Question regarding conversion...please keep it civil

[chosen]

I have a question...and this is directed at everyone..no matter what faith you practice..What would you do if an adult child of yours..son or daughter came to you and said they were going to change their religion..convert from the religion they were raised in...they are not thinking about it..they have already decided..

[MartyrX]

It would depend on the religion I guess. I would never force my beliefs on my children but some religions I would be concerned about if they were joining. In all reality though I would listen give my two cents and talk with them through whatever decision they made.

[thirdwatch512]

As long as my kids were happy, then so would I be!!

My philosophy is happiness. If I ever have kids, I want them to be happy. I don't care if being a garbage man is what they want to do.. As long as they are happy!

[ummsara1108]

I'd have to agree with jeffx

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Talk things through with them, ask why they have decided that.

Then whether I'd accept their decision or disown them would be dependant on the situation.

[Gator]

To the OP.

Say, that's great and I hope you are happy.

Thanks.

(Assuming we're talking the regular religions and not some crazy cult or something. In that case I'd throw them in a van and subject them to daytime television and processed foods.)

[AvarAllahNoor]

As long as it's not a cult, JH, LD etc etc. I'd be fine, but then I am a Sikh, the I'd expect them to follow my Religion.

[Whatsthepoint]

I'd have a thorough discussion with them, not to convince them not to convert but to help them realise wheter this is really what they want and if not, what are the alternatives...

[tomtomsmom]

I would be concerned. If it were a cult type thing I would be more concerned. But I wouldn't disown them. My children's choice in religion does nothing to change the fact that they are my children and I love them. I would seek knowledge and try to understand their choice. I think that parents who disown their children because they don't agree about religion are selfish and should look in their own hearts and see what is wrong with them, not their children.

[AvarAllahNoor]

I'd have a thorough discussion with them, not to convince them not to convert but to help them realise wheter this is really what they want and if not, what are the alternatives...

Or is it brainwashing, or out of personal choice.

[Whatsthepoint]

Or is it brainwashing, or out of personal choice.

Could be, unintentional though. As I wouldn't want my kid to screw their life by becoming a Greenpeace activist, I wouldn't want them to screw their life by joining a certain religion or a cult.

[chosen]

wow...I am very impressed by your answers....I guess I didnt have to ask you to keep it civil..very cicilized answers..my adult daughter has decided to convert..not to a cult but to another faith...my only concern is that she is doing it for the man "she loves"....lol..I guess there comes a point when you just have to step back and allow them to make their own decisions/mistakes....I wish her well but I am not going to turn her room into a den yet..I have a feeling she will be needing it again...

[IbnAbdulHakim]

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[tomtomsmom]

wow...I am very impressed by your answers....I guess I didnt have to ask you to keep it civil..very cicilized answers..my adult daughter has decided to convert..not to a cult but to another faith...my only concern is that she is doing it for the man "she loves"....lol..I guess there comes a point when you just have to step back and allow them to make their own decisions/mistakes....I wish her well but I am not going to turn her room into a den yet..I have a feeling she will be needing it again...

Being in love can cloud your judgement or make you see things you never did before. Does her choice make a difference in the way you feel for her? It doesn't sound as if it does. Although I am sure it is painful for you to watch, this is all part of growing up. Just keep loving her and everything will work out.

[Whatsthepoint]

wow...I am very impressed by your answers....I guess I didnt have to ask you to keep it civil..very cicilized answers..my adult daughter has decided to convert..not to a cult but to another faith...my only concern is that she is doing it for the man "she loves"....lol..I guess there comes a point when you just have to step back and allow them to make their own decisions/mistakes....I wish her well but I am not going to turn her room into a den yet..I have a feeling she will be needing it again...

Which religion? Islam?

[chosen]

No...not islam....would rather not state anymore than that...My daughter is a very smart girl...very strong and very opinionated..(thank god)...the boy she is marrying is a good man..educated, works hard...treats her like gold...the problem is I am worried about what will happen when the children start comming....children have a way of making people re-examine their religious beliefs..they magnify everything..I have a distinct feeling I will be bailing her out of a bad situation..

[MartyrX]

You as her parent have every right to be concerned for her. If it's a cult and not an actual religion than maybe you should sit down and talk to her about it.

[Jayda]

I have a question...and this is directed at everyone..no matter what faith you practice..What would you do if an adult child of yours..son or daughter came to you and said they were going to change their religion..convert from the religion they were raised in...they are not thinking about it..they have already decided..

hola

i would talk to them about their reasons to find out what is causing it and talk to them about why those reasons are not good. i would also bring their priest so that we could all talk together... then i would just take it one step at a time after that... it would be devastating.

que Dios te bendiga

[AvarAllahNoor]

No...not islam....would rather not state anymore than that...My daughter is a very smart girl...very strong and very opinionated..(thank god)...the boy she is marrying is a good man..educated, works hard...treats her like gold...the problem is I am worried about what will happen when the children start comming....children have a way of making people re-examine their religious beliefs..they magnify everything..I have a distinct feeling I will be bailing her out of a bad situation..

As long as the children are loved and have a caring home does it matter what religion they are born into? Yes, perhaps they too will follow this particular religion, or they may not.

You also say it's because she's in love. Have a chit-chat (like parents do) and ask her if she's doing it from the heart, then it's fine, but if she's doing it because it's required of her, then she should have a preety good think before she does. Saying that, it's not like she's signing a pact with the Devil (unless she's fallen for a Satanist... :P) She can always revert back should things not workout as planned.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh (Pure Ones Belong To God, Victory To God)

[ummsara1108]

cults are devil societies, defenately not and option....lol....