i think a balance between the two
I'll say to someone I love, "I LOVE YOU"
I'll just be kind and concerned about them to show my love
I disagree with you, there should be a balance between the two
, which is the better and more suitable action for a Muslim to do? Saying words to a brother(if you're a brother) using "I love you" and saying words to a sister(if you're a sister) using "I love you" compatible with the sunnah or performing good deeds to show that you love them? Other than that, should there be balance between a both? Give me your responses here! :X I really wanna know since I sometimes feel a stab in the heart if I say I love you to someone
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i think a balance between the two
format_quote Originally Posted by elina
i think a balance between the two
Saying 'I LOVE YOU' to adults you love is difficult.....but saying it to small children is easy
I dont think i have ever said 'I LOVE YOU' to another adult
Salam to all,
There are only a few languages that you can say "I love you" and it would be understood as Platonic, as for English it can get you in a heap of trouble or a slap in the face. I would opt for the second answer until able to use the first with out any misunderstanding.
Masalam
Show them your love by your actions - they'd get the idea
The prophet (saw) encouraged us to profess our love...' Prophet of Allah, upon be peace, said, "If one of you loves his brother, he should tell him that he loves him." '
The prophet (saw) himself was not shy to profess:
'The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said: “O Mu’adh! By Allah, truly I love you.” [Abu Dawud, Al Nisa’i, Ibn Hibban, Abu Nu'aym, Ibn Khuzaimah and Al-Hakim, who declared its isnad to be sahih]'
What I would give to be Mu'adh on that day.
Naturally, if you love a person your actions will show this.
there should be balance between the two..
for saying i love u
“If a Muslim loves his Muslim brother, he should inform him.” (Tirmizi)
i think this is because when the other is aware of your love he will be more concerned about it.. and this will strengthen your relation
and as for expressing it in actions... words are useless when you don't act in according to what you say..
for example.. we all say we love Allah.. so we express that love in our amaals
format_quote Originally Posted by peãrl
Ahem! Flame is being inflicted by pangs of guilt. She loves many members in the IB board.....so she's now going to tell them all that she loves them.
Jazakallah khair for the reminder!
Salam to all,
Knowing most of these Ahadith makes me feel more self conscious but as English is not my mother tongue I still don't feel comfortable saying "I love you".
Maybe some one English (not English speaking as myself) can explain to me how does one wishing to follow Adab Islam and the prophet s.a.w's Sunnah overcome this language barrier.
Speaking English is not the same as being English. How does one say "I love you" in English and it would be okay ?
I can say "I love you" in other languages no problem but in English ?
I can't also just start talking to people in different tongues or maybe that a good solution for in translation surely the aquardness would reduce.
I would also like to add one of my favorite Hadith "When a believer misses (in his heart) another believer he gets the reward equal to having spent a thousand nights in the Mosque (Itiqaf)"
How fortunate are we to be Muslim ?
I too like sister pearl would give anything to be Mu'adh on that day.
Jazakallahu Khair and thanks to the sisters for reminding me of those Ahadith.
Masalam
Last edited by al yunan; 05-07-2011 at 07:05 PM.
Aww.......... Thanks dear,i knew that you love meformat_quote Originally Posted by Flame
Ahem! Flame is being inflicted by pangs of guilt. She loves many members in the IB board.....so she's now going to tell them all that she loves them.
Jazakallah khair for the reminder!You are crazy about me
Love you too
**Sigh** Endy,why are you that good and sweet,people have no other choice but to love you
*************** Back to topic *******************
I once read this line,touches my heart.
Helping hands are better than talking lips.
I believe if you love someone,you better say that with your actions.Love,to me,is respect,to take care of other person no matter its love between two adults or with your friends and family.Words do have their importance but only words are not gonna make it,your actions are the thing that proves your words
I never had trouble telling someone I love, that I love them. We dont know how long we've got to live, this life is a passing moment. With that thought in mind now I dont hold nothing back.
