ADOPTION IN ISLAM. what do i do??

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i was adopted when i was 5. i dont know if i'm an orphan or...almost nothing...i'm neither interested in knowing as it will bring no good.

my question is that my grandfather,( i mean from the family that adopted me) will be along while i'm hospitalised for two weeks ( which is happening in a couple of days). is that unislamic? i mean is he my mehran? (or mehr or mahram or whatever it is)

is it allowed??
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
:salam:

i was adopted when i was 5. i dont know if i'm an orphan or...almost nothing...i'm neither interested in knowing as it will bring no good.

my question is that my grandfather,( i mean from the family that adopted me) will be along while i'm hospitalised for two weeks ( which is happening in a couple of days). is that unislamic? i mean is he my mehran? (or mehr or mahram or whatever it is)

is it allowed??
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wswrb

did your adopted mother breastfeed you before you were 2?
 
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Kiro said:
wswrb

did your mother breastfeed you before you were 2?
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edit: i'm sorry...i misunderstood...

no my adopted mother didn't. as i said before, she adopted me when i was 5
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
edit: i'm sorry...i misunderstood...

no my adopted mother didn't. as i said before, she adopted me when i was 5
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If your adopted mother or someone from her family, did not breastfeed at infancy before 2 then your grandad is not your mahram
 
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now what do i do.......................................................................................................................????

help!
 
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Yes, your grandfather is not your mahram. Allahu'alam, I honestly wouldn't know what to advise you. I think you should really try to bring a female family member along, but if you cannot and it is a matter of your health maybe there would be more flexibility?

May Allah SWT make it easy for you,
 
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noraina said:
Yes, your grandfather is not your mahram. Allahu'alam, I honestly wouldn't know what to advise you. I think you should really try to bring a female family member along, but if you cannot and it is a matter of your health maybe there would be more flexibility?

May Allah SWT make it easy for you,
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this time...seriously all i can do is cry.

which way do i go??? if i dont get treatment, that is haram, if i do its going to be haram too! i seriously am so messed up right now plus i only have 2 days left!
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
this time...seriously all i can do is cry.

which way do i go??? if i dont get treatment, that is haram, if i do its going to be haram too! i seriously am so messed up right now plus i only have 2 days left!
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Assalamualaikum, young girl.

You can accompanied by your grandpa in hospital, although he is actually not your mahram. Your situation is considered as case of emergency. In the case of emergency, something that forbidden can be allowed. Also, hospital is public place where there are always people (hospital staffs) who will watch you and your grandpa. Even some rooms are shared room which mean you will not only with your grandpa alone.

So, don't cry again, ramen.
 
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ardianto said:
Assalamualaikum, young girl.

You can accompanied by your grandpa in hospital, although he is actually not your mahram. Your situation is considered as case of emergency. In the case of emergency, something that forbidden can be allowed. Also, hospital is public place where there are always people (hospital staffs) who will watch you and your grandpa. Even some rooms are shared room which mean you will not only with your grandpa alone.

So, don't cry again, ramen.
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walaikum assalam.
are you sure it's permitted in islam?
i'm still crying...i seriously dont know what to do!
 
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Just go with your adoptive grandfather, there is some flexibility in matters such as this. Allah SWT and His religion are merciful, your health is the most important thing atm. :)
 
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noraina said:
Just go with your adoptive grandfather, there is some flexibility in matters such as this. Allah SWT and His religion are merciful, your health is the most important thing atm. :)
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i'm crying for a much much bigger problem. ain't that supposed to mean MY BROTHER IS MY GHAIR MAHRAN TOO??? SO I'VE BEEN LIVING WITH A GHAIR MAHRAN FOR NINE YEARS???

let alone the treatment for now! what about my brother??? theres no flexibilities or emergencies here this time are there?
am i supposed to be homeless now? what do i do??? will ALLAH swt punish me for that? if he's doing it then i'm going to hell for sure! besides, lets say he'll forgive me for that, what am i going to do later???? i cant leave them since i'm 14!


i feel like i'm going to hell............
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
walaikum assalam.
are you sure it's permitted in islam?
i'm still crying...i seriously dont know what to do!
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Regarding to the situation, yes, it's permitted. I am sure. In the case of emergency, something that forbidden can be allowed if it is necessary to prevent something worse happen.
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
i'm crying for a much much bigger problem. ain't that supposed to mean MY BROTHER IS MY GHAIR MAHRAN TOO??? SO I'VE BEEN LIVING WITH A GHAIR MAHRAN FOR NINE YEARS???

let alone the treatment for now! what about my brother??? theres no flexibilities or emergencies here this time are there?
am i supposed to be homeless now? what do i do??? will ALLAH swt punish me for that? if he's doing it then i'm going to hell for sure! besides, lets say he'll forgive me for that, what am i going to do later???? i cant leave them since i'm 14!

i feel like i'm going to hell............
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It was permissible for you to live with your brother before puberty unless you were breastfed by the same mother or same female family member
 
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ramen-thelegend said:
i'm crying for a much much bigger problem. ain't that supposed to mean MY BROTHER IS MY GHAIR MAHRAN TOO??? SO I'VE BEEN LIVING WITH A GHAIR MAHRAN FOR NINE YEARS???

let alone the treatment for now! what about my brother??? theres no flexibilities or emergencies here this time are there?
am i supposed to be homeless now? what do i do??? will ALLAH swt punish me for that? if he's doing it then i'm going to hell for sure! besides, lets say he'll forgive me for that, what am i going to do later???? i cant leave them since i'm 14!


i feel like i'm going to hell............
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Ramen,

for this time do not thinking about other things like your brother is ghair mahram or not. Forget that, because.that can disturb your mind and your health. Now just focus to think about your health.
 
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Kiro said:
It was permissible for you to live with your brother before puberty unless you were breastfed by the same mother or same female family member
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ok. i know that now. but what do i do about this **** now?????
 

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