stay clam be your self
have questions that you want to ask ready
*as weird as this may sound* have a "rehearsal" with your sister (if you have one) :X
What should i wear?
look good and smell clean. really, just be yourself.
What shall i say?
as i said be yourself. dont put on one of those phoney acts that some people do. be polite to her, her family...try conversing with her dad/brothers at some point...just imagine your meeting a new friend and treat the situation like that...
What shall i ask?
firstly know what you want in a wife/marriage becuase that is the key to finding the right spouse.
anything that you think will be important in your marriage as a couple, would be important to bring up.
try this thread..don't let it overwhelm you. you know what you want in a marriage/wife, so just pick the questions that correspond to that. http://www.islamicboard.com/family-s...l-partner.html
p.s i am really shy and quiet person, will i have to answer all questions,
well, you cant ignore them, right?
her dad/brothers (if she has any) might ask, so be prepared.
and do i have to talk to the bride for too long.
umm i think the best way to deal with issues like this is just concentrate on what you have to do. try push your nerves to the side. if you want to be nervous, be nervous later. if you're quiet, be quite later, but do what you have to do and try not let your nerves get the better of you.
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 07-26-2009 at 09:42 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
If I find her beautiful and religiously committed, I'll ask the basic question:
Will you marry me?
If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their trust.
Surah Ale Imran : 160
It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) climbed up Uhud, accompanied by Abu Bakr, ‘Umar and ‘Uthmaan, and the mountain shook with them. He struck it with his foot and said: “Stand firm, O Uhud, for there is no one on you but a Prophet or a Siddeeq or two martyrs.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3483)
Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Taala) does not inspire seeking forgiveness in a slave whom he wishes to punish.
If I find her beautiful and religiously committed, I'll ask the basic question:
Will you marry me?
Hmm true.
I think he meant potential bride. :P Yeah, I can't imagine going through this. How embarrassing and nervous-ing. If that's even a word. I get jitters just think I have to say "I accept" in front of a whole crowd at the Nikkah. I usually go into fits of giggles when it happens at the Masjid. O.o
keep reciting durood sharif, keep doing dhikr, pray for yourself non-stop and I'll pray for you akhE,
You'll be ok inshaAllaah, take deep breaths, there's nothing better than a shy groom but answer the questions honestly, they wana see the real you so act normal and try to be as calm as possible,
be yourself and have fun!
I think she's gonna say yes anyways
"Whoever lives amongst you will see much differing, so adhere to my Sunnah" Muhammad (صلّى الله عليه و سلم)
Whatever you feel comfortable with. Make sure it follows the Islamic dress code.
Do's and Dont's????
Be polite. Don't stress.
What shall i say?
Ah say anything as long as it is polite and not rude.
What shall i ask?
Idk...
p.s i am really shy and quiet person, will i have to answer all questions, a
nd do i have to talk to the bride for too long.
I get really nervous.
I think she might be nervous/shy too. Hey you two already have something in common.
Just be kind and everything will go fine.
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
I bet your enjoying the tea brother or haven't you went yet?
If you haven't went yet then May Allah make the 'meeting' easy for you. Aameen
hope all goes well...
Three simple rules in life:
1) If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it
2) If you don't ask, the answer will always be no.
3) If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place
do lots of zikr the whole time before the meeting and you will be so calm & natural it will surprise you. you won't be nervous or anything, insha-Allah.
Hey there! Looks like you're enjoying the discussion, but you're not signed up for an account.
When you create an account, we remember exactly what you've read, so you always come right back where you left off. You also get notifications, here and via email, whenever new posts are made. And you can like posts and share your thoughts. Sign Up
or haven't you went yet? 
Hide
Looks like you're enjoying the discussion, but you're not signed up for an account.
Bookmarks