I'm in school with this Muslim guy. I've made it very clear to him in the beginning of the term that he shouldn't talk to me in appropiately. Anyway now he's more careful, but he keeps saying to me this every morning when I come to class 'The heart greets ya warmly my love'! I need his Shakespeare twilight arsed soap opera crap GONE. He emberasses me in front of the whole class. A close friend of mine heard him gossip to other guys that he wants to see if I will slap him one day, and apparently that's what he wants. What a creep!
And how does him saying that embarasses you? The class should rather be laughing at this modern-day Shakespear!
I guess just complain to the teacher? :S
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Try to ignore him at first, to do so you need have a lot of patience. Do not pay attention to anything he is doing. I would suggest complain to the dean.
just ignore, dont respond how long is he going to keep on doing that then or i dunno mayb get ur dad or someone to talk and scare him :s i duno what the teachers would do though coz in my skool nothing much is done in these situations the student just gets told off and thats it
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Dont even look at him, when you come into class. Make sure its visible you have headphones on. Blast your quran and don't even make eye contact. It's going to be clear you don't care about a thing he says
You could always run him over and make it look like an accident . I'm just kidding, you'd have to answer the Heavenly interrogation if you do that. Go to your Principal/Headteacher and report him for harassment. If that doesn't work, have your parents talk to his if you go to the same Mosque.
if u do decide to slap him, please let us know beforehand and then update the thread when u return
i can imagine a description of the whole class going silent and turning around.
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i think ignoring him is best. He wants a reaction. Don't give it to him... ignore him completely... don't make eye contact... don't let it be obvious your feathers are ruffled.. anything...
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remind me of my hubby lol how i hated him but at that time i've finished my schools lol.
Please do not hate him so much because i think there is a hadith saying that if you hate someone too much it'll turn it to the opposite way.
so just be cool and try to stay calm. you have to try learn all the techniques you can lol
25:36 And the true servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk the earth with humility and when the ignorant address them, they respond with words of peace.
Adolescence is a period in which a child grows very rapidly toward adulthood. But the very rapid growth also led to mental instability and personality. it could cause them to behave strangely.
Adolescence is also a period in which a person starts sexually attracted to opposite gender and start to feel like to get a partner. Also, adolescence is a time where someone starts looking for a personality. Unfortunately the city teenager today is strongly influenced by pop culture like movies that did not reflect real life, but they think that's right.
Now we go to the case.
That guy has a special feeling to sister Ansariyah, however, sister Ansariyah did not give him a response, might be because sister Ansariyah did not know about it.
It causes that guy was disappointed and also angry. So he does an act of revenge by constantly teasing sister Ansariyah, because he actually wants to get attention from sister Ansariyah in any form. Instability of personality that makes him do this.
And he did it in front of a crowd because he wanted people view him as "The Love Warrior" who never give up to get the girl he wants. Usually this is caused by the influence of pop movies.
No wonder if he wants sister Ansariyah slap him, as this will make him proud and feel as The Love Warrior that do not easily give up. So sister Ansariyah should never slap him.
Okay, now to sister Ansariyah. What you must do is ignore him, in the proper way that will make him stop teasing you.
I give you a tip. Train yourself to remain calm, and train your facial expressions so as not to be seen if you feel annoyed by this guy. when he's bothering you, people will see your face expression. And if you look disturbed, then people would love to see him as a The Love Warrior who never give up.
So, you have to do when he's teasing you in front of crowds is to stay calm, keep a straight face, and say hello to your female friends. Let's just that guy is not there. then people will look towards him and view him as a loser who does not receive the attention from the girl that he expect.
This will make him feel ashamed, and Insha Allah, he will stop disturb you.
O honey, Ignoring is the cure after Allah in shaa Allah...
Never make him push ya to do anything wrong but just be calm and strong like arock and also don`t forget to pray for the poor guy to be guided and for thewhole world too
If I was in your place then I would be laughing from inside for such sillinessbut showing nothing, such guys make me laugh and I really feel pity and sorryfor them , May Allah guide them Ameeen...
just try yourbest my dear and precious sister to make your school days the best and have somuch of fun as long as you are still having them and whenever you face anythingthen remember that it is nothing and just turn it to something funny in shaaAllah...
May Allah bewith ya and be pleased with ya and May He The Exalted guide us all Ameeeen
I'm in school with this Muslim guy. I've made it very clear to him in the beginning of the term that he shouldn't talk to me in appropiately. Anyway now he's more careful, but he keeps saying to me this every morning when I come to class 'The heart greets ya warmly my love'! I need his Shakespeare twilight arsed soap opera crap GONE. He emberasses me in front of the whole class. A close friend of mine heard him gossip to other guys that he wants to see if I will slap him one day, and apparently that's what he wants. What a creep!
Brothers, Sisters, what should I do?
What he wants from you is a reaction. He wants to wind you up which thus far he is successful at. So what you need to do is not to react. Just completely ignore him and act as though he does not exist. He will eventually get boted and stop trying.
Maybe tell him you will inform your brother or male relative if he continues just to scare him a bit so he backs off, but the main thing to do is to ignore him and not teact to him.
Bah, ardianto already stole my thunder. Brother, you've been lurking over at the Something Awful forums too, haven't you?
I see that the myth of the "Nice Guy" is prevalent even in Islamic culture. This guy you describe, he reminds me a lot of how I used to be. He fancies himself a chivalric knight, but in reality, he is a seething mass of anger and rage, because how dare you not return his affection?!?
This is what he is thinking: "Don't you realize that I am the perfect guy for you? I will take care of you and treat you better than any other guy. I am your prince, and you are my princess." Then later, as time goes on and his affections are not returned, he becomes angrier: "I can't believe that you don't see how perfect I am for you. What is your problem?"
As others have said, ignoring this guy is the best way to make him go away. The more he talks, the stupider he makes himself look.
One day he'll realize that you don't care, and he'll get over it, and move on. It happened to me.
Ignore him. People like this feed off attention, so once he sees you are giving him none he will let it go. Plus, I'm pretty sure his 'joke' will die down soon. They always do with losers like him.
Or, if it get's too much, speak to the teacher about it.
I had a similar problem when I was your age, so I told my brother, he had a few 'words' with them and that was the last of it. He even apologised to me
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. I'm just kidding, you'd have to answer the Heavenly interrogation if you do that. Go to your Principal/Headteacher and report him for harassment. If that doesn't work, have your parents talk to his if you go to the same Mosque.
and that was the last of it. He even apologised to me
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