Wa Alaikumussalaam sis
Make du'a and insha Allah khayr sis! Just talk to these sister's and find out the problem is, following the islamic etiquettes. Don't beat yourself about it sis
well....i dont know what to do or say i feel sad...
i feel rejected,my friends(yes,there muslim)hate me!!!
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i dont understand why though...i recently found out a friend hates me
and talks about me.The imam at my masjid came on the sisters side to hear us recite Qur'an and after we were done i turned to my friends and one of them was rolling their eyes at me...looking me up and down
i dont get it...i am always nice and friendly with my friends and muslims in general.why do they hate me?i caught one talking about me she said,''you know its definetly not jeoulesy because im not jealous of em Uh!No''!
sisters are starting to treat me different i dont get it...why?a sister told me its because i act like im all that!:XHow?all i do is wear my niqaab and im happy,im content with islam...my mom said its because i wear burka
but if they wanted to wear it why dont they?!Im not stopping them!i invite them to try it on!i feel soooo very sad...i never got along with non-muslims
they said i was always different....and i finally got some muslim friends and now they hate me...just great,awesome,thubms up to that!
Tab said its because our face,the way we look that they hate us because of beauty....i dont understand ....i am a mess!maybe i should just stop worrying....MashAllah...i always will love them though no matter how they treat me and Allah(S.W.T)knows best
Last edited by Tasneem; 03-24-2006 at 07:09 PM.
Wa Alaikumussalaam sis
Make du'a and insha Allah khayr sis! Just talk to these sister's and find out the problem is, following the islamic etiquettes. Don't beat yourself about it sis
ASW
all you got to do is treat them even better. like the way you have been but even more. show your love for them and then maybe they will realise what theyve been doing was wrong. dont worry but have faith in Allah. remember it may be a a test from Allah to see how you deal with it. dnt worry im in the same boat as you as well. so make dua for me and inshallah they shall all realise. Allahumma Thabbit.
ASW
try talkin to em....tell em wats rong n y dey act lyk dat wid u....if dey still reject u, jus 4get em....tell em to bug off
hey sis... dont be sad...
theyre the ones that are in the wrong...you should be proud of urself cos of the way you are....cos i sure am proud of you....
sis im sure we have all experienced times in our life when we have heard pple talking about us behind our back or news came to us that sum1 has said this and that behind our back....no it isnt nice...and yes it is so cruel....
how would they like to be talked about like that....we should treat others how we ourselves wish to be treated...one of the sisters recently posted a question regarding how a person talking about another would react if that person being talked about was in the same room as them....no doubt nothing against them would be said.....
sis keep strong and have faith in Allah (swt) have u considered questioning their actions?
just like sum1 above has already mentioned...just think of this as another test from Allah (swt)....as Allah (swt) tests those he luvs...in return to their childishness you continue to be respectful and patient...
inshaAllah they will soon learn that they r in the wrong....
just plz dont get down about it....duas r always gna be with u inshaAllah...
ws
**hugzz**
let me guess, your friends are practicing muslims only in ramadhan, or on fridays? They are extremely misguided.format_quote Originally Posted by Tasneem
well....i dont know what to do or say i feel sad...
i feel rejected,my friends(yes,there muslim)hate me!!!
i dont understand why though...i recently found out a friend hates me
and talks about me.The imam at my masjid came on the sisters side to hear us recite Qur'an and after we were done i turned to my friends and one of them was rolling their eyes at me...looking me up and down
i dont get it...i am always nice and friendly with my friends and muslims in general.why do they hate me?i caught one talking about me she said,''you know its definetly not jeoulesy because im not jealous of em Uh!No''!
sisters are starting to treat me different i dont get it...why?a sister told me its because i act like im all that!:X
but if they wanted to wear it why dont they?!Im not stopping them!i invite them to try it on!i feel soooo very sad...i never got along with non-muslims
they said i was always different....and i finally got some muslim friends and now they hate me...just great,awesome,thubms up to that!
Tab said its because our face,the way we look that they hate us because of beauty....i dont understand inshallah i will post more later
gotta go to jum'ah.
