Making friends at the Masjid

**soulsociety** · 07-07-2006

I was just wondering if any brothers or sisters make efforts to befriend people who appear to be lonely at a gathering, masjid etc.? Quite a few people write in and say that they have no friends or find it difficult, can lead to depression especially for sisters.

I'm quite shy, but if I see a brother by themselves I do try and make conversation. (Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

**IbnAbdulHakim** · 07-07-2006

naa i go to the masjid on my own coz most brothers in my area seem to hav sumthin against us bengali's, none really converse with us, most of them are turkish/somali

in east london and north got plenty of friends in masjids tho

**Dahir** · 07-07-2006

(Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

**amirah_87** · 07-07-2006

ass salaamu alaykum,

i don't mingle with any sisters when i go to the masjid..the handful of freinds i have is enough for me alhamdulillah...
i just can't be bothered to mingle with ppl , it just causes too much fitnah..and i know the outcome of that

so when i enter i just pass my salaams ...and quit the small talk...ppl might say i'm stuck up, but.........

i just go to do my stuff and leave!!...

don't worry yourself too much inshaAllah!!..

wa alaykum ass salaam

**IbnAbdulHakim** · 07-07-2006

Originally Posted by amirah_87

don't worry yourself too much inshaAllah!!..

lol this is the key, silence is a virtue! and we are told to choose our close companions wisely.

**amirah_87** · 07-07-2006

ass salaamu alaykum

yep

wa alaykum ass salaam

**Helena** · 07-07-2006

Originally Posted by Dahir

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

yeah i kinda feel that aswell..am like that too...reaching out to ppl.....am a nice person..alhamdulilah..ppl easily can take advantage of me...da prob wid me....i easily accept/agree wid da person even thou somehow i disagree............but am a kinda person who'll never try to make smeone upset or hurt in anyway....ppl easily hurt me...but dnt wana hurt them back...its not me......

during mosque...performing salaah during jummah prayer or teraweeh, mainly go wid my mum, cousins or invite friends ova...

**Dahir** · 07-07-2006

performing salaah during jummah prayer or teraweeh, mainly go wid my mum, cousins or invite friends ova...

None of my close friends are Muslim as I live in a part of town where Muslims come and go as often as cars fly.

**searcheroftruth** · 07-08-2006

to be honest i don't talk to people in the Masjid because iam not there to make friends iam there to prey a

**Abdullah4ever** · 07-08-2006

Good point brother searcher of the truth.

I am at the Masjid for 10hours ( I do fulltime quran there and islamicstudies) so yah i no every single person there in the brothers section alhumdillah, astagfurillah unfortunatly im really talkitive at some times

**AbdulHaq** · 07-08-2006

Originally Posted by soulsociety

(Well I'm not shy, more of a loner, but the voices in my head do keep me company...)

lol, i swear, that is me, exactly. Those voices keep me company too, lol. And whats wrong with a little Isolation, gives me time to think, right?

**Anonymous.92** · 07-08-2006

Originally Posted by Dahir

Are you that voice in my head that's typing that??

Seriously,

My entire life, I've reached out to 'lonely people' but it seems I'm so willing to help and talk that they get to 'know me too well' and they end up trying to 'man-up' to me, and it gets me irritated after a while! If you're too mean, people complain, if you're too nice, people take advantage of you, I sometimes understand why people CHOOSE to be lonely, it works for some.

Ahhhhhhh Finally someone that understands. I am in the exact same position. It is soo annoying.

**muslim_friend** · 07-08-2006

It's the usual "salaam alaykum, how are you?".. i know almost everyone in my masjid. Most of them are sweet old people or middle-aged men. I jus' sit down with them and see some smiles before the prayer.. That gives me a lot of happiness.. I love my masjid and its atmosphere!

**Anonymous.92** · 07-08-2006

^^^ Mashallah

**shudnt_have** · 07-08-2006

Intersting q.

Well to be honest here...'those individuals who make full attempts to islolate themselves from others and stick close to the wall at the masjid...intrigues me nmore.....

i am usually friends with these type of ppl...who earn the price of remaining silent which is gold...so I approach them.b.c these ppl seem to be wiser then the regular chatterbox myself...

**Woodrow** · 07-08-2006

Most of the people at the Masjid I attend are quite a bit younger then myself and still active in the work force. Most of them are attendining during a break from work and are in a rush to return to their jobs, so there is very little sociolizing. However I have met 2 gentlmen that are a little older then myself and we do seek each other out for at least a brief hello.