A lil help regarding rights in marriage.

[Rasema]

... and as a Muslim, she has the right to refuse handing over her property to anyone, and she doesn't need a reason.

... and as Muslims, they have no right to demand someone else's property.

You seriously ought to read about women's rights in Islam. You clearly have no clue.



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She has to give a reason to Allah to where she spent her wealth!

About womens rights. As Muslims we are generous, just because I have rights doesn't mean that I should't do what is good for others. All I know is that we have one goal and that is the hereafter.If shedid this in the name of Allah, Allah would elighten her heart and she would be happy.

 

[Rebel]

I give in.

 

[Ummu Sufyaan]

Sisi, your replies do make sence. It's obvious that the sister doesn't have much rights in her household than it's the best for her to agree with her husband.

it's best if her husband starts acting like a man. if he really wanted to look after his family, then it's time he started working for it the same way she has worked for her wealth. no such thing as a free lunch...


and from one of your other posts sis,

Why are woman so so .....

because we don't look after and let ourselves be walked all over...

i think im also going to give in..

 

[Rasema]

I give in.

Detail it please.

 

[Rasema]

it's best if her husband starts acting like a man. if he really wanted to look after his family, then it's time he started working for it the same way she has worked for her wealth.

Maybe he does work. He probably buys everything. Sister, you can't force him to be a man nor can his wife. Only Allah can.

 

[S_87]

Makes sence, but if she doesn't need the house for anyone else than what's the problem????

I'm not saying that she should be obligated to give her house. I'm asking her the above.

ok youre a sister..or so your profile says

so save up approx $150,000, with that get a house and then give it away just so your in laws will like you. THEN come here and advise others to do that.

 

[aadil77]

Because their family.

and you must be from pakistan who brainwashed you?

tomorrow I'm gonna ring my grandad and ask him for one of his 10-15 properties he owns, surely he'll give me one because he's family?

and its only a couple tens/hundred thousand pounds we're talking about isn't it?

 

[Rasema]

ok youre a sister..or so your profile says

so save up approx $150,000, with that get a house and then give it away just so your in laws will like you. THEN come here and advise others to do that.

I let my family use my brand new credit, without my permission, to buy a house!!!!
You can use women rights to proof your viewpoint but I use the hereafter. If she doesn't need the house, I don't see anything wrong in giving it away to FAMILY. If her husband is satisfied with her, SHE'S GOT JENNAH!!!
If her in law isn't satisfied with her nor will be her husband.

 

[Rasema]

and you must be from pakistan who brainwashed you?

tomorrow I'm gonna ring my grandad and ask him for one of his 10-15 properties he owns, surely he'll give me one because he's family?

and its only a couple tens/hundred thousand pounds we're talking about isn't it?

I'm not from Pakistan and you just insulted everyone who is.

And no one has brainwashed me. I look at things from a different prespective and that is the pleasure of Allah. If the sister longs for the pleasure of Allah I gave her my point of view,just my opinion. Or do you think that fighting with your husband over luxieries of this world would please Allah?

The ashaba never kept what they could give away!

 

[TrueStranger]

I let my family use my brand new credit, without my permission, to buy a house!!!!
You can use women rights to proof your viewpoint but I use the hereafter. If she doesn't need the house, I don't see anything wrong in giving it away to FAMILY. If her husband is satisfied with her, SHE'S GOT JENNAH!!!
If her in law isn't satisfied with her nor will be her husband.

Do you think that Allah will send a woman to hell, when the husband is "upset" or "unsatisfied" for the wrong reasons, especially, when it is "UNISLAMIC" to force another person to give away their own property. He could be unsatisfied and she will still get Jannah!

From what I've heard so far, the husband is wrong and the wife is right.

You should realize by now that you can't satisfy everyone by giving them materialistic items. They will only become more greedy.

 

[Rasema]

Do you think that Allah will send a woman to hell, when the husband is "upset" or "unsatisfied" for the wrong reasons, especially, when it is "UNISLAMIC" to force another person to give away their own property. He could be unsatisfied and she will still get Jannah!

From what I've heard so far, the husband is wrong and the wife is right.

You should realize by now that you can't satisfy everyone.

Obviously not, I just think that she would be rewarded more.Even in this life it would benefit her because If she disagrees with her husband it can go bad.

My mind is different and I don't want to change it.

GOODBYE

 

[aadil77]

And no one has brainwashed me. I look at things from a different prespective and that is the pleasure of Allah. If the sister longs for the pleasure of Allah I gave her my point of view,just my opinion. Or do you think that fighting with your husband over luxieries of this world would please Allah?

The ashaba never kept what they could give away!

you're one in a million sis, theres nothing in islam that says give away your lifes savings/wealth to please some greedy in laws

and I wonder what would happen to a poor sis that may have to get a divorce (may Allah forbid) for any reason, islamically those inlaws would have no obligation to return that house or wealth

 

[Rasema]

I apologise,It's what I think would be the right thing to do. Maybe is because I "think" that whatever we have,we have to tell Allah about it.

You can't change my mind, the way I think keeps me closer to Allah.