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad salAllaahua alayhi waSalam said:
"Strange are the ways of a believer for there is good in every affair of his and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer for if he has an occasion to feel delight he thanks [Allah], thus there is a good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (and endures it patiently), there is good for him in it." (Reported by Muslim)
that hadith also shows how a person who patiently waits, even when in trouble - there will always be good in that situation, as long as they keep their faith in Allaah subhanahu wa ta'aala.
The Prophet’s (sal Allaahu alayhi wasalam's) Trust in Allah: An Example to all People
http://www.islamonline.net/English/I...rticle26.shtml
And not alike are the good and the evil. Repel (evil) with what is best, when lo! he between whom and you was enmity would be as if he were a warm friend. (41:34)
And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune. (41:35)
And if an interference of the Shaitan should cause you mischief, seek refuge in Allah; surely He is the Hearing, the Knowing.(41:36)
If you think their jealous of you, then i think its important you recite the 4 (qul) chapters in the Qur'an. To protect you from the evil eye, insha'Allaah.
AL-IKHLAS (SINCERITY)
AL-FALAQ (THE DAYBREAK, DAWN)
AN-NAS (MANKIND)
AL-KAFIROON (THE DISBELIEVERS, ATHEISTS)
format_quote Originally Posted by aamirsaab
let me guess, your friends are practicing muslims only in ramadhan, or on fridays? They are extremely misguided.
Oh no...i dont know!They wear niqaab like me and i was never good with having non-muslim friends when i mad muslim friends i was sooo happy!
I mean to hate over face is riduclous!And they are not ugly MashAllah...
Awww, I am so sorry that you are in this situation sister.
But it is surely another test from Allah (swt).
A difficulty you inshallah will overcome.
Can't say much more than that I pray for you that everything will be fine again and listen to the tips other members gave you.
Or why not talk with the imam without those other sisters...
But sister, could it not be possible, because that you seem to be such a nice and beautiful sister, that a Muslim boy in the masjid whom one of these sisters like, likes YOU instead of her and that makes her and her friends hate you?
But that is another possibility.
Inshallah, everything will be fine again.
I know...mommy told me they may be upset because of brothers likeing meformat_quote Originally Posted by Aafreen
Awww, I am so sorry that you are in this situation sister.
But it is surely another test from Allah (swt).
A difficulty you inshallah will overcome.
Can't say much more than that I pray for you that everything will be fine again and listen to the tips other members gave you.
Or why not talk with the imam without those other sisters...
But sister, could it not be possible, because that you seem to be such a nice and beautiful sister, that a Muslim boy in the masjid whom one of these sisters like, likes YOU instead of her and that makes her and her friends hate you?
But that is another possibility.
Inshallah, everything will be fine again.
format_quote Originally Posted by Fi_Sabilillah
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad salAllaahua alayhi waSalam said:
"Strange are the ways of a believer for there is good in every affair of his and this is not the case with anyone else except in the case of a believer for if he has an occasion to feel delight he thanks [Allah], thus there is a good for him in it, and if he gets into trouble and shows resignation (and endures it patiently), there is good for him in it." (Reported by Muslim)
that hadith also shows how a person who patiently waits, even when in trouble - there will always be good in that situation, as long as they keep their faith in Allaah subhanahu wa ta'aala.
The Prophet’s (sal Allaahu alayhi wasalam's) Trust in Allah: An Example to all People
http://www.islamonline.net/English/I...rticle26.shtml
And not alike are the good and the evil. Repel (evil) with what is best, when lo! he between whom and you was enmity would be as if he were a warm friend. (41:34)
And no one will be granted such goodness except those who exercise patience and self-restraint,- none but persons of the greatest good fortune. (41:35)
And if an interference of the Shaitan should cause you mischief, seek refuge in Allah; surely He is the Hearing, the Knowing.(41:36)
If you think their jealous of you, then i think its important you recite the 4 (qul) chapters in the Qur'an. To protect you from the evil eye, insha'Allaah.
AL-IKHLAS (SINCERITY)
AL-FALAQ (THE DAYBREAK, DAWN)
AN-NAS (MANKIND)
AL-KAFIROON (THE DISBELIEVERS, ATHEISTS)
Shurkran..Al-Hamdudillah i try to say the khuls everyday
Tab or my mom reminds me to do it...i still dont get it why hate me?
i mean i am a mess its not even funny!MashAllah...
