Why Love Begin to Fade after few Days of Marriage?
Love Between Spouse is loved by Allah.Marriage is like an Ibadat(Worship)where the Spouse Completes half of the deen .We Marry for the Sake of Allah and We love him/her for the sake of Allah but after few years of Marriage Couples forget the Purpose of Marriage and the Person who used to be the apple of their eyes becomes the throne in their life.Let us take an effort to Understand Woman from the Islamic texts :
What does a Woman Want?How did the Prophet(pbuh) treat his wife when they created blunders ?Must Read :
Never scold her in Public. Everyone does a mistake. Even the Prophet(pbuh) has advised to counsel a person privately.
Have you ever wondered why do the women watch so many TV serials.Well,the serials take them to a world where they see romance, and they see love.although the serials take them to an imaginary world where the romeo can go to any advance for the juliet,Yet you don’t have to be a romeo.But still a little flirting never hurts.And do remember sex and love is not same.
The language of physical touch isn’t all about the bedroom. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, joy, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
All husbands need to understand this. Yes, women like romance.
Man is created in a state of rush. Often, we forget to slow down and smell the roses.
Why the Quran was sent to the Arabs is to change their mind set. With regards to treating women, they really had to eat humble pie. They still have remnants of it in their belief. But that's the Arabs. The rest of the world have variations.
Generally I find that the overall authority is in the hand of who is less afraid of being out of a relationship. There are exceptions of couples realising that there are no fairy tales in relationships, only reality of tests. If both halves of the couple work together collective small victories and successes can be gained contributing positives all round.
Too many distractions and 'philosophical' thoughts and ideas are being implanted into our subconscious self, children's rights, women's rights, gay rights even, I mean parents have almost lost their rights to punish their own children!
We have actually lost ourselves. The 'rules' of society have changed so much in the last generation it's almost unrecognisable.
What have men become? What have women become? What have the children become? What has become of the world?
Being gentle and kind but firm and truthful is a must for the ummah. So the bottom line of any couple is their ability to be a "unit" to manage their affairs. Both need to play the part.
Not so much about men trying to understand women. Or women understanding men. And children understanding their parents.
Understand yourself first. Understand what it is you need to do. Why you need to do it? How to go about it. . . Then naturally you will learn to give. Would it matter then whether at that time you understood women, children, old folks, or animals.. ?
All these self betterment stuff is put out there to make people feel inadequate about themselves. Distracts us from pursuing true knowledge into stuff of vanity.
Quality time is more Important than Spending lots of time together without making each other feel better.
Agreed. For some couples more time, means more arguments. More arguments in turn lead to more dislike of each other, and possibly loss of respect.
I've seen unemployed couples where both husband and wife temporarily have to stay at home 24/7. I'd never seen them search for each others flaws that much....
Those who believe and obscure not their belief by wrongdoing, theirs is safety; and they are rightly guided. (6:86)
Behold! verily on the friends of Allah there is no fear, nor shall they grieve. (10:62)
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