How to defeat arrogance??

[AnonymousPoster]

I don't know if I was arrogant before or not, but recently it's obvious that arrogance has been the main feeling that took over my life.
How can I defeat it, what should I do in addition to Du'a?

[Al-Zaara]

Thread approved.

[Caller الداعي]

humbleness is the cure....

stay in the company of the weak and oppresed, look at what others less fortunate have been deprived of.

[shible]

Arrogance! No Go!

By Naseema Mall **
20 Feb, 2006



Most of the time, people naturally do not like to be criticized, nor do they like to be accused of being ignorant. But some people are arrogant and some people enjoy criticizing others. In Islam, arrogance is completely unacceptable and was the first sin ever committed when Iblis (Satan) refused to obey Allah's command to bow down to Prophet Adam (peace be upon him): [And (remember) when We said to the angels: "Prostrate to Adam". So they prostrated except Iblis. He was one of the Jinns; he disobeyed the command of His Lord] (Al-Kahf 17:50).

But is criticism always bad? Not necessarily so, if it is constructive criticism and its aim is to offer useful advice intended to help or improve something and not to insult or deliberately hurt a person's feelings.

If you think about it, there is no point in being arrogant. After all, we are all created from clay, and we are all going to die and be judged by Allah. And if some people think they have a right to be arrogant because, for example, they possess more material wealth, then none of their wealth will follow them to the hereafter. In fact, the more one has, the more one will be held accountable for.

Some people may feel that they are humble simply because they feel they are religious. However, did you know that the worst type of arrogance is when you consider yourself to be more religious than others?


So how can we try to be humble? Well, first we should make du`aa' to Allah to protect us from arrogance and to keep us humble. We should bear in mind that humility means that you:

Accept someone's apology

Accept criticism if it is the truth

Never feel that Allah owes you something for worshiping Him

Think about the above. Could you easily accept someone's apology? Could you handle criticism if it was the truth? And if you think that Allah owes you something for worshiping Him, then you should remember that we worship Him for our benefit, not His, because Allah has no needs.

Perhaps you are wondering, "shouldn't I feel a sense of achievement when I do well in my exams or sports, or feel happy when I'm with my friends?" Naturally, when we do well at something, we feel confident and excited, and the adrenalin runs through our body. Sure, we should feel confident and happy, as long as we constantly bear in mind that all the good things in our lives are a favor to us from Allah and are a blessing. We should also remember that we should ask only Allah for the good things we want in our lives.

Fortunately, when we ask Allah for anything we want, we don't have to go through an intermediary. We can ask Him directly! That is the beauty of salah. Isn't it amazing that when we supplicate to Allah, especially when we want something, that we don't have to make an appointment? Allah is always there for us. Supplication is the essence of worshiping Allah because it is an acknowledgement that He is the only One Who can do anything for us. If you're wondering, "How come I don't always get what I ask for?" then keep in mind the following when you supplicate to Allah:

He may not grant you a request in order to prevent you from harm.

He may not grant you what you asked for in this life but will grant you a greater reward on the Day of Judgment.


When you supplicate to Allah, you should be in a state of purity, humility, and sincerity. While we can supplicate to Allah any time we want, it would be best to try and select proper timings, if possible, like during the last third of the night before dawn, or while prostrating and immediately after salah while you still feel close to Allah.

When you supplicate, have complete faith and confidence that Allah will respond.

Source

Arrogance

[Medina83]

Bro, what way does your arrogance display itself?

Advice..

-Pray dua to Allah swt to protect you from the evil within yourself
-Read some Quran everyday if you can, the reminders of punishment might keep you humble
-If you become consciously aware of yourself being arrogant at a particular time, then immediately change your behaviour.
-Pray a 2 rakah nafilah prayer if you feel you've been arrogant, isnt it in the sunnah to do this when we've committed a sin?
-Remind yourself often of your own sins
-Remind yourself often that what good talents or skills or position you are in only came because of the bountifulness of Allah swt.

This is basically a bad habit you have to get yourself out of. One way to get out of a bad habit is to consciously do the reverse whenever you become aware of it while it is happening. Practising the good side will then eventually become habit inshaAllah.

You are doing good by trying to address it, inshaAllah you will overcome it as you seem sincere to do so.

Salam

[-Elle-]

bro

Well,the suggestions given are quite good,keeping in mind the reminders of punishment in the afterlife,like Madina83 had said,is a great idea.

I don't really know what kind of advice to give you,since I don't know what kind of arrogance you're talking about(looks,wealth,grades?..)all I can say is that being arrogant and cocky won't win you points with the person you're trying to impress.

Being arrogant is a way of showing off something(whatever it may be)that you're excessively proud of,but in a wrong way.It's ok to be proud of something you've earned,but when you start rubbing it in people's faces,that's when it turns from pride l to just plain arrogance.Remember all talents/wealth/etc. is a blessing from Allah(SWT),so don't take it for granted.

Modesty is a beautiful thing...well for me,lol,it's polite and well-mannered and sure to charm people way better then arrogance

Hope it helps!