parents/husband

[A(SMILE ITS ME)]

salaam.
Q. Once u get married who comes first/listen too,
for guidance.
remembering that i was told to always repect my mothers wishes.

[Tania]

Before to be married i say my mama

[A(SMILE ITS ME)]

And after?

[786rani]

even after i say mother...
rani

[chacha_jalebi]

parents always come 1st, no matta wot

wen sum1 asked RasoolAllah (saw) afta Allah (swt) who sud a muslim love n respect RasoolAllah (saw) replied

"your mother" then d person asked who nex, RasoolAllah (saw) sed again " your mother" den again d person asked whos nex RasoolAllah (saw) sed again "your mother" den RasoolAllah (saw) said "your father"

so he sed mummy 3 times den father so its from this hadiths, dat parents alwyz cum 1st no matta wot!! but u sud stil respect ur husband as RasoolAllah (saw) said in a hadiths "d womans treatment of her husband is either jannah or jahannam" lik d way she treats her hubby will either get her jannah or jahannam n Allah (swt) is d best & knows best!!!

[Tania]

even after i say mother...
rani

the same she never gave me a bad advice in so many years....

[786rani]

and even if she does you can always rely upon your mother to comfort you
rani

[A(SMILE ITS ME)]

confide?
i thought husbands are long life partners.

[786rani]

yes they are but there always things you can tell a mother and not a partner
rani

[Tania]

confide?
i thought husbands are long life partners.

In the beginning the husband needs to get my trust and if he will succeed to do that i think my mom and hubby will be on the same level of giving advices to me

[786rani]

i think mother will always have an advantage over the partner.
rani

[A(SMILE ITS ME)]

advantage, yep
but will u always be on the same length as her.
ur husband should have the same goals in life as u.

[- Qatada -]

What Comes First: Obeying My Husband or My Parents?
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...atwaE%2FFatwaE

Wife's Responsibilities Towards Her Parents
http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...EAskTheScholar

[786rani]

advantage, yep
but will u always be on the same length as her.
ur husband should have the same goals in life as u.

what do you mean sis?
rani

[A(SMILE ITS ME)]

well/
my parents are tradtionalists?