a new believer need help

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markislam said:
i will go to the mosque this friday and see some one there :nervous:
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Allah willing you will have a great experience, Allah will always open a way for those sincere...you will see that hopefully your fears were nothing to worry about...May Allah make it easy for you :)
 
I'm not anywhere near there, but there are some members here from USA.

Woodrow - Minnesota,North Dakota and South Dakota

There might be some more...InshaAllaah they will reply to your post.
 
assalaamu alaykum Mark,

I have been in a similar boat, although I imagine it is tougher when you are married.

When I found Islam (or Islam found me), I had no Muslim friends and no Muslim family. Really I was thinking "Why did it have to be ISLAM!!!!" But you're not going to be able to beat that feeling that you are Muslim, as I am sure you are now aware. You will just be lying to yourself because Allah guides whomever He pleases.

First you need to realize that this is really a blessing for you. But it's going to be hard man. I'm from the BibleBelt myself, and you and I both know that lots of christians and non-religious types in this area aren't too keen on "them muzzlums."

I'll shoot you a PM if you want to talk, because we may have a lot in common.

Take a deep breath and relax. You don't have to do anything too crazy right now. Just keep talking to God. He is the Most Gracious and Most Merciful, and He won't turn away from those who are seeking Him.

You got 1.5 billion people behind you, and the people here will always be ready to support you.
 
Mark,

I'm in Mississippi currently, originally from Texas, and spent six years in Chicago (which is the greatest city in America for Muslims!).

I just wanted to point out that when you declare your belief in Islam to be the true religion, it is not necessary that this be done in public. Public declaration of the Shahada (La ila ha il Allah....) is recommended because it introduces you to the Muslim community.

If you already believe that 1) There is no God but Allah, and 2) Muhammad (peace be upon him) is His messenger, then you are already Muslim! Public declaration of this is merely a formality, and as I said, will introduce you to the community.

Being introduced to the community is very beneficial because not only will people know that you are a Muslim, but they can also offer to help you. You have many questions right now, and it will be helpful for you to make some friends to talk to.

You asked about what would happen if your wife divorced you. I would like to advise you to not worry about that right now. For all you know, your wife may not have any issues at all with you being Muslim. Just talk to her, and take it from there. Be kind and gentle, and understand that if she does have a bias against Muslims, it is because of how the media portrays us.

Definitely try to go to the masjid this Friday, inshAllah (God willing). Find out when they have Jummuah (Friday prayers), and try to attend. They are usually held during lunch so men can take off from work. If you arrive before Jummuah starts, just walk up to ANY of the brothers, and tell him that you wish to take the Shahadah. He will, inshAllah, help you with the rest. You don't need to schedule an appointment, or talk to any specific person. Just walk in, and let someone know. :)

May Allah make it easy on you.

Wasalaamz,
 
pm me your email bro if you can


Khalil_Allah said:
assalaamu alaykum Mark,

I have been in a similar boat, although I imagine it is tougher when you are married.

When I found Islam (or Islam found me), I had no Muslim friends and no Muslim family. Really I was thinking "Why did it have to be ISLAM!!!!" But you're not going to be able to beat that feeling that you are Muslim, as I am sure you are now aware. You will just be lying to yourself because Allah guides whomever He pleases.

First you need to realize that this is really a blessing for you. But it's going to be hard man. I'm from the BibleBelt myself, and you and I both know that lots of christians and non-religious types in this area aren't too keen on "them muzzlums."

I'll shoot you a PM if you want to talk, because we may have a lot in common.

Take a deep breath and relax. You don't have to do anything too crazy right now. Just keep talking to God. He is the Most Gracious and Most Merciful, and He won't turn away from those who are seeking Him.

You got 1.5 billion people behind you, and the people here will always be ready to support you.
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thanks for your post it encourages me a lot.

when you say you will introduce me to the community you mean you know people in florida ?. that would be nice.

did you send me reps by any chance here sister ? some one sent me a rep so was wondering




NoorInaya said:
Mark,

I'm in Mississippi currently, originally from Texas, and spent six years in Chicago (which is the greatest city in America for Muslims!).

I just wanted to point out that when you declare your belief in Islam to be the true religion, it is not necessary that this be done in public. Public declaration of the Shahada (La ila ha il Allah....) is recommended because it introduces you to the Muslim community.

If you already believe that 1) There is no God but Allah, and 2) Muhammad (peace be upon him) is His messenger, then you are already Muslim! Public declaration of this is merely a formality, and as I said, will introduce you to the community.

Being introduced to the community is very beneficial because not only will people know that you are a Muslim, but they can also offer to help you. You have many questions right now, and it will be helpful for you to make some friends to talk to.

You asked about what would happen if your wife divorced you. I would like to advise you to not worry about that right now. For all you know, your wife may not have any issues at all with you being Muslim. Just talk to her, and take it from there. Be kind and gentle, and understand that if she does have a bias against Muslims, it is because of how the media portrays us.

Definitely try to go to the masjid this Friday, inshAllah (God willing). Find out when they have Jummuah (Friday prayers), and try to attend. They are usually held during lunch so men can take off from work. If you arrive before Jummuah starts, just walk up to ANY of the brothers, and tell him that you wish to take the Shahadah. He will, inshAllah, help you with the rest. You don't need to schedule an appointment, or talk to any specific person. Just walk in, and let someone know. :)

May Allah make it easy on you.

Wasalaamz,
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Why dont you start by breaking your wife in gently,

there a few really good dvd by Dr Naik who clears up misconeptions about islam, look at youtube before you buy them so you can tell if they are suitable:

Misconceptions About Islam - By Dr. Zakir Naik (1/24)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GvHHYrdiXHE

The Qur'an and the Bible in the Light of Science :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwIQYylMJcI

If you like the buy them and say a friend gave you them to watch and try to get your wife to sit with you if not turn the volume up a little,

Eventually bring home a quran and start to read it and try and get a discussion going.

Ultimately ask allah for his guidence, inshalllah things will workout
 
markislam said:
thanks for your post it encourages me a lot.

when you say you will introduce me to the community you mean you know people in florida ?. that would be nice.

did you send me reps by any chance here sister ? some one sent me a rep so was wondering
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What I mean is that when you publicly declare your shahada in the masjid, that act alone will introduce you to the community. I do not know anyone in Florida.

I have not sent any reps; I am still a limited member, and unable to rep people (I am looking forward to when I can!).

wasalaamz,
 
markislam said:
i will go to the mosque this friday and see some one there :nervous:
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That's great to hear. I hope you get lots of help and support, God willing.

markislam said:
I watched for 10 minutes and the video froze, I am going to watch it again . thanks again. also saw some videos on youtube about christian converts to islam.

i am encouraged and i will watch more.
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Good going! You're welcome. Hope the vid works next time. If not, see if can get copy from a video hire shop :)
 
I am so happy to hear that brother.. :)
It's really good thing to be in ISLAM. being a muslim is hard but a special thing at this time. you are able to protect yourself all kind of badnesses when you're muslim. you dont drink, you dont eat harmful things (ex:pork), for ladies, you're out of the centre of eyes. Living this beutiful life and not telling it people esp. your familiy would be to deprive of these things, wouldn't it? :statisfie
 

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