Can someone help explain this to me? I have tried to look it up on Wikipedia but I am still confused. I thought temporary marriages were banned in Islam? How can a proper Islamic marriage be temporary and without obligations? Is this permitted in Islam and if so, why?
Busy days for Saudi matchmakers
Published: Monday, 15 May, 2006, 11:35 AM Doha Time
RIYADH: Professional matchmakers in Saudi Arabia have boosted their business by 60% following the legalisation of ‘misyar’, a temporary marriage without obligations.
The Saudi newspaper Arab News said one reason why people resort to such secret but legal options is to avoid family responsibilities and others such as housing a woman and rearing her children.
The paper said ‘misyar’ has grown in popularity in the business community, among educated people and among women with private income as well as with the poor.
The increasing number of unmarried women is why such marriages have become more acceptable, said the paper. – DPA
It's a bit like having a boy/girl friend.
But the intention of this is wrong, as you should marry only if you have the means to do so, and you shouldn't marry for the wrong reasons, rather, you should be able to provide and take care of the wife.
I mean the intention is only temporary pleasure...I don't know....someone correct me, but this doesn't go down too well in my books, this is just morally wrong.
You can try look up "Nikah Mut'ah". As far as I know it has been forbidden long time ago even during the time of Prophet and the Khulafa Ar-Rashideen.
I can find Mut'ah marriages without any problem but they must be illegal in Saudi Arabia as they are elsewhere in the >cough< >cough< part of the Muslim world.format_quote Originally Posted by Muslim Knight
So are these just Mut'ah marriages in disguise (which I can't believe) or are they something else? Are they new or have they been around for a while?
I don't dare expound on matters beyond knowledge, but take a look at this. Maybe others can furnish more.
Question:
As-Salamu `Alaykum! May Allah bless you, and in Sha’ Allah you will always be in progress. I want to ask you about the marriage that is called in Arabic Misyar. I hope you will explain to me what it means, and kindly shed light on the Islamic ruling concerning it.
Answer:
Wa`alaykum As-Salamu Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Almighty Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear questioner, we are really pleased to have your question and to have the chance to convey some of the teachings of our religion to our Muslim brothers. In fact, it adds to our happiness to find guidance being disseminated and the word of truth being highly elevated. We hope these humble efforts meet the great expectations of yours.
Misyar marriage can be defined as a marriage contract between a man and a woman, in which the woman waives some of the rights she would have in a normal Islamic marriage. This sometimes takes place when, for example, there are many women who, as they get older, find it increasingly difficult to marry. In this case a woman opts for a husband who is not able to fulfil the normal marital duties like financial maintenance, or spending adequate time with her, for example. She considers that marrying such a husband is better than remaining unmarried.
It’s noteworthy that once a marriage contract meets its Shari`ah requirements, it will be acceptable from the Islamic points of view irrespective of what people call such contract. Conditions of valid marriage are: The consent of both spouses, the consent of the Wali (guardian), the payment of the dower, the presence of the witnesses, and the announcement of the contract.
It goes without saying that valid marriage should not be limited to a certain period of time; otherwise it will be reckoned as a Mut`ah (temporal) marriage which is prohibited in Islam.
Dealing with this subject, the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, states:
Misyar marriage should be viewed as a form of legal relationship between man and woman regardless of any description attached to it. This is pursuant to the juristic rule: "What matters most in contracts are motives and meaning, not the wording or structure."
Therefore, in determining the legal nature of this marriage, we should not judge things according to names, for as we know, people feel free in naming or describing something.
There is nothing new about this kind of marriage. It is in one way or another very similar to what is known as `Urfi marriage or non-documented marriage.
Stipulating certain details in the marriage contract on both sides is acceptable. For example, some `Ulama (scholars) maintain that a woman has a right to determine the timing of marriage; i.e., it can take place at day or night, however, she can also waive this right.
Therefore, based on what has been mentioned, we can state that Misyar marriage, or something in similar form, has been in practice from time immemorial. It also serves the purpose of some women, who, for instance, may be rich but happen to be unable to marry at the proper time. So, such women can opt for this kind of marriage.
But I do have to make it clear that the aforementioned statement does not make me a protagonist of Misyar marriage. In all my Fatwas and sermons, it is not mentioned anywhere that I give any support for such marriage.
The point is that when I was asked by a journalist to state my opinion regarding this marriage, I found it a pressing religious duty to give a clear-cut opinion on something that does not make unlawful what Almighty Allah has made lawful for His servants.
Therefore, if anyone seeks my opinion on this marriage, I must reply him saying: What do you mean by Misyar marriage. However, if I get an explanation that shows that in Misyar marriage, all the Islamic legal requirements are met, then the marriage is valid.
Those requirements are: an offer and acceptance from both parties; a specified dowry, according to the Qur'anic verse: "And give unto the women, (whom ye marry) free gift of their marriage portions" (An-Nisa': 4), and that the contract wins the consent of the guardian. Thereby, no one has the right to brandish it as unlawful.
There is no doubt that such marriage may be somehow socially unacceptable, but there is a big difference between what is Islamically valid and what is socially acceptable. As we know, people can be cynical about the idea of an employee marrying his employer. But who can deny the validity of such a marriage if it meets all the legal requirements?
This issue, therefore, needs a cautious approach. One should not feel free to condemn an act as absolutely forbidden, merely on social repugnance. Rather, one needs to have convincing evidence to determine the legal nature of each particular act.
http://www.islamawareness.net/Marria.../fatwa_01.html
Apparently it's not common either. For me it's the first time I heard about this.
http://www.islamawareness.net/Marriage/Misyar/
its not legalised "prostitution"format_quote Originally Posted by ~Mu'MiNaH~
read Muslim Knight posted
chk also this
What is the ruling on so-called “misyaar” marriage and what is the difference between that and mut’ah?i want to know about "al-MESYAR" marriage and its conditions that should be followed and how it is different from "MUTA'A" marriage (temporaray) of shia'a sect..Misyaar marriage is no different from the kind of marriage which you know (ordinary marriage), except in one regard, which is that the woman foregoes her right to a share of the husband’s time in a plural marriage. So she does not have a day of her own like her co-wives have, and whenever her husband can come to see her, she is content with that.
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Sa’d al-Humayd
“ Misyaar” is a name that is used by the common people; it is not mentioned in the Qur’aan or Sunnah. If this marriage fulfils all the shar’i conditions of marriage such as having a wali (guardian), the proposal of marriage and the acceptance, the consent of both parties and no impediments to the marriage, etc., then the marriage is valid. If the woman says to the man in a misyaar marriage, “I will spend on myself and I will not ask you to spend on me or provide me with accommodation, and I will forego the right to ask for a night of my own” – if the husband has another wife – if the woman agrees to these compromises, she has the right to do so and the marriage is valid, even if it is unlikely to succeed or to last. Then if the wife wants the husband to spend on her and provide accommodation, and she asks for a night of her own, these are her rights. In this case the husband can either respond to her requests or he can divorce her. The difference between this and mut’ah marriage is a great difference. Mut’ah marriage is subject to the condition that it is for a limited time agreed upon by both parties, and the marriage contract ends when that time period ends. So it is a temporary marriage with a limit for its termination which is known to both parties from the outset. This is haraam and is not permitted. Getting married for twenty-four hours or for two or three days is no more than a joke.
The marriage of which we spoke at the beginning is marriage based on continuing indefinitely; it is not temporary or limited to a specific time period agreed upon by both parties and mentioned in the contract. The aim of misyaar marriage is that the woman keeps quiet about some of her rights and does not ask for them, and this is permissible.
islamqa.com
masalama
Thank you to the person who provided the links. This is obviously not legalised prostitution although I was interested in one of the above links saying this,format_quote Originally Posted by ~Mu'MiNaH~
Eyad comes from another Arab country and is married to a Saudi woman in a Mesyar arrangement. “Our marriage is more like a business deal that we both agreed to. She wants a husband and children, something that I am willing to give to her. She does not care is she sees me once or twice a week. What I need from her is money and financial aid in this country. It is something that she gives me. We live by this agreement and we are both happy.”
I am, rarely for me, speechless.
