A friend who is a girl, not a girlfriend :)

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cat eyes said:
inshallaah he might even introduce her to islam. if theres no attraction whats the harm in it.
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Is not a desire for friendship a level of attraction? Is it possible to be friends with anybody if there is not some type of attraction? Not necessarily a physical relationship attraction, but still an attraction.

Attractions tend to grow stronger as the people get closer and spend more time together. While it is possible for people of opposite genders to maintain a platonic friendship, that can only last if both follow strict guidelines and agree to not spend time alone with each other. In other words respect and dignity as Islam teaches us to interact or not interact with members of the opposite gender.
 
^ also isn't this what the kuffar do, have harmless friendships with opposite gender at first then they begin to fall in love with each other and before you know it some 1s pregnant.

then the following lines come "I never thought I'd fall in love with my best friend" this is what happens lol
 
squiggle said:
^ also isn't this what the kuffar do, have harmless friendships with opposite gender at first then they begin to fall in love with each other and before you know it some 1s pregnant.

then the following lines come "I never thought I'd fall in love with my best friend" this is what happens lol
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People are very adept at deceiving themselves. This could be why our inner jihad is called the Greater Jihad, as it is the hardest jihad we will ever face and the one most likely to lead us to hellfire if we fail to win it.

Sadly even the most honest of people will often lie to themselves, even if they would never lie to another person.
 
yeah actually i did not give you the best advice brother. i think it would not be a good idea to carry on the friendship with this girl as it can lead to many haraam things especially because of the fact she is non muslim. i was not thinking actually
 
cat eyes said:
yeah actually i did not give you the best advice brother. i think it would not be a good idea to carry on the friendship with this girl as it can lead to many haraam things especially because of the fact she is non muslim. i was not thinking actually
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AsSalamOAlaikum WaRehmatuAllah WaBarkatuhu

Most welcomed response. JazakiAllah Khair

FiAmaaniAllah
 
Omar_4 said:
That makes sense..those will be my guidelines. I'll make sure we're nothing more than friends (not attracted) and that the friendship does not harm my deen.
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a muslim man cannot be friends with a woman as shaitan is the middle person. It may seem like an innocent relationship but once you or her will start to feel something more and that can lead to problems. I know through experience! A lot of people would say its ok but its forbidden.

jazak allah khair
 

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