So sometimes I become angry like mad and don't know why. The thing I am sure anger is normal and everything, but I get physical in these "anger attacks". I don't want to harm anyone, but I just sometimes sit or walk with people and just feels this itch in my hand. Like I want to punch them. Problem is I am 14 and can't move out.
As salaam brother,
What's making you angry exactly. Are the people that your around not good. Does your heart feel like you don't belong when your around them? Something must be making you feel like this.
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So sometimes I become angry like mad and don't know why. The thing I am sure anger is normal and everything, but I get physical in these "anger attacks". I don't want to harm anyone, but I just sometimes sit or walk with people and just feels this itch in my hand. Like I want to punch them. Problem is I am 14 and can't move out.
As salaam brother,
What's making you angry exactly. Are the people that your around not good. Does your heart feel like you don't belong when your around them? Something must be making you feel like this.
I don't know really. It might be that I need do something to get rid of anger.
BTW I am not sure you can call me a brother since I am non muslim.
Also I am angry that I have not been guided with certainty. It's like does God want me in Hell. Did he create me just so there can be verses about hell (so I can be indirectly mentioned like the other probably worthless people).
Oh I thought you were. And God is probably just testing you, because He wants your faith to grow stronger. You must be patient. God likes the patient. And your not worthless, not a soul is, when you start believing that then that's what you become that. So stay strong and keep asking for guidance. And God only wrote verses about hell so that we can know about it. He's waring us about hell. Just imagine if he hadn't told us about Heaven or Hell, and we live our life doing what we want. We would be lost. And then one day the world ends and we stand in front of God. And he tells us your going to Hell becuase this and that and you are going to Heaven becuase you were good. We would be like What? How were we supposed to know about hell, You didn't warn us, this isn't fair... do you understand? It's a warning from God, He is looking out for us. And he does what's best for us, He wouldn't do anything that would harm us but benefit us. You must pass the test.
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I don't know really. It might be that I need do something to get rid of anger.
BTW I am not sure you can call me a brother since I am non muslim.
Oh I thought you were. And God is probably just testing you, because He wants your faith to grow stronger. You must be patient. God likes the patient. And your not worthless, not a soul is, when you start believing that then that's what you become that. So stay strong and keep asking for guidance. And God only wrote verses about hell so that we can know about it. He's waring us about hell. Just imagine if he hadn't told us about Heaven or Hell, and we live our life doing what we want. We would be lost. And then one day the world ends and we stand in front of God. And he tells us your going to Hell becuase this and that and you are going to Heaven becuase you were good. We would be like What? How were we supposed to know about hell, You didn't warn us, this isn't fair... do you understand? It's a warning from God, He is looking out for us. And he does what's best for us, He wouldn't do anything that would harm us but benefit us. You must pass the test.
I don't if my value in God's eyes is the size of ant. And I say that as an agnostic. I just feel like I am doomed to hell (been saying it since like seven until this day )
What makes you think that your value in God's eyes is the size of an ant? And have you looked into religion? Or been interested in learning about Islam?
So sometimes I become angry like mad and don't know why.
An old Indian saying, there are two wolves inside everyone of us and they are always fighting each other. One is the kind and caring wolf, the other is the angry and violent wolf, the question you have to ask is which wolf wins?
The answer is the wolf you CHOOSE to feed. If you choose to feed the angry wolf, it becomes stronger, and the kind wolf becomes weaker. But it is your choice which wolf you feed, this is a life time struggle, I am only 66.
There is so much injustice in this world, and yes we do have the right to be angry, BUT and it is a big but, if we retaliate in anger, more injustice will happen
The thing I am sure anger is normal.
Love and kindness are also normal, but which is greater? Love or anger.
and everything, but I get physical in these "anger attacks". I don't want to harm anyone,
The person who angers you, controls you, they feed your angry wolf inside. You should be in control of who feeds your wolf.
but I just sometimes sit or walk with people and just feels this itch in my hand. Like I want to punch them.
You can't think clearly with clenched fists. I know two lads who put their fists through windows, I arrived minutes after one of them had done this, and there was a trail of blood across the road. two years later his arm is still a mess.
Two weeks ago, we tried to stop a few lads fighting, one of the lads, punched a window a couple of times and flew into the fight, he came back seconds later with his mouth split open and bleeding knuckles.
Anger is like picking up a burning coal with the intention of throwing it at the person who angers me, the person who gets burned the most is me. The longer I hold onto this burning coal of anger, the hotter it becomes, it eats away at you while you are on your own, your thoughts consume you.
In the spirit of praying for the power to forgive those who anger us.
Eric
You will never look into the eyes of anyone who does not matter to God.
An old Indian saying, there are two wolves inside everyone of us and they are always fighting each other. One is the kind and caring wolf, the other is the angry and violent wolf, the question you have to ask is which wolf wins?
The answer is the wolf you CHOOSE to feed. If you choose to feed the angry wolf, it becomes stronger, and the kind wolf becomes weaker. But it is your choice which wolf you feed, this is a life time struggle, I am only 66.
There is so much injustice in this world, and yes we do have the right to be angry, BUT and it is a big but, if we retaliate in anger, more injustice will happen
Love and kindness are also normal, but which is greater? Love or anger.
The person who angers you, controls you, they feed your angry wolf inside. You should be in control of who feeds your wolf.
You can't think clearly with clenched fists. I know two lads who put their fists through windows, I arrived minutes after one of them had done this, and there was a trail of blood across the road. two years later his arm is still a mess.
Two weeks ago, we tried to stop a few lads fighting, one of the lads, punched a window a couple of times and flew into the fight, he came back seconds later with his mouth split open and bleeding knuckles.
Anger is like picking up a burning coal with the intention of throwing it at the person who angers me, the person who gets burned the most is me. The longer I hold onto this burning coal of anger, the hotter it becomes, it eats away at you while you are on your own, your thoughts consume you.
In the spirit of praying for the power to forgive those who anger us.
Eric
This reminds me.
The more evil you do, the more you feed the evil side of you. The more good you do, the more you feed the good side of you..
So, if you are an evil oppressive, angry filled person, who wants nothing but bloodshed, you feed your evil deeds.. And when you die, your evil deeds will manifest itself as a snake or something strong, while your good deeds, will be an aging old man, who can barely do anything.
How we control ourselves and use ourselves, be it in the good direction or in the bad/negative one, is upto us. One can not hope to do good, if they are focused on being angry and using the negative energy, rather than the positive.
May Allah protect me and forgive me if I said anything wrong. Ameen.
I can kinda understand why you are angry, and why you feel worthless, doomed, smaller than an ant, etc...
You need to change your view on God.
God did not create you in play, and what would God gain or in what interest would it be for Him to love to punish?? He SWT does not love to punish, it is people, that choose that path. God shows you the way, however, you choose.
I can kinda understand why you are angry, and why you feel worthless, doomed, smaller than an ant, etc...
You need to change your view on God.
God did not create you in play, and what would God gain or in what interest would it be for Him to love to punish?? He SWT does not love to punish, it is people, that choose that path. God shows you the way, however, you choose.
What is the way? I can never be sure. Muslims say it's Islam. Christians say Christianity. Deists say just relax.
So sometimes I become angry like mad and don't know why. The thing I am sure anger is normal and everything, but I get physical in these "anger attacks". I don't want to harm anyone, but I just sometimes sit or walk with people and just feels this itch in my hand. Like I want to punch them. Problem is I am 14 and can't move out.
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