You see? Who knows, the problem could be a boy...
Well, only Allah (swt) knows for sure!
They are very stupid if they begin to hate you just because of some guys... That's pathetic if you ask me.
format_quote Originally Posted by AafreenYou see? Who knows, the problem could be a boy...
Well, only Allah (swt) knows for sure!
They are very stupid if they begin to hate you just because of some guys... That's pathetic if you ask me.
Yes i know...they were telling me about brothers liking them and i was happy for em!
You guys are all right!If they are going to hate me for who i am
then so be it!I will not change who i am for them inshallah
im sick of it...people should just stop hating me and my family we do nothing to them...we just try to worship Allah(S.W.T)in peace in they dont like it its their problem.I will treat them no diffrently i will not let them make me go as low as they want me to inshallah.
Shuran everyone!!!!
allah gives people what they diserve big sis...[lol]
You saying i deserve that?
Maybe i do....
no.......:enough!: way are you doing this:grumbling
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu ,format_quote Originally Posted by Tasneem
In such sistuations you could say the duaa of UM Salama/ra :
"Allahuma ajirna fi musibatana wa akhlifnaa khairan minhaa "
May Allah/swt reward me for my misfortune and reward me with a better option.
Alhamdulilaahi , you are a wise girl , and insha allah , Allah/swt will give you your rizq (zawj salih- a pious brother in marriage ) ,
and reward you for your patience ( paradise ).
1-In the meantime you have to KEEP BEING A POSITIVE MEMBER OF YOUR COMMUNITY , and as such it is better to give them an excuse ,(husn dan - benefit of doubt ) and being patient with your sisters/ friends , for erring is human .
2- Many of our closest friends , were once our enemies -those who have hurt us , but Allah/swt rewarded us for being good to them and patient in adversity.(people repent for their mistakes!)
We need to be positive and GIVE THEM AN EXCUSE TODAY , THEY MIGHT REPENT TOMMOROW , AND BECOME OUR BEST FRIENDS.
Note that Allah/swt will give us (His servants ) the chance to repent till the end of our life (Subhanallah!)
3- FORGIVE THEM AND CLOSE THIS CHAPTER , they are your sisters
4- CONCENTRATE ON GOOD FEELINGS
5- You might confront them , telling them that you are angry with them because of the way they treated you! With a smile , this would open their hearts and bring the process of healing , and sisterhood to prevail .
You could inform them that you have forgiven too .
Wa salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.
your elder brother in islam.
format_quote Originally Posted by Blue_Moon
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format_quote Originally Posted by musabAssalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu ,
In such sistuations you could say the duaa of UM Salama/ra :
"Allahuma ajirna fi musibatana wa akhlifnaa khairan minhaa "
May Allah/swt reward me for my misfortune and reward me with a better option.
Alhamdulilaahi , you are a wise girl , and insha allah , Allah/swt will give you your rizq (zawj salih- a pious brother in marriage ) ,
and reward you for your patience ( paradise ).
1-In the meantime you have to KEEP BEING A POSITIVE MEMBER OF YOUR COMMUNITY , and as such it is better to give them an excuse ,(husn dan - benefit of doubt ) and being patient with your sisters/ friends , for erring is human .
2- Many of our closest friends , were once our enemies -those who have hurt us , but Allah/swt rewarded us for being good to them and patient in adversity.(people repent for their mistakes!)
We need to be positive and GIVE THEM AN EXCUSE TODAY , THEY MIGHT REPENT TOMMOROW , AND BECOME OUR BEST FRIENDS.
Note that Allah/swt will give us (His servants ) the chance to repent till the end of our life (Subhanallah!)
3- FORGIVE THEM AND CLOSE THIS CHAPTER , they are your sisters
4- CONCENTRATE ON GOOD FEELINGS
5- You might confront them , telling them that you are angry with them because of the way they treated you! With a smile , this would open their hearts and bring the process of healing , and sisterhood to prevail .
You could inform them that you have forgiven too .
Wa salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu.
your elder brother in islam.
yes ture
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