i dont know what has overcome me these last few days! i cant stop thinking about an ex. he keeps coming into my dreams, sometimes i wish i could talk to him but i knw theres no point he hates me, pple please advise me... how do i stop hurting, knowing hes having fun, living in the same city, chilling out with other girls, he couldnt care less if i was dead or alive. it hurts so much, when i think of him i jus cry automatically. i thought i was gettin over him and now this happens. and my dreams they seem so real but when i wake up i realise it was all jus a dream
i do have a good crowd bro, but i dnt knw how 2 stop hurting over him, how nt 2 get jealous knowing hes chilling out with other girls, some of them that were/are my friends. i knw hes the 1 doing haraam but knowing abt it jus brings me 2 tears
i feel like gettin in touch with him...but i knw he dont care. but i cant help the way i feel..maybe i should write a letter?
DONT get in touch with him. You said yourself he couldnt care less about you. Dont make him know he has a hold over you..itll take time but youll get over him inshaAllah and from the sound of it hes soooo not worth it.
Sorry to hear of your pain. Little one please stop punishing yourself, you say yourself that he is having 'fun' and wouldn't care less if you lived or died yet you still feel like getting in touch? Why? What will that change....... simply nothing only giving him more satisfaction in knowing that you still care for him are thinking about him and making him gloat.
You are reading your namaaz as you say five times a day. You should pray to Allah for sabur and little one you should move on. This guy is not worth your tears and you need to start afresh and let him know that you have moved on instead of sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself. Sorry for the harsh words.
He's not worth it. Alhamdulillah, you are a practicing Muslim, and you believe in Allah. Allah is the only one that can cure your pain. Time heals all wounds. You won't forget about him easily, so don't try it. Try occupying yourself by things like work, studies, and esp. the Quran and salaah. When you get frustrated, pray 2 nafl and call out to Allah. He hears all of us. He loves us more than 70 mothers. He will never ever abandon you.
All of your "friends" should know he's your ex and if they truly cared bout you, they would stop mentioning him. Choose good friends, the kind that understand what you are going through, or at least have consideration. If you don't find friends like that, then the next best friends are books. Books teach you so much Alhamdulillah. If you haven't already, read the Quran's translation with tafseer. Learn the history of Islam and the Sahabah. You aren't the first to have gotten hurt so badly, and this ex isn't the first to have hurt someone with such a beautiful heart. Read Hayat-us-Sahabah. They are one of the best book series out there and Masha Allah contain a lot of wisdom.
May Allah (SWT) cure all your pain and may He (SWT) grant you Janat-ul-Firdos. Ameen Thuma Ameen.
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im so disappointed in myself, bcuz i knw he isnt worth it, i knw he doesnt care, yet im still thinkin abt him, missing him, wanting 2 talk 2 him. i knw it was all haraam and i AM glad yet i still feel like this! honestly i jus want 2 forget him, but its not as simple doing it, i waking up thinking of him, remembering things when we were together, and then i remember how he hurt me, and it kills. thank you everybody 4 ur replies
Hmmm...
Get out
Go spend time with all your girlfriends
Cinema, restaurant
Just enjoy what you can
If he invades into your thoughts just shake your head vigorously as if you want to rip it off, just don't rip it off...
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Sorry to hear of your pain. Little one please stop punishing yourself, you say yourself that he is having 'fun' and wouldn't care less if you lived or died yet you still feel like getting in touch? Why? What will that change....... simply nothing only giving him more satisfaction in knowing that you still care for him are thinking about him and making him gloat.
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