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Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
I hope all of you are good in shaa Allah

I just read and article and im just like:raging: what have we done to ourselves as a country and as Muslims :raging:

http://magharebia.com/en_GB/articles/awi/reportage/2008/08/29/reportage-02 That's the article also read the comments of the people...

We should make marriage so cheap so zina can become expensive why have we done the exact opposite ( I think there is a hadith saying that)

It says the more the marriage costs the more generous you are in this case it would be said generous to shaytan because if it costs that much then it's like saying "face the fitanah bring us something of the dunya then you can care about The Aakhirah" Any advice/comments would be appreciated

I feel that I will not get married in this country im dissapointed
 
It is going that way, isn't it?

Keeping up with the Jones'. That is being wasteful and definitely won't be blessed by Allah. Many are guilty of this, my wedding was no small affair, and no doubt my children's won't be either....

How do we reverse this?


:peace:
 
And BTW i got to be realistic with myself if I ever even get married I would not even want a wedding
^o)^o)^o)
 
Just read this in an article

Algerian people believe that the more money you spend on a wedding the more the family will be proud and lucky. Our weddings are all about joy, emotion and a feeling of pride.
Sarah, Algeria

Well those believes are stupid you shouldn't feel proud... Ther is no such thing as literal luck it's more like blessings from Allah

And Allah knows best
 
Wa'alaikumsalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

How many times you have failed to get married because you couldn't afford to pay the wedding cost?
 
ardianto said:
How many times you have failed to get married because you couldn't afford to pay the wedding cost?
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I have never tried to marry but I am pissed (if you read the previous posts) that we have made Marriage so expensive that zina becomes cheap it should be the opposite
 
To be honest i have never been to a wedding but i have seen alot of mixing with both genders here in Algeria some might even brag about it imsad

And Allah knows best
 
The article said about "keeping up with the Jones", meaning that people tend to compete with one another and do not want to appear to can't afford what others have.

How do we reverse that? To let those who want to burden themselves do so without us having to follow them down the same route...

:peace:
 
greenhill said:
How do we reverse that? To let those who want to burden themselves do so without us having to follow them down the same route...
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tell them Islam is about modesty and we should only compete in good deeds :D:statisfie And we must be humble and not compete with each other in terms of the dunya
 
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StrivingforDeen said:
I have never tried to marry but I am pissed (if you read the previous posts) that we have made Marriage so expensive that zina becomes cheap it should be the opposite
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But you already gave up to get married in Algeria?.

Then, where you want to perform wedding?. Indonesia?. The cost is even bigger, bro!.
 
StrivingforDeen said:
And BTW i got to be realistic with myself if I ever even get married I would not even want a wedding
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ardianto said:
But you already gave up to get married in Algeria?.

Then, where you want to perform wedding?. Indonesia?. The cost is even bigger, bro!.
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as you see in the quote above and i don't know where I am going to get married because I am not ven goign to marry yet as you see I made this thread concening the afct that we should not make zinah cheap and nikah expensive because that will bring fitnah

And as in myself I don't have any plans of getting married yet ;D ;D ;D :giggling::giggling::giggling:
 
StrivingforDeen said:
What is marriage/wedding like there in Indonesia???
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Marriage process in Indonesia actually is simple.

First is "lamaran" (proposal) which the groom and his family come to the bride family to propose marriage officially. Then the groom family give gifts (not mahr) to the bride.

Second is "nikah" (nikah). This is the Islamic process of getting married.

The last is wedding party.

But Indonesian people are indeed, extravagant in wedding party. They consider the simple and low cost wedding as something that can lower their prestige. They also always invite many guests.
 
StrivingforDeen said:
Is there any culture where you don't have to have a wedding?
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There is no culture or society that has no wedding tradition. Even remote tribes have wedding tradition too.

Of course, you still can choose to get married without wedding party. But, I don't think your bride, her family, and your family will approve it.
 
ardianto said:
Of course, you still can choose to get married without wedding party. But, I don't think your bride, her family, and your family will approve it.
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Mission Impossibmle (Allahu Alam) started find a brid and a family that don't nedd a wedding party.

And it would be more simple to get married back in the days...

And Allah knows best

Edit: thats in The future I am not ready to get married right now and as you might already now I didn't crate this thread for myself for other people :D
 
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