What would you select?

[dilkadr]

“A woman is married for four reasons, her wealth, lineage, status and Deen. Choose the one who is religious.” (Sahih al-Bukhari)

Well, it says choose the one who is religious... But, in present times, what would be your choice???

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What do u mean PRESENT TIMES?! Islam was always the same and will always remain the same! So even now the brothers and sisters choice should be islamic, as it is plain daft choosing someone 'fit and unislamic' over someone 'ugly and islamic' if they are gonna take you away from ur lord!!!!

[noorseeker]

Personally dont know of many practising sisters, wouldnt know where to look.

but nowa days yes i think religion plays a big part, and only a religious girl would consider me, if she was wealthy , thats her business, i wont go asking for money,

Looks, as the days go by, im more into personality, im not all that, so dont want double standards

[Re.TiReD]

I'm sorry but I wouldnt marry a woman, full stop.

WassalamuAlaykum

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^ hahaha (!) Lol same thing applies to guys

[Re.TiReD]

I'd marry the pious one. If he loves me he will treat me well. And if for some reason he dint love me his Imaan and Taqwa would stop him treating me unjustly.

Thats a saying I think [paraphrased] ..

WassalamuAlaykum

[Sahabiyaat]

akhee, lineage and status sort go in the same group, i think u missed out the most popular attribute.....im suprised you missed out.....wait for it.....beauty


most ppl, men and women, will marry for beauty and piety....i think were past the days marrying for wealth and status...unless ur a goldigga :X

[Cabdullahi]

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[Al-Zaara]

Deen and intelligence.


Oh, no intelligence to choose? Deen only then. I've got enough intelligence for two, mashaAllah. He can just listen to me and my wisdom then. joking

[Sahabiyaat]

^ lol

akhee frog, i have heard that sentance so many times, i think ill just go to sleep.

[Najm]

AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

All four are important, but for i would have to say DEEN 100%

Wealth, lineage and status, are important, but from my knowledge these are more "worldy based". Your deen will decide the hereafter. Deen is most important to me because, when you look at your partner, they should remind you of your Lord. A persons imaan would be stronger if the person they choose to spend their whole life with remains strong in faith. They can easily help each other to be strong in faith and their acts of worship, and as well as their children to grow up in the best environment.

p.s. the other 3 is important as well

FiAmaaniAllah

[IbnAbdulHakim]

i'd go for beauty(this implies a beautiful character) then piety

but i wouldnt go for beauty WITHOUT piety

the beauty helps loving the wife, its baked by scholars too

[Sahabiyaat]

when you have piety, it beautifys your character anway.

and there is nothing wrong with desiring physical beauty,it human to do so. like i said it all boils down to 2 things, 1) piety 2) beauty (as a bonus)

[IbnAbdulHakim]

when you have piety, it beautifys your character anway.)

a lot of sahabi's / sahabiyaats where deems as physically not attractive, i think abdullah ibn masud was one of them wallahu a'lam

[Al-Zaara]

and there is nothing wrong with desiring physical beauty,it human to do so. like i said it all boils down to 2 things, 1) piety 2) beauty (as a bonus)

I disagree. For me personally, intelligence comes before beauty, as in education and over-all intellectual level.

[Sahabiyaat]

and look how much the prophet loved julaybib

[Sahabiyaat]

I disagree. For me personally, intelligence comes before beauty, as in education and over-all intellectual level.

nerdy people are annoying...i thought you said there was no intelligence option


and you know when i say beauty...im not saying blonde hair and blue eyes........just normal looking...whatever normal is lol,....i would just have a problem...say if they had a second nose, or hump backed or something.

[Re.TiReD]

and look how much the prophet loved julaybib

he told one of the companions to look at the women of the ansaar b4 propsing since they had something with their eyes that made em look diff.

Beauty is important, up to a person what they put first though. Personally its Deen.

[Al-Zaara]

Nerdy and smart are two different things.

But you said "it all boils down to two things" and I shockingly assumed you meant beyond the hadith.

[Sahabiyaat]

see my above edited post, with clarification of my view