grateful... as I too have a poor memory of such dates
my personal bday happens to bring me the blues as I have lost both my grandmother and aunt early December which is when it happens to fall, thus every year is a painful reminder....
take it easy sis.. shrug your shoulders and smile.. it is simply the human condition to be caught up..
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if your Husband forgot your birthday/anniversary etc?
Would not bother me, I mean, if he was Muslim it definetly would not bother me. If he was non Muslim it wouldn't bother me much as long as our reletionship wwas good, because I don't think it is always easy to remember things.
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Would not bother me, I mean, if he was Muslim it definetly would not bother me. If he was non Muslim it wouldn't bother me much as long as our reletionship wwas good, because I don't think it is always easy to remember things.
Ahaha! you're post made me laugh..
Umm..I don't think I'd be bothered..as I'm the type to remember peoples b'days and stuff the day before and never on th day..
I don't know how that happens..but it happens year in year out..
as for the question, i forget my own birthday, happened last month. My niece jumped me with the surprise though "uncle its your BAY!" i must say i do love surprises
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Come on!!!!! They remember the date of every soccer match and frat/prom meeting and they dare foregtet your birthday??????? It's a very special day in a person's life. If your hubby doesn't celebrate it, who would? You should remind him in a very subtle way. Then make it clear for him that it is very important for you.
In all seriousness, it matters and it doesnt matter, if you really love someone, there is absolutely no way you can forget but at the same tym, some circumstances may cause you to forget, and you should be understanding of these circumstances although it may be hard.
When i turned 16, me and my family were going through alot of hardships, so much that my sixteenth bday passed by and no one realised, not even me!!! ( i know!) , it was only when i was checking the prayer time on the time table did i realise that it had been several days since my bday.
i was annoyed for a long tym , but ah well. Allah tests us in different ways, so maybe this husband/wife is going thru a rough tym??, if they forget repeatedly, then u smack um lol.
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if your Husband forgot your birthday/anniversary etc?
When the Prophet (saws) came to Madina and there were two days that people used to celebrate, he (saws) said:
Allah has given you instead of them what is better, they are the Feast of Sacrifice ('Eidul-Adha) and the Fast Break-Feast ('Eidul-Fitr).
(Ahmed 11945, An-Nasi (1555))
Hence, it is not permissible to exeed these two feats by inventing other feasts, such as birthdays and the like, as this is viewed as exceeding what is ordained by Allah. Such are viewed as matters innovated in religion, contradicting the Prophetic Sunnah and immitating the non-muslims. Such feasts are not among the practices of Islam, whether they are called feasts, commemorations, days, weeks, years etc,. rather they are considered among the practices of the people of the Pre-Islamic Period.
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if your Husband forgot your birthday/anniversary etc?
Haha then you prolly don't appreciate the actually marriage.
Every day of married life should be special not just one day in the yr, Afterall you are married for everyday of the yr and hopefully the rest of your lives!
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If he remembered it would be nice, but if he forgot it wouldn't bother me..
And even if he remembered, we wouldn't celebrate it, it would just be something like "oh, it's your birthday today isn't it, you're a year older, cool".
I'm horrible with remembering birthdays, I only know mine, my best friends, and my brothers & parents.
if your Husband forgot your birthday/anniversary etc?
if my wife forgot, i wouldn't care because its all a money making scheme for the industry, its all hyped just because retail stores making a few ££....watch you'll see valentines day advertised within stores this year because there struggling so badly!
If he didnt remember then muuahhhaaaa and then :thankyou: to him
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on a mre serious note
i woudn't really mind nd if he did forget id just tell him.
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AY!" i must say i do love surprises
lol.
muuahhhaaaa and then :thankyou: to him
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