First thing that needs to be done, is that your parents need to quit the arguing, and start reading the same page. if your brother sees that they aren't united together, then this tells him that they are an easy target to get his own way. so advise your parents to be kinder to one another and work together, not against one another. excuses dont work, taking action does.
second is that a little bit of reverse psychology needs to be implemented here. when he says you dont give him anything, here is a good time to tell him what he
needs to do something as well. so what we are trying to achieve here is that both parties reach compromise and take it upon themselves to put the effort in to make things work. by you telling him something like "what is it that we can do for you," this shows him that you are listening to him but also that he needs to put in some effort as well....you need to remind him, that it cant all be one-sided... of course you dont give him everythign he demands or that he does have a point in saying these things, but telling him this, hopefully will make him realize that life isn't all easy and happy days and you need to put in some effort yourself as well. so by letting him get his own way (sort of) he will feel compelled to return it.
be kind but firm about this and dont shows sings of annoyance when he gets angry or doesn't agree with him because he will just wrap you around his little finger...be straight forward but kind about it.
telling him yes we do give you everythign isn't going to help because he doesn't see it. it is time to implement the opposite of what you are doing and try a different method of discipline. when he says these things, dont ever in return believe that or act on it because it will reach a point where if you do give him too much rope, then in future if/when you dont give him what he wants, he will become like a spoilt child...and this sort of behavior breeds ingratitude and disobedience to parents.
when he does comply, reward and encourage him. i know that sounds sort of childish and i dont mean in the same sense that you would reward a child but compliment him and tell him how much you miss him as a brother/son. this will tell him that living with his family isn't all really that bad and they aren't against him.
when you talk to him avoid using direct terms such as 'immaturity,' 'irresponsible' because he doesn't see himself like this so he will get on the defensive and it will have the reverse affect.
its time you give him some responsibility of his own so that he can grow up abit? i ask this because when people put in the effort themselves, then they realise how hard lifke really is. i think your father sending him to work kind of have the opposite affect because work in the west (if thats were you live?) means that you are independent, so i think he played it right into his hands. you need to think of another way to make him realize responsibility.
does he have any goals in his life that he would
personally like to get achieved? what his he doing to try accomplish them? are you helping him in reaching them?
what is his home life like? do you-as his siblings involve him in things? do you give him little attention/affection? maybe you give him too much?
perhaps another option to take is to send him somewhere? or to make hijrah?
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