I am 29 years old male, got married around a year and a half, i have one kid. Living in Saudi Arabia.
Now back to the problem.
I am from a very noble family, and we have a very good image in the village. Back in around 2006, a boy attached to me, he is around 8 years older than me He is from a bad family, his father and brothers all have bad image, always fighting with others and they have no social life. This boy is also in the same category and even worse than his brothers and father. But at first I didn't realized the situation. I never wanted to attach with him, but he always forced me. I always had a fear if I say something he will beat me and it will be a shame in my village.
So till now 10 years have passed and I am still with him, I am managing but its very very difficult for me to live with him. He loves me because of my good looks and always forcing me to stay with him. Although he takes care of me alot, but he is very very bad in habits. I am so much frustrated from him that if I want to kill him, but the problem is Islam forbids it.
I want to get rid of him as soon as possible, but I don't find a way. I wanted to give him slow poison but again its forbidden in Islam.
Please suggest me anything that I can do legally to get rid of him.
I am 29 years old male, got married around a year and a half, i have one kid. Living in Saudi Arabia.
Now back to the problem.
I am from a very noble family, and we have a very good image in the village. Back in around 2006, a boy attached to me, he is around 8 years older than me He is from a bad family, his father and brothers all have bad image, always fighting with others and they have no social life. This boy is also in the same category and even worse than his brothers and father. But at first I didn't realized the situation. I never wanted to attach with him, but he always forced me. I always had a fear if I say something he will beat me and it will be a shame in my village.
So till now 10 years have passed and I am still with him, I am managing but its very very difficult for me to live with him. He loves me because of my good looks and always forcing me to stay with him. Although he takes care of me alot, but he is very very bad in habits. I am so much frustrated from him that if I want to kill him, but the problem is Islam forbids it.
I want to get rid of him as soon as possible, but I don't find a way. I wanted to give him slow poison but again its forbidden in Islam.
Please suggest me anything that I can do legally to get rid of him.
Jazak Allah
I dont understand, you say your a male, and your still with this "brother" 10 years later and he likes you for your good looks?
Your married and have a kid ? And you live with him ?
Im sorry but im totally lost as to the story
Narrated Jubair ibn Mut’im: The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W), said: "He is not one us who calls for `Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for `Asabiyah or who dies for `Asabiyah." [Sunan Abu Dawud (Vol. 2, pg. 753) No. 5121]
I can't tolerate it anymore. He likes me but I don't like him. He always tries to force me to do the bad things like kissing etc which I don't want at all. He is a "gay"... Hope that clarifies...
format_quote Originally Posted by sister herb
Salam alaykum
You should shame yourself - your friend loves and admires you and you think and plan bad for him. And you claim that you are from the "noble family" (who might have some manners).
Grown an adult, brother. If situation is very annoying to you, remember that the life is a test and as this might be part of your test, you just have to learn how to handle your anger and frustration. And grow up wiser and more tolerant person.
Did you mean you are living with him in the same house or in the same village? Please clarify if you want that anyone can advice you at all.
format_quote Originally Posted by muslimah_B
I dont understand, you say your a male, and your still with this "brother" 10 years later and he likes you for your good looks?
Your married and have a kid ? And you live with him ?
Im sorry but im totally lost as to the story
He is a gay, I am not living with him, but our houses are closer to each other and we have to meet every day. If I don't meet him 2 or 3 times a day, he would beat me. The situation is very frustrating.
He is a gay, I am not living with him, but our houses are closer to each other and we have to meet every day. If I don't meet him 2 or 3 times a day, he would beat me. The situation is very frustrating.
Brother - man up (be a man), he is a shayathine. Go get more brothers and get the authorities onto the problem or take it out into the street and let the real men beat him.
You will either be treated like a donkey by this shayathine, or you will fear your Rabb more than if you don't stand up for al-Haqq
Brother you said you live in saudi, and you havent gotten the police involved is this not an offence over there (im pretty sure its a punishable offence) ? it especially is to Allah.
