its not impossible i can easily say no to anyone who is not my mom or a cute chubby cheeked kid all you do is open your mouth and say Na Oh and then quickly look away from the person
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I got myself in trouble for not saying No... I guess its just hard sometimes.
When you want to say yes but you know you should be saying No its hard a choice sometimes.
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Three simple rules in life:
1) If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it
2) If you don't ask, the answer will always be no.
3) If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place
I was looking at myself talking to myself and I realized this conversation...I was having with myself looking at myself was a conversation with myself that I needed to have with myself.
Because our weakness is shown up when We said No :.))
Little by little, wean yourself. This is the gist of what I have to say. From an embryo whose nourishment comes in the blood, move to an infant drinking milk, to a child on solid food, to a searcher after wisdom, to a hunter of invisible game. Rumi
i say no when im asked the question 'are you mad/upset at me' without a problem. Although with this face
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
....If thou knowest not thy God, thou art a slave of men;
And if thou dost, thy slaves are kings and potentates.
The heart’s freedom is kingly; its slavery is death,
It is for thee to decide — to be a king or a slave.
[Baal-e-Jibreel, Allama Iqbal 1935]
i find it hard to say no especially if theres been a run up story to the question and it catches me off guard..... or if the person makes me feel bad about saying no even when i shouldnt feel bad
oh well, i guess i will answer.
sometimes i can say no, sometimes not. it really depends on who i'm talking to. for example, if its a friend or classmate, i can say it easily. so if someone asks me for help and i have the time to do it, i'll say yes, but if not, i'll clearly tell them i can't. and I thank Allah for the ability, because i see that some ppl have a hard time to say no.
the same is the case with standing up for your rights. i can do it with non-family memebrs.
as for family members, i think saying no is harder because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, becuase you are brought up to feel that it will hurt their feelings etc. Also, if you are talking to your parents, then its important islamically also to obey them. however, you need to draw the line sometimes. sometimes you need to explain to parents / sibs that what you are doing is right and what they are saying is wrong, especially when it is related to Islam.
so it's important to learn to say no when it is islamically right for you to do it. you need to know exactly when it is right and when it isn't for you to say no, and then do it when it is right. i hope i made myself clear
I’m always sacred of hurting other people's feelings, if the answer means that it will cause me pain but will make the other person happy then I would rather say yes just to make the other person happy. Done it many times, I have made myself suffer in the past just to make others happy. Even currently, my mum wants me to marry my cousin whom I don’t really fancy but just to make my parents and the guy happy I’m gonna say yes even though I know I may not be happy him.
I’m always sacred of hurting other people's feelings, if the answer means that it will cause me pain but will make the other person happy then I would rather say yes just to make the other person happy. Done it many times, I have made myself suffer in the past just to make others happy. Even currently, my mum wants me to marry my cousin whom I don’t really fancy but just to make my parents and the guy happy I’m gonna say yes even though I know I may not be happy him.
Sis if you don't want to marry the guy don't. I myself feel uncomfortable saying no to people but when it comes to serious things saying no is important. This your life and your future happiness. This is not to say ignore your parents wishes but if you believe already that you will be unhappy perhaps it is best that you give saying "NO" some serious thought.
Salam
Option 1 and 2 are my choices.I really feel bad if by chance i say "No".Normally,my siblings and my family,my friends dont let me say a "No" as they know me well
Like my bro's.They never call me straight for any thing.If they need something they call me like that.
Endyyyyy......... Hey come here,look whats that.I ran towards them and ask What?What is this And they reply,Nothing,Just give us a glass of water or they ask me to iron their clothes or things like that And i always find my self unable to say a "No"
My Parents,friends and relatives use a different trick.They call me "Endy,come here sweet heart".When i get there they said in a really sweet voice.Sweety,can you do this (whatever they want) for me,i know you wont say a "No" to me,you are not like others who bluntly refuse others call for help.... Hmmm
And i just said what they want me to say,A "Yes"
This made me in my heart that time but after that,i feel satisfied i did not hurt any one by saying a "No"
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The options are really funny
. If we can do the work we should say yes and if we don't want to do we say no
. 3rd and 4th options are really strange
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And they reply,Nothing,Just give us a glass of water or they ask me to iron their clothes or things like that
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