(Although I thought that Saudi Arabia prohibited foreigners marrying Saudi women? Anyway I forsee problems so I think I'll leave this thread here)
I don't see it that way. You can say it's a marriage of convenience, last resort for women who can't get husbands until their late age. Rather than finish off life alone and without children... or worse fate, prostitution, this could be more dignified for them. And it's within legal framework. Furthermore, it is really up to the woman's consent as is conventional marriage... on other hand, I would say it required mutual consent.format_quote Originally Posted by ~Mu'MiNaH~
Maybe a bit unethical, but halal. Personally, I'd rather go condemn forced marriages rather than this.
So if the woman willingly waived her rights...wat happens to Childrens rights in such marrgies?
Last edited by Noora_z3; 05-15-2006 at 12:33 PM.
Well sis, things r not just to simple, not everything is white n black. Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him never prayd or even ordered his companions to pray Salat Al-taraweeh in Congeregation every night in Ramadhan...so is it Bid'ah?!format_quote Originally Posted by ~Mu'MiNaH~Excuse me... but when did these types of marriages pop up? If they weren'taround at the Prophet's (SAW) time then dare I say they are bid'ah???
"This sometimes takes place when, for example, there are many women who, as they get older, find it increasingly difficult to marry. In this case a woman opts for a husband who is not able to fulfil the normal marital duties like financial maintenance, or spending adequate time with her, for example. She considers that marrying such a husband is better than remaining unmarried."
But how can be this legal.:X Its in Qur'an written clearly the men needs to treat his wive equally(the same treatment)and he needs to be the women protector, so he needs to ensure some financial maintenance to her too.
It seems the opinion is it that it is halal and we can not call haram what wis halal and vica versa....it has been explained in depth of the meaning and what situations it is used.... so we can not call it haram
thats cuz the woman wants that. its her choice. if she agrees that she gives up her islamic rights (like the husband spending time with her, providing for her) then its allowed and we must respect that.format_quote Originally Posted by mara
she is not forced in to it and its entirly her choice
masalama
Peace to all!
What do you have to say about this ?
ya sure they're actually practising muta not misyar or in the name of misyar.. but who draws the limit! our beloved scholars???INDIA: WIVES FOR HIRE BY THE HOUR FOR ARABS
Mumbai, 25 Oct. (AKI) - Wives for hire in Hyderabad, that's the new frontier in India's growing economy, where prosperity has resulted in young women from poor Muslim families becoming "temporary" brides - even just for one night - to tourists and buisnessmen from the Gulf countries. According to Muslim religious leaders in Mumbai, the phenomenon has assumed a significant dimension, and Islamic clerics are trying to decide how to deal with it in light of accusations made by non-governmental organisations (NGOs) and muftis [those responsible for interpreting Islamic law], of a practice of mass prostitution.
A recent television report put together by an independent documentary maker has shown women, their faces covered with the veil, parading themselves in front of a client, described simply as an 'old Arab man' who contravenes every Islamic law by raising the veil in order to assess the women, passing his fingers through their hair and asking them some questions through an interpreter. After the woman is chosen, a dowry is paid to her family of an amount equivalent to one year's income or more. She is then the man's wife for just a few nights.
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http://www.adnki.com/index_2Level.ph...22606818&par=0
Mumbai, 25 Oct. (AKI) - Wives for hire in Hyderabad, that's the new frontier in India's growing economy, where prosperity has resulted in young women from poor Muslim families becoming "temporary" brides - even just for one night - to tourists and buisnessmen from the Gulf countries. According to Muslim religious leaders in Mumbai, the phenomenon has assumed a significant dimension, and Islamic clerics are trying to decide how to deal with it in light of accusations made by non-governmental organisations (NGOs) and muftis [those responsible for interpreting Islamic law], of a practice of mass prostitution.
A recent television report put together by an independent documentary maker has shown women, their faces covered with the veil, parading themselves in front of a client, described simply as an 'old Arab man' who contravenes every Islamic law by raising the veil in order to assess the women, passing his fingers through their hair and asking them some questions through an interpreter. After the woman is chosen, a dowry is paid to her family of an amount equivalent to one year's income or more. She is then the man's wife for just a few nights.
Shahida Yasmeen and Tasneem Sultana paraded themselves in front of such a man for the documentary to help the film makers. They work for a legal office that deals with the struggle against the exploitation of women, and they summarised their experience into one phrase: "it resembled a brothel".
