jasakAllahkhyr for the reply it meant a lot. I really don't have any trouble avoiding him at all. I have also no problem seeing the facts, I know that he's not good for me. I don't want anything to do with him. He has trouble getting it. I told my brother tonight, he's now on my case demanding I tell him who it is. My brothers are very protective of me. I love them to death, but they are known to show no mercy for such things. I know that I won't be going out anymore alone. My family trust me, I don't want them to watch every step I make. I know it's in my interest but I know that things wont be the same. Before this happened I could do anything, they would trust me. Now i'm very certain that my father will get over-protective, my entire family. My brother will probably tell everyone tomorrow. Including my mother.
I don't want to be any victim nor do I need any pity!! I wasn't raped u know.
Some people here are so brutal and mean they don't even realize it. Saying that I encourage him, pls give me a break. I came here to seek for advice not to be insulted.
There was one sister who was walking home from school during ramadan. It was getting late and iftar had opened. As she passed by one of the houses, a brother called her out. He said to come in and open your iftar sister, its' getting late. His wife and kids are waiting inside. So she decided to go inside. He led her to the bedroom and there was another guy waiting. Then she realized she was tricked but it was too late. Instead of giving her food to pen her fast, they threw her on the bed and raped her. Then they let her go walk home. She went home all devasted, she told an aunt lady that lived near by and she took this girl to the hospital right away.
What we can learn from this is that one, you can't trust anyone these days. And two, anyone can be raped. You are lucky that he has only touched, kissed and groped you. Had this guy been given more opportunities, he would most certainily have raped you. How? well considering he has done it 3x and you failed to tell anyone gives him the impression you won't tell anyone no matter how many times he comes over to have a little "fun" with you. You're brothers, father and other male kin are your mahram for a reason. They are there to go to in times of trouble for help and protection. What they will do to this guy should be the least of your concerns, and your honor and dignity your top priority.
Lot of people have given great advice, some bit harsh and some bit gentle in approaching you. But the good thing that i was pleased to read was you telling your brother. It is their duty by islam to protect you. You should always go to them anytime there is any trouble. That is why Allah gave the sister's brothers, someone to look after them. This guy will no doubt try to get with you again, next time he tries coming near you, you should yell for help and continue yelling tell he runs away or someone comes. If somenoe comes and he tries to shake it of as nothing, tell that someone to call the police and tell them that this guy threatened to rape you. This will make the guy stay away, plus always tell your bros so they can break his legs so he doesn't come near you.
may Alalh protect you and make things easy for you inshallah.
p.s. whenever you leave the house, recite the proper daus.
Recite sura ayatul kuris and
bismillahi tawwakaltu'allahi wala holawala kuwata illabillahi
