Advice Needed :(

[sevgi]

Now you've hit the nail on the head i think bro, thats what i am also afraid of, if his fam did put him in hospital, i've heard stories them drugging there children and taking back to there country to be married n things like dat. But his too loyal to his family afta all this he won't speak ill of his parents which :raging:, he seems to think its okey n understandable that they r doin this 2 him . I can't tell you whether he'll stand by us like S<Chowdhury said only time will tell but from the year i've known n things i think he will. Isn't fatherhood all about learning as u go along but i knw there da financial aspect of things aswell n him goin thru uni n stuff, but my parents like i said are supportive n haven't got a problem with us stayin at home.

But I'm at a dead end of what to do with his parents

Hate to be politically incorrect, but you picked a south asian dude didnt you...? Ah my dear, there will come a time in almost every non-south asian muslim girls life when she falls for one of these boys and their families whisk them away when they find out and we end up heartbroken and stranded and the guys somehow, for some reason think that their parents are rightful in what they are doing.

You need to approach his parents and say "what about me?" As 'sinful' as this child is (astahfirullah..babies are pure and clean),they are the grandparents and they need to take accountability of your child and their sons actions.

Or, you could bollywood this up and wait for his wedding night..i mean week , and raid the party with your grown belly and approach his wife to be. Their 'reputation' will be scarred and he wont be accepted by anyone else but you.

I know my post is built on a huge assumption and a lot of stereotype and personal bias and experience. I come in peace, people.

 

[S<Chowdhury]

Or, you could bollywood this up and wait for his wedding night..i mean week , and raid the party with your grown belly and approach his wife to be. Their 'reputation' will be scarred and he wont be accepted by anyone else but you.

LMAO....that sounds like a plan , all jokes aside i think its time for some sort of mediation is needed, like a brother before me said it'd be a gd idea if he could get his parents to talk to a Imam or Scholar to advise them.

 

[sevgi]

LMAO....that sounds like a plan , all jokes aside i think its time for some sort of mediation is needed, like a brother before me said it'd be a gd idea if he could get his parents to talk to a Imam or Scholar to advise them.

Hehe, I'm glad you caught the lighter side of my post.

Yes, very true. At the end of the day, what his parents are seeing is a silly boy they couldnt raise properly and a naughty girl. They need respectable mediators to get involved.

 

[fruitloops]

Hehe, I'm glad you caught the lighter side of my post.

Yes, very true. At the end of the day, what his parents are seeing is a silly boy they couldnt raise properly and a naughty girl. They need respectable mediators to get involved.

mhmm i agree thanx bro n sisters 4 your help :statisfie, i think i should visit a counsellor or Imam b4 my final decision dou.

 

[Asiyah3]

mhmm i agree thanx bro n sisters 4 your help :statisfie, i think i should visit a counsellor or Imam b4 my final decision dou.

Yeah, you should absolutely do that.

I hope everything turns out well for both of you, Insha'lLah. May Allah guide you

 

[S<Chowdhury]

mhmm i agree thanx bro n sisters 4 your help :statisfie, i think i should visit a counsellor or Imam b4 my final decision dou.

Yep gd idea hopefully things will get better if you can get his parents to sit down with an Imam. Hope things work out Sis

 

[sabr*]

_Muslim_

سم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Bismillā hir Rahmā nir Rahīm
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful


اشْهَدُ انْ لّآ اِلهَ اِلَّا اللّهُ وَ اَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدً اعَبْدُه وَ رسوله​

Ašh hadu al-lā ilāha illā-llāhu, wa
ašh hadu anna Muhammadun ‘abduhu wa rasūluhu
I bear witness that none is worthy of worship but Allah, the One alone, without partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger


As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

Ukhi _Muslim_:

You providing evidence in your posts is very refreshing. Alhamdulillah

 

[sabr*]

Thread is exhausted. Advice given!

سم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Bismillā hir Rahmā nir Rahīm
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful​

اشْهَدُ انْ لّآ اِلهَ اِلَّا اللّهُ وَ اَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّدً اعَبْدُه وَ رسوله

Ašh hadu al-lā ilāha illā-llāhu, wa
ašh hadu anna Muhammadun ‘abduhu wa rasūluhu
I bear witness that none is worthy of worship but Allah, the One alone, without partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger


As-Salāmu `Alaykum (السلام عليكم):

I hope we all can agree now that the Sister Fruitloop has received the best instruction and this thread has no need to remain open.


Alhamdulillah

 

[Woodrow]

All that needs to be said has been said. Time to lock this thread, before anybody unintentionally distracts from the good advice given.