Start With The Self.

**real islam** · 03-05-2012

As Salaam Alaykum. This thread is intended mostly as reminder for myself I hope Inshallah that others will also derive benefit, and contribute with their thoughts on self reformation.

A man was on his death bed, Someone asked him to give some wise counsel before he departed, the world he Said.

" When I was young I wanted to change the world and solve its problems, As I got older I realized that perhaps I should lower my sights, I thought I would be better served in changing my country as time went on I realized that people of country could not be changed. I decided to change the people of my town , but they also did not wish to change, When I reached my old age I thought I would try changing my Family, here also I found my endeavors go to waste, try as I might my family members would not change.

" Now that I am on my death bed, I have realized that if I had sought to improve myself, and removed my own defects, then perhaps my family members would have been influenced. Then seeing the behavior of my family people of my town would have been influenced. By seeing the spiritual change and improvement of the people of my town, the people of my country would have been influenced. And perhaps through the people of my country the world may have been influenced."
* Source Unknown.

I wish to change the world but I find it near impossible, to change myself.

MaY Allah give us all the Tawfiq to improve our own behavior and conduct and a sinner like me in particular, ameen.

P.s I humbly request that you please, remember me in your duas.Islam is real quite of life.
If you can change you communicating with the Al Qur’an it will
Be helpful to all.And that will help you to establish peace and Islam
In the whole world.
Ameen

**Abz2000** · 03-05-2012

Nice reminder bro,
Really needed it right now,
May Allah guide us all

**~Zaria~** · 03-05-2012

Wa-alaikumsalam,

MashaAllah brother.

Thats an important message for all of us to dwell over.

Just to add:

We spend too much time looking OUTWARDS, instead of looking INWARDS.
Not only do we want to make changes in the world, or our own community, or our families......but we observe the faults of everyone else so quickly, while neglecting our own.

The words to this song has just come to my mind - I think it fits very well here:

"Man In The Mirror"

I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?

A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!).......

Michael Jackson

And finally, the best of characters to ever have walked the face of this earth - Muhammed (sallahu alaihi wasalam) - is an example to as all, over and over again....

How could a simple, unlettered man turn the hearts of such a ruthless nation towards Islam?
Not his endless preaching.
Not trying to change others.
But being the desired outcome himself.......in every word and action.

Today, there are so many that critisize muslims and the Islamic world.
Why?
Because we want to talk the talk.....but not walk the walk.

If muslims were to internalise Quraan and Sunnah - and become reflections of our beloved Nabi (sallahu alaihi wasalam) everyday of our lives - no further action would be needed to draw others towards Islam.

Indeed, it begins with us.

Salaam

**Abz2000** · 03-05-2012

i really liked this quote:
And when he was demanded of the Pharisees, when the kingdom of God should come,
he answered them and said, The kingdom of God cometh not with observation:
Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.
Luke 17:20-21

**real islam** · 03-06-2012

Originally Posted by ~Zaria~

Wa-alaikumsalam,

MashaAllah brother.

Thats an important message for all of us to dwell over.

Just to add:

We spend too much time looking OUTWARDS, instead of looking INWARDS.
Not only do we want to make changes in the world, or our own community, or our families......but we observe the faults of everyone else so quickly, while neglecting our own.

The words to this song has just come to my mind - I think it fits very well here:

"Man In The Mirror"

I'm Gonna Make A Change,
For Once In My Life
It's Gonna Feel Real Good,
Gonna Make A Difference
Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My
Favourite Winter Coat
This Wind Is Blowin' My Mind
I See The Kids In The Street,
With Not Enough To Eat
Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See
Their Needs
A Summer's Disregard,
A Broken Bottle Top
And A One Man's Soul
They Follow Each Other On
The Wind Ya' Know
'Cause They Got Nowhere
To Go
That's Why I Want You To
Know

I'm Starting With The Man In
The Mirror
I'm Asking Him To Change
His Ways
And No Message Could Have
Been Any Clearer
If You Wanna Make The World
A Better Place
(If You Wanna Make The
World A Better Place)
Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change
(Take A Look At Yourself, And
Then Make A Change)
(Na Na Na, Na Na Na, Na Na,
Na Nah)

I've Been A Victim Of A Selfish
Kind Of Love
It's Time That I Realize
That There Are Some With No
Home, Not A Nickel To Loan
Could It Be Really Me,
Pretending That They're Not
Alone?

A Willow Deeply Scarred,
Somebody's Broken Heart
And A Washed-Out Dream
(Washed-Out Dream)
They Follow The Pattern Of
The Wind, Ya' See
Cause They Got No Place
To Be
That's Why I'm Starting With
Me
(Starting With Me!).......

Michael Jackson

And finally, the best of characters to ever have walked the face of this earth - Muhammed (sallahu alaihi wasalam) - is an example to as all, over and over again....

How could a simple, unlettered man turn the hearts of such a ruthless nation towards Islam?
Not his endless preaching.
Not trying to change others.
But being the desired outcome himself.......in every word and action.

Today, there are so many that critisize muslims and the Islamic world.
Why?
Because we want to talk the talk.....but not walk the walk.

If muslims were to internalise Quraan and Sunnah - and become reflections of our beloved Nabi (sallahu alaihi wasalam) everyday of our lives - no further action would be needed to draw others towards Islam.

Indeed, it begins with us.

Salaam

Man in the mirror is looking Good.
But we have to find that mirror man in real.It will
be helpfull to the world.thanks

**Who Am I?** · 03-06-2012

This thread is totally about me.

Really, it is.

No lie.

**transition?** · 03-07-2012

This is true to an extent, but a bit oversimplified. One man rarely has such an influence on his people by merely "changing himself." SOCIAL change needs SOCIAL actions. There's a method to individual obligations but there's a method to social justice and affecting economic, political and social systems.

Salat and lowering your gaze will not solely cause justice for our Muslim brothers and sisters wrongfully imprisoned through the "justice" system. Or stop unjust wars. or corruption among politicians.

**real islam** · 03-07-2012

Originally Posted by Who Am I?

This thread is totally about me.

Really, it is.

No lie.

Really who are you?

**Who Am I?** · 03-07-2012

Originally Posted by real islam

Really who are you?

*sings* Who who who.... who are you? Who who who who? Just tell me who are you?

**Endymion** · 03-07-2012

Originally Posted by real islam

if I had sought to improve myself, and removed my own defects, then perhaps my family members would have been influenced. Then seeing the behavior of my family people of my town would have been influenced. By seeing the spiritual change and improvement of the people of my town, the people of my country would have been influenced. And perhaps through the people of my country the world may have been influenced."
* Source Unknown.

The source of these words is known to me

My mother always tell me this and i dunno how far is death from me but i have realized that and im trying to act upon it so its all about "Me"

Hey Real Islam,aren't you the same person who is on Ui as well

I thought you're a sis