I would suggest you stop being fragile and if he goes to beat you, you defend yourself and beat him back, if you are from a noble family like you say then people would come to your aid and help you. Why would you allow another man to do these things to you ?
you have a wife and daughter brother you need to grow a backbone, what if he decides to start beating them ?
Narrated Jubair ibn Mut’im: The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W), said: "He is not one us who calls for `Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for `Asabiyah or who dies for `Asabiyah." [Sunan Abu Dawud (Vol. 2, pg. 753) No. 5121]
He is a gay, I am not living with him, but our houses are closer to each other and we have to meet every day. If I don't meet him 2 or 3 times a day, he would beat me. The situation is very frustrating.
Brother, I think the best thing to do is to seek the police and discuss with him the details of this situation because it's very serious. I also think that you should force the other man to leave you alone immediately. I don't know if you are also gay, but this isn't fair on your wife and child, and it's also one of the biggest sins in Islam. Homosexuality spreads diseases and I hope your wife did not catch any from you.
Last edited by *charisma*; 05-29-2016 at 01:45 PM.
Brother, I think the best thing to do is to seek the police and discuss with him the details of this situation because it's very serious. I also think that you should force the other man to leave you alone immediately. I don't know if you are also gay, but this isn't fair on your wife and child, and it's also one of the biggest sins in Islam. Homosexuality spreads diseases and I hope your wife did not catch any from you.
Sis somehow i feel this situation may not actually be true, i mean using the word "frustrating" after being "forced" to do these things is a bit hmmmmmm... also a man allowing himself to be touched or whatever by another man and not defending oneself of going to the police or having people in the village handle the matter when it first began as he is from a noble family,,,, its just a bit beyond my brain power.
I mean do you think this could be true ?
May Allah forgive me if this is true and i have said wrong, but this situation seems a bit "hmmmmm"
Last edited by *charisma*; 05-29-2016 at 01:47 PM.
Reason: changed my post
Narrated Jubair ibn Mut’im: The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W), said: "He is not one us who calls for `Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for `Asabiyah or who dies for `Asabiyah." [Sunan Abu Dawud (Vol. 2, pg. 753) No. 5121]
report him to the Saudi Police, explain that he made advances on you - and let the law deal with the man.
I been to KSA twice, and both times I saw gay advances and it made me sick to the stomach. The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia has a MASSIVE homosexuality problem.
report him to the Saudi Police, explain that he made advances on you - and let the law deal with the man.
I been to KSA twice, and both times I saw gay advances and it made me sick to the stomach. The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia has a MASSIVE homosexuality problem.
Scimi
Do you mean like openly in the street where everyone can see
I always wanted to go to these places, but somethings are just off putting about them
Narrated Jubair ibn Mut’im: The Messenger of Allah (S.A.W), said: "He is not one us who calls for `Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for `Asabiyah or who dies for `Asabiyah." [Sunan Abu Dawud (Vol. 2, pg. 753) No. 5121]
Openly yes, in 1993 I was 17/18 and I went for Umrah with family.
In Makkah, I made a friend with a Nigerian man who was selling those Zam Zam water drums on the ring road surrounding Masjid al Haram. I used to chat to him every day in between salaah, and watch him work. He worked hard, poor fella.
One day he was busy serving customers and I was waiting for him to finish, when a white cab pulled up next to me. The window opens and a bearded religious looking man starts to speak to me in Arabic and he shows me a big wad of money which he is waving at me. I simply didn't know what he was asking me, so I returned with "Laa arbi, fi maafi mushkil". At this point, the Nigerian brother notices i'm having a problem understanding this Arab dude, so he intervenes. Words are excahnged, then something absolutely crazy happened.
The Nigerian brother started to shout at the Arab cab driver and the driver tried to drive away but teh Nigerian was kicking his car door in and throwing a fit. Within seconds the undercover police are there pointing guns and two uniformed police are pointing rifles at the Nigerians head.
I tried to get inbetween but the Nigerian shoved me to the side and the police held me back. The Nigerian was shouting at the police, pointing to the kaaba and from what I can guess - he was saying he was ready to die here right in front of the kaaba as God is his witness to what that Arab had just attempted to do quite literally on the road that surrounds the masjid al haram.