I applogise for any offences.

GOODBYE

 

[TrueStranger]

Obviously not, I just think that she would be rewarded more.Even in this life it would benefit her because If she disagrees with her husband it can go bad.

My mind is different and I don't want to change it.

GOODBYE

I see where you are coming from, but we will all be rewarded for our good deeds. We should not "reward" the wrongs of other people. Imagine if they do that to someone else.

Besides, the wife does want to give the house to one of her children. She already made her decision, so why should she be forced to give it to her husband's mother.

The wife is not being illogical here. WE have to disagree with those that are wrong. We just can't tolerate their wrong, especially when it involves violating the rights of others.

I just hope that if your future husband does something wrong to someone else or you for that matter, you will not agree him. That would mean that you are as guilty as he his. And there is no reward for such wrong actions.

:wa:

 

[S_87]

I let my family use my brand new credit, without my permission, to buy a house!!!!
You can use women rights to proof your viewpoint but I use the hereafter. If she doesn't need the house, I don't see anything wrong in giving it away to FAMILY. If her husband is satisfied with her, SHE'S GOT JENNAH!!!
If her in law isn't satisfied with her nor will be her husband.

so what if she gave her house that shes keeping for her kids n the inlaws demand her husband divorce her?

 

[Rasema]

so what if she gave her house that shes keeping for her kids n the inlaws demand her husband divorce her?

I'd keep the house on her name but give it to the inlaws. If some problems arrise that way she'll be able to keep her house. For now, it depens on how old the kids are, they can live normally with a mother and a father.In the future they can get it back if she keeps it on her name.

She doesn't have a choice, does she?

What is the situation of her inlaws?
Maybe they don't have a suitable place.

 

[TrueStranger]

I'd keep the house on her name but give it to the inlaws. If some problems arrise that way she'll be able to keep her house. For now, it depens on how old the kids are, they can live normally with a mother and a father.In the future they can get it back if she keeps it on her name.

No, she and her children can't get the house back.

"The majority of scholars are of the opinion that it is forbidden to take back a gift that one gives to somebody even if such person is one's brohter/sister or spouse. The only exception is in respect to what a father gives as a gift to his child. The father can get back whatever he gives his son/daughter as a gift. This is based on the hadith reported on the authority of Ibn `Abbas and Ibn `Umar that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "It is not lawful for a man to give gift and afterwards to take it back except a father regarding what he gives his child. The parable of one who gives a gift and then takes it back is like the parable of a dog which eats till when it is satisfied, it vomits and then takes his vomiting back." (Reported by Abu Dawud, An-Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, and At-Tirmidhi)"

 

[AlbanianMuslim]

Raseema, im sorry, but i have to say this, you are much to blunt and cruel in some of your responses. I expect more from a fellow sister in Islam. Wheres your compassion?
How can you sit there and call someone spoiled, someone you do not know.
Please, be a little more compassionate and understanding or just dont reply at all, people who talk as you have in this thread were people who at one time made me afraid to go to Masjid and ask questions because i was afraid of being attacked and shunned upon.
Be kind.

 

[Rasema]

I see where you are coming from, but we will all be rewarded for our good deeds. We should not "reward" the wrongs of other people. Imagine if they do that to someone else.

Besides, the wife does want to give the house to one of her children. She already made her decision, so why should she be forced to give it to her husband's mother.

The wife is not being illogical here. WE have to disagree with those that are wrong. We just can't tolerate their wrong, especially when it involves violating the rights of others.

I just hope that if your future husband does something wrong to someone else or you for that matter, you will not agree him. That would mean that you are as guilty as he his. And there is no reward for such wrong actions.

:wa:

648. Abu Hurayra reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allah, I have some relatives with whom I maintain connections but who cut me off. I am good to them but they are bad to me. I am forbearing with them but they are hasty towards me!" He said, "If it is as you said, it is as if you were feeding them hot ash and you will continue to have a helper from Allah Almighty against them for as long as you act like that." [Muslim]

I just hope that if your future husband does something wrong to someone else or you for that matter, you will not agree him. That would mean that you are as guilty as he his. And there is no reward for such wrong actions.

WOW, you make me look so blind that I would disobey Allah's commands for a husband. I confronted people I'm afraid of to obey Allah,excuse me.


Albanian Muslim, learn to love and hate in the name of Allah.Oh,and you are encouraged to not even go to the mesjid.But you are permitted.

I'm talking about doing it in the name of Allah, give the house in the name of Allah. It would benefit her in this life and the hereafter.

Do you know that some people pray to be poor.

 

[TrueStranger]

648. Abu Hurayra reported that a man said, "Messenger of Allah, I have some relatives with whom I maintain connections but who cut me off. I am good to them but they are bad to me. I am forbearing with them but they are hasty towards me!" He said, "If it is as you said, it is as if you were feeding them hot ash and you will continue to have a helper from Allah Almighty against them for as long as you act like that." [Muslim]

In that hadith it says nothing about the man giving away his property to them. :skeleton:

She is giving her house to one of her children. She will be rewarded for that. Insha'Allah.

:wa: