Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters. Im a 23 years old practicing muslimah, alhamdulillah. I was married when I was 18 years old and divorced at the age of 20. I'm not intending to remarry as I had a terrible experience in my first marriage. Im currently under my parents care as I'm doing higher studies. But I'm sure I can provide for myself and my parents in the future, inshaAllah. Now my question is, is it islamically okay not to remarry. If yes, I need to know if there's any supporting hadiths for this so that I can convince my parents to accept my decision that I have taken for myself.
Re: Is it okay for a divorced lady not to remarry?
Firstly, welcome to the forum.
Secondly, sorry to hear of your unsuccessful marriage. You married young and no doubt still traumatised by the bad experience.
Not all people are the same, even brothers from the same family behave differently.
Tell your parents that nobody knows what the future will hold. But for now, you are not ready to go through that again just yet. That is fair. But if you were to tell them that you never want to get married again, ever! That might not be easily acceptable to them. After all, we are encouraged to get married and have children.
Perhaps, do istikarah.. don't shut the door. You have still a lot of life ahead, to share with someone you have yet to. . .to. . .meet?
Re: Is it okay for a divorced lady not to remarry?
what bro Greenhill said, great advice.
You aint ready yet - maybe in 5 years you will feel different. Get your studies done with and stay Muslim - never compromise your Islam. Unmarried life comes with its own set of tests - which are actually quite difficult to handle. So stay in hijaab much as you can and stay the heck away from men as much as you can.
Re: Is it okay for a divorced lady not to remarry?
Wa'alaikumsalam, young sister.
There are many divorced ladies who still want to remarry although they already in 30's or 40's age, while you are still young, still 23.
I understand if you have trauma due to failure of your marriage. But actually not every man is same. There are many men who can be good husband that will make you happy if you remarry. Also you can take lesson from your failure in marriage to make you can success in your next marriage.
Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.
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