The Indian daily ‘Times of India' has also published the names of one of the United Arab Emirates sheikhs, 45-year-old Al Rahman Ismail Mirza Abdul Jabar, who in August met Farheen Sultana, 13, and Hina Sultana, 15, with the help of a pimp in the Old City or historic centre of Hyderabad. Under the right to have more than one wife, accorded to men under Islamic law, he married both of them, and spent the night with them at a local hotel, leaving for his home by dawn the next day.
The trouble involved in beginning divorce proceedings isn't even required. Thanks to new methods of communication - the traditional declaration of a verbal or written "talaaq", the unilateral declaration with which a man can affirm his desire to divorce his wife - one can now also do this via an email, telegram, telephone call, fax or even mobile phone text message. "Many talaaqs are coming through SMS these days," said Mufti Abdul Ahad Falahi, from the Darul Qaza school in Mumbai.
Sometimes the declaration of Talaaq is already included in the "nikah", the card with which one celebrates the marriage, according to Noorjehan Siddiqui, the coordinator of the non-governmental organisation Confederation of Voluntary Associations.
Those Muslims who take advantage of religious norms to procure for themselves several hours or days of sex, deserve to be whipped and thrown into jail, said Moulana Mufti Khaleel Ahmad, the deputy advisor of the Islamic school Jamia Nizamia in Hyderabad. "Marriage is for life and a person marrying a woman should have the niyyat (intention) of living with her forever," he said. And one who marries knowing that he will leave his wife, "becomes a sinner," he added, "He is answerable to society in this life and to God in the hereafter," added Mufti Khaleel.
"The problem is that we do not know the real intentions of those Arab bridegrooms. Otherwise we would be able to stop them," he said.
Hyderabad, the Indian city with the highest growth of companies in the information sector, has a large Arab community that has been part of the city since the beginning of the 18th century.
The reality is that the trafficking of wives by contract is a growing phenomenon, according to the newspaper Mumbai Mirror, "as the qazis [the cleric who holds a Muslim wedding ceremony] connive with brokers fixing such marriages."
Sometimes these marriages are put together not necessarily in bad faith or with other interests in mind, but because they know that in any case, for these young women it is a turning point in their lives.
The dowry is also a reason that pushes poorer families to take the decision to put their daughters in the hands of these pimps, explains Noorjehan Siddiqui. Marrying a daughter in India means having a dowry for her which the family of the groom continues to demand. It is better to give one's daughter to an Arab who is instead ready to pay a dowry that is often also a considerable amount.
While many families do not realise they are being cheated by a middle man or an individual who is only looking for easy sex, there are also those who know very well what they are doing and make such a decision for economic reasons, using the money from such a deal to put their other children through school or, paradoxically, to pay the dowries for marrying off their other daughters, said Noorjehan Siddiqui. '"Many of these girls have been married four to ten times, " she said.
and read this too!
http://memri.org/bin/articles.cgi?Pa...rm&ID=SP106005
..its just to open your eyes what is happening in the so called muslim arab world!
thats disgusting and perverted!!
i think we are all aware that there is nothing officially islamic about the arab world!
Rabi'ya:rose:
(sorry just my opinion)
salam
ummah is suffering everywhere in the world, it is obvious that the imaan is weak in some places, but why all the foucus on arbas? when equally elsewhere muslims are in need of guidance, this is not so that am backing for arabs, but it is only fair if you look at the ummah as a whole
wasalam
I think women who opt for this type of marriage already have kids, don't want more or are infertile, but would still like a halal relationship with a man. I didn't even know this kind of marriage existed. Sounds great for independant souls!format_quote Originally Posted by Noora_z3
Last edited by Snowflake; 05-16-2006 at 10:48 AM.
that is not misyarformat_quote Originally Posted by salehah
what u posted is not even allowed in islam
who cares what about some "muslims" do. if its not allowed in islam then why ru posting what they r doing
masalama
i m really confusedformat_quote Originally Posted by Muslim Knight
if it fulfilled all the Islamic legal requirements then why do people named a marriage in to Misyar marriage
thou i have a little idea about "Misyar"
but why do i need to know doest not it fulfilled all the Islamic legal requirements
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