advice needed

[Jiya Khan]

Assalam o alaikum!
i am new on this site. and i have come here to seek a bit of help regarding a small issue. Is it allowd in islam to fall in love??

 

[strivingobserver98]

:wa:

Gems of advice by brother Nouman Ali Khan:

"A real marriage brings two families together. A real marriage is about taking responsibility. Your feelings may be very strong. I don't doubt it. Islam didn't make it Haram for you to fall in love. It didn't forbid you from wanting someone. It only guides that love so it protects you, her, your families and especially saves you from humiliation on judgment day. If you love her so much, why are you ok with letting her engage in this questionable relationship knowing full well that she will have to answer Allah just like you will. You don't love her enough to save her from that? If any of you out there are 'in love', please note that teenage years are a crazy time. You totally believe you can't live without someone and you get over them and move on to the next thing in no time as though nothing happened. Don't let your strong emotions lead you into a mistake that will ruin two lives and two families."

- NAK

 

[Jiya Khan]

means it actually is allowed in islam, is it? and what if we have fallen in love and also we don't have any evil intentions. what should we do in that case??

 

[ardianto]

Wa'alaikumsalam.

Falling in love is something natural and cannot be prevented. But it's better if you have ability to control your feeling because falling in love could hurt you too. In example, you fall in love to someone, but you could not marry him because he choose another girl.

Okay, this is a tips to control your feeling of love.

http://www.islamicboard.com/family-society/134331680-ability-controlling-love-feeling.html

 

[Muslim Woman]

Salam

Try to control emotion. dont do anything that brings u near to zina. don't spend time with opposite gender in private. Ask Allah to bless with a pious partner.

 

[Jiya Khan]

if both of the persons are in love with each other, and both desire to marry each other, but are young to send proposal, then what?? and there is full control over the feelings...there is no such thing is being rejected by the one u love.and the guy will not there to hurt u by rejecting the girl and choosing the other girl intead, then?? and what about the fear of being rejected by the families??

 

[Jiya Khan]

Salam

Try to control emotion. dont do anything that brings u near to zina. don't spend time with opposite gender in private. Ask Allah to bless with a pious partner.

there is self control over the feelings, and the girl doesn't spend too much time with the opposite gender.. the girl wanna continue this feelings untill she gets the age of getting married with the same guy.. and there is cooperation by the guy too. would anything help to continue the feelings(in a positive manner).?? the guy and the girl both know each other better, and have decided to marry when they grow up,, but the girl has the fear that her family would not accept the way she is loving someone, so what should she do in that case??

 

[~ Sabr ~]

:salamext: sister

Hope you are well :ia:

If you love him, and you have both matured, then ask his parents to approach your parents and you should get married.

 

[Jiya Khan]

:salamext: sister

Hope you are well :ia:

If you love him, and you have both matured, then ask his parents to approach your parents and you should get married.

what about in the age of immaturity??

 

[anatolian]

Salam sister. You need to wait then

 

[~ Sabr ~]

what about in the age of immaturity??

Then it probably isn't love. You haven't matured.