When it all died down, the Nigerian told me to go back to the hotel. I tried to ask him what the cab driver wanted but he refused to tell me.
I went back to my hotel and stayed ther til salaah time.
Next day i went to him and asked him what happened. He told me it was not safe to speak there and to come meet him by the cafe we used to drink laban at after 6 pm.
So I went to met him. He was already there. He told me that the Arab cab driver had tried to buy me for the night.
I was totally broken by his statement.... at first I refused to believe him. But he was not interested. All he kept repeating was how he wanted to make enough money to go back home to his family. He was slowly reaching tears. And he was angry with me for just being there. The poor man was frustrated beyond hope, he lived in KSA as an illegal immigrant who would sell zam zam water cans for a pittance only so he could afford a lousy meal every night.
I was starting to lose imaan - fast.
I mean, imagine, here i was, a teen lad from the UK in Arabia, for the first time - to this point i'd never experienced any homosexual advances in my life - even as someone who lives in free city of London - yet here I was in quite possibly the most religious city in te world and right at its crux, the Kaaba, I find myself being approached by so called Muslim with a big beard who wants to "buy me for the night".
Yes, I lost my imaan over that - I tried to keep it as much as I could. But people like that don'd do Islam no favours. It took me many years of being lost in the matrix and only by the mercy of Allah did I manage to get some imaan back.
Now, this is the story I feel like sharing,
What I put a stop to in 2006 was way too adult rated for this place.
......
WHERE IS MAHDI ALAIHIS SALAAM.
Scimi
Last edited by Muslim Woman; 05-29-2016 at 12:14 PM.
I am 29 years old male, got married around a year and a half, i have one kid. Living in Saudi Arabia.
Now back to the problem.
I am from a very noble family, and we have a very good image in the village. Back in around 2006, a boy attached to me, he is around 8 years older than me He is from a bad family, his father and brothers all have bad image, always fighting with others and they have no social life. This boy is also in the same category and even worse than his brothers and father. But at first I didn't realized the situation. I never wanted to attach with him, but he always forced me. I always had a fear if I say something he will beat me and it will be a shame in my village.
So till now 10 years have passed and I am still with him, I am managing but its very very difficult for me to live with him. He loves me because of my good looks and always forcing me to stay with him. Although he takes care of me alot, but he is very very bad in habits. I am so much frustrated from him that if I want to kill him, but the problem is Islam forbids it.
I want to get rid of him as soon as possible, but I don't find a way. I wanted to give him slow poison but again its forbidden in Islam.
Please suggest me anything that I can do legally to get rid of him.
Jazak Allah
You are married , from a reputed family , still
Can't find anyone to discuss problem ? Does your
Wife know ?
Refuse to meet him anymore. Threat him that u will
Inform Police.
Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.
but seriously just threaten to tell the police if he doesn't leave you alone or if the police already know then can you get an injunction against him for harassment or something. Assuming they have this in Saudi.
Brother you said you live in saudi, and you havent gotten the police involved is this not an offence over there (im pretty sure its a punishable offence) ? it especially is to Allah.
I would suggest you stop being fragile and if he goes to beat you, you defend yourself and beat him back, if you are from a noble family like you say then people would come to your aid and help you. Why would you allow another man to do these things to you ?
you have a wife and daughter brother you need to grow a backbone, what if he decides to start beating them ?
I am sorry I forgot to mention, I am expat here, not Saudi citizen. And he followed me here too by getting the visa.
format_quote Originally Posted by muslimah_B
what if he decides to start beating them ?
That is the biggest problem that i can't do anything. Because I want my family, my parents safe. If i take any step, I fear he will threat my family members.
format_quote Originally Posted by Timi Scar
report him to the Saudi Police, explain that he made advances on you - and let the law deal with the man.
I been to KSA twice, and both times I saw gay advances and it made me sick to the stomach. The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia has a MASSIVE homosexuality problem.
Scimi
I can't involve police in this matter, Saudi police will make a lot of troubles as we are expats.
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