The Abc Of Parenting

*Always trust your children to Allah’s care.

*Bring them to the Masaajids.

*Challenge them to high goals In deen.

*Delight in their achievements “Masha`Allah”

*Exalt Allah in their presence “Subhaan`Allah”

*Frown on evil ” Astaghfirullah”

*Give them love and understanding

*Hear their problems, be there for them.

*Ignore not their childish fears, tell them Allah is Always there.

*Joyfully accept their apologies, Allah is All Forgiving.

*Keep their confidence.

*Live a good example before them, Islamic etiquettes.

*Make them your friends.

*Never ignore their endless questions!

*Open your heart to their love.

*Pray for them by name, …May Allah make them the coolness of your eyes.

*Quicken your interest in their spirituality, Dhikrullah (remembrance of Allah)

*Remember their needs, show mercy to them

*Show them the way of Our Prophet Muhammad SalLalLahu Alehe WaSalLam and his companions. (Peace be upon them All).Use this as a moral guidance for their nurturing and upbringing.

*Teach them to appreciate every little in life. “Alhamdulillah”

*Understand they are still young and Innocent. “Fitrah”

*Verify your statements, speak clearly (Repeat it 3 times) like the way Muhammad SalLalLahu Alehe WaSalLam used to.

*Use diplomacy to wean them from bad company.

*Encourage them to obey, Allah and their parents.

* Use Deen as their beacon for success.

*Praise them for the good they do and tactfully reprimand them for the wrong they engage in.

* Establish Talim [Teachings of the Quran and Sunnah] in the Home

* Make Mashwera [consult] with them- This will build their confidence.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:”All of you are shepherds, and each one is responsible for his flock. A leader of people is a shepherd and responsible for them. A man is like a shepherd over his family, and he is responsible for his flock. A woman is like a shepherd over her husband’s house and children, and she is responsible for them. And a slave is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for it. So all of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Make Daily Dua for their success in this world, the grave and the life after death!