' they have inflicted upon themselves.

[nevesirth]

I feel there is a lot of bad feeling towards ppl who self harm is it just me?I guess it s hard 4 ppl 2 understand it ?

only those who have been thru it will really understand. its not a feeling you can actually communicate verbally thru explanations.

[Woodrow]

I feel there is a lot of bad feeling towards ppl who self harm is it just me?I guess it s hard 4 ppl 2 understand it ?

You are probably correct with that observation. But, that probably comes from misunderstanding and a belief that it is usually a self planned thing to attract attention or some such thought.

We can see that the behavior is wrong and in violation of the teachings of Islam, but what we can not see is the inner conflicts that are causing a person to do such things.

I believe that on a small level we all do it to some extent, be it nail biting, chewing on our cheek or tongue, self hair pulling during times of frustration, etc. Same act, just to a different degree.