I'm an 18 year old male. I like girls and desire them here and there. I'm not however crazy for girls.
I'm a man : i think one good woman is good enough for me
I'm a man : the more the merrier
I'm a woman : they are guys out there who only look only at the one he love
I'm a woman : i think all guys desire more than one woman
i just heard from some of the nicest men...that not all man desire for more than one woman. some of them think one good woman is enough for them.
So i thought of putting up a poll...
Need everyone cooperation.
Jazakallah khayr in advance
I'm an 18 year old male. I like girls and desire them here and there. I'm not however crazy for girls.
I really wouldn't want more than one wife.format_quote Originally Posted by syilla
i just heard from some of the nicest men...that not all man desire for more than one woman. some of them think one good woman is enough for them.
So i thought of putting up a poll...
Need everyone cooperation.
Jazakallah khayr in advance
I think most of men want only one wife,few men like to have more but not all of them,despite of being allowed in Islam to marry more than one most muslim men marry only one woman ,they marry another one only if his first wife is ill or unfruitful so they prefer marring another to divorce the first.
Syilla, I'm afraid I am not clear what your poll is asking about.
When you say 'one good woman is enough for them', it sounds like you are talking about men looking for one wife vs looking for more than one wife.
When you say '[men] who only look only at the one [they] love' it sounds like you are talking about men who still look at other women and have desires for other women (even if they don't follow them)
So could you clarify if you mean marriage (monogamous or polygamous), or whether you are talking about men having desires for women in general?
i'm talking about men having desires for women in general.format_quote Originally Posted by glo
not on polygynous marriage because sometimes they got married for other reasons..
Thank you for clarifying, syilla.
I think men (at least heterosexual ones) a 'biologically programmed' to desire women, plain and simple.
Even the most faithful husband will look at other women, appraise them and probably be aware of a certain level of physical attraction.
I am not sure if it would be realistic to expect men to do otherwise ...
What we can expect men to do though, is to avoid temptation, to control their desires, and to not ever act upon any desires for other women.
That's my opinion.
Thank you for your thoughtsformat_quote Originally Posted by gloThank you for clarifying, syilla.
I think men (at least heterosexual ones) a 'biologically programmed' to desire women, plain and simple.
Even the most faithful husband will look at other women, appraise them and probably be aware of a certain level of physical attraction.
I am not sure if it would be realistic to expect men to do otherwise ...
What we can expect men to do though, is to avoid temptation, to control their desires, and to not ever act upon any desires for other women.
That's my opinion., i really appreciate it
I can smell something from facebook here.... lol...format_quote Originally Posted by syilla
i just heard from some of the nicest men...that not all man desire for more than one woman. some of them think one good woman is enough for them.
So i thought of putting up a poll...
Need everyone cooperation.
Jazakallah khayr in advance
Whether men accept it or not, they cannot be satisfied with one woman. They need new everyday as they have more desire than women, which cannot be fulfilled by 1 woman.
actually the other day i was reading muslim knights blog...format_quote Originally Posted by north_malaysian
and today someone told me something thats surprised me
Interesting!
I voted #3.
My brother says, he only wants to marry one woman and make her his 'everything' and be 'everything' to her.
Ahhhh! lol
I voted #3 too, but it seems that I misunderstood the actual question. I thought the question was, do all men want to be in a polygamous relationship... i.e., have more than one partner. I realise that there are some men out there that don't, whatever the reason may be. But if the question is, do all men desire more than one woman, well that depends on the level of desire we're talking about. I think any married man (and woman) can fall in to temptation. The point is to lower ones gaze, avoid freemixing and dangerous situations, and inshaa'Allaah those kind of scenarios will be avoided.
this is a woman's dream - not actual realityI'm a woman : they are guys out there who only look only at the one he love
That really depends on what that statement means. Islamically, men are supposed to lower the gaze except from their wives and that which their right hand posseses. I'd like to think there are some men out there that are able to carry out this obligation! But, if it means that men consider other women as potential spouses, then that is a different matter entirely.format_quote Originally Posted by E.E.
I can only speak for myself so this is what I say,
I think one wife is enough to live an islamic life and attain help in obeying Allah and preventing yourself from his disobedience...
if i was to take another wife, it would be out of taqwa to please Allah such as to have more children... or even to take care of a wife whos not being taken care of properly or in a hard time etc etc
Assalamu Alaikum
No!format_quote Originally Posted by E.E.
IT IS REALITY!
Me and many others i know are PROOF of that!
hey if we can lower our gaze all the while we're single, its not hard to have eyes for none but the one you love!!!
Assalamu Alaikum
It's key to differentiate between one or more woman and desiring one or more women.
Most men would be happy to marry one, but in their younger days probably wanted more than they can handle
one is more than enough for me.
I think its going to depend on each person individually.
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