I want to be seen as a good and nice person for the sake of Allah. I feel though that people are taking advantage of my qualities and I dont know how to respond to that due to ignorance of what Islam says about this. What should I do?
It is hard to say no sometimes and you have a feeling that people only befriend you because you are successful and want things from you.
Don't go out of your way to help people. If they ask for help, and you can give it to them without putting yourself in any trouble then do it, otherwise just smile and say no. If they think you're kind, they should take even a refusal from you as something positive.
If Allah helps you, none can overcome you; and if He forsakes you, who is there after Him that can help you? And in Allah (Alone) let believers put their trust.
Surah Ale Imran : 160
It was narrated that Anas ibn Maalik (may Allaah be pleased with him) said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) climbed up Uhud, accompanied by Abu Bakr, ‘Umar and ‘Uthmaan, and the mountain shook with them. He struck it with his foot and said: “Stand firm, O Uhud, for there is no one on you but a Prophet or a Siddeeq or two martyrs.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3483)
Allah (Subhaanahu Wa Taala) does not inspire seeking forgiveness in a slave whom he wishes to punish.
you do what you can. a muslim shukdnt let himslf get taken advantage of anyway
for example my family will always ask me if im free before even asking me ti do something. its just the polite thing to do. uf im not free im not free. if i am free i never say no as long as they arent asking me ti do something i find objectionable
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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Don't burden ur self too much you'll end up getting sick like me. I'm crazy I just love helping. buh I've also learnt how to say no as it was gng out ta my hands ppl took advantage kept saying things. Trust me you'll get sick if u over burden urself by helping ppl, ppl will think its easy for u n they'll keep asking u things. Just tell them politely that ur busy or u have other work.They won't know unless you tell them.
There should be a balance
I'm not saying u start saying no to everyone just look at urself if u have the energy to do it then go for it if not then don't commit.
Allah made everyone different thats what makes them special,so no matter what ppl say just remember you're SPECIAL!! "You are with the one you love"
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