I definitely show it through my actions, but sooner or later I say it especially to my family.
format_quote Originally Posted by Nbeel
salam nbeel...... i have 2 close female friends.... we dont exactly say i love you...more love you loads....which is a comfortable way to say it..... we tell each other usually at the end of phone calls, when we hug as we leave each other, when one of us does something nice for the other or make each other laugh when we are down... then we also do little things that show each other we care.... one of my friends lives about 400 miles away....we send each other silly little things through the post (usually just costing pennies) with notes 'saw this thought of you' my other friend lives close by..... i will call her early on a morning when i know shes just finished work and say i have her breakfast ready, she will call me when im on my way home from work mid afternoon (and before i got married at 10pm when i was on late shift) and say.... i have your dinner on...call on your way home...... both my friends know in times of trouble they can call me anytime of day or night and vice versa....... you know little things that mean a lot
salaam
I think it's better to be balance between a both .( especially for women )
To love someone is an action of the heart.format_quote Originally Posted by Nbeel
If we knew the reward for loving one another for the sake of Allah, we would be more particular about it.........we'd express it, tell others we love them, visit each other and keep each other's company:
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The noble Prophet, peace be upon him, is reported to have said: ‘Around the Divine Throne, there are podiums of light. On them are people whose clothing is light and their countenances are light. They are neither Prophets nor martyrs. The Prophets and the martyrs are delighted with them.’ ‘Describe them to us, O Messenger of God,’ requested his Companions. The Prophet replied: ‘They are those who loved one another for the sake of God. They kept each other’s company for the sake of God and they visited one another for the sake of God.’
Indeed the noble Prophet made affection springing from the heart a basic requirement in discharging the duties of brotherhood, without which faith is incomplete. This affection is not a favour which one grants to another. All this is implicit in his saying: ‘No one of you has attained faith unless he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.’
The great truths which the noble Messenger conveyed and on which he trained the firs generation of Muslims are the only bases on which our new societies can be erected. Without them, our path will never be straight. For, the Truth will remain the Truth and human souls will always be the same.
Source:
"Watering the Seed of Love" - Said Ramadan, pp. 263-264
I think the two are inter connected, love necessitates that it is shown in actions, otherwise it is not a real love, just like emaan must be shown in actions as well as belief in the heart and speaking.
Of course you should not go upto a random women and say you love them, but there is no harm in telling brothers that you love them for the sake of Allah.
I think the perfect example is the love of Allah, we speak it on our tongues, feel it in our hearts, and because of the love we feel for Allah, it drives us to do righteous actions and obey him, our love for Allah is a motivation for us to worship him, for example, sometimes we feel lazy to pray salah, then we think I don't want to displease my lord because I love him and I don't want him to be displeased with me. You see it's very hard to displease someone you love very much, rather you just want to fulfill their every wish and make them happy cos of your love for them.
Similarly, when you love a person it manifests in how you treat them, if your love is sincere it will show in your actions, you will not wish to hurt them or cause them pain in any way, your only desire will be to make them happy and smile, and to see them sad will make you sad, to the point you'd do anything to make them smile again, even if you have to move mountains, and to know they're happy will bring you peace and contentment.
So brother I think both are connected and when you tell someone you love them, it will automatically show in your actions. And if you don't tell them it but just try to show it in your actions then you're depriving the person of hearing something beautifull, because which person does not like to hear someone say to them "I love you". When it's sincere there's nothing more pleasing to our ears than to hear someone say to us that they love us, and we'd love to say it back accompanied with a hug
Such moments and memories are never forgotten, they remain with us for eternity and we treasure them, even more so when that person leaves us and returns to Allah.
Last edited by Salahudeen; 05-12-2011 at 03:36 AM.
I think a balance is best... words don't often mean as much as actions, but at the same time even in friendships sometimes people need the reassurance of hearing the words.
Salam alaykum;
I prefer actions more than words. I don´t feel myself very romantic person and many times I feel it is annoying when my fiance repeat to me daily that he loves me.
First off, Brother Nbeel, the fact that you made a thread about love means you must join the Brothers' Section ASAP.
Secondly, I prefer showing with actions. It feels good to do good deeds, Alhamdulillah.
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