advice on different cast marriage????

Thinker said:
Indians, Pakistani’s and (I think) Bengalis, living in the UK, try to marry people from within their own community even from within their own family. This appears to be true of Muslims and Hindus (not sure about Sikhs) so clearly it is matter of culture rather than religion. I have also formed the view that they tend towards marrying someone from their community of origin i.e. the village their parents came from in India/Pakistan. I understand the culture (although I don’t agree with it) but I don’t understand why they don’t marry someone from their community of origin who is already resident within the UK; why is that surely someone already resident in the UK is more likely to be culturally compatible?

Forgive me if my question is off topic or looks like hijacking this thread but I am curious to know.
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I think many parents have the view that people outside of their own country are 'corrupted' or not good enough. I know families who say/think that so *shrug*. Obviously this is far from the truth.

Or it could just really like this particular person (in home country) and want him/her to have a better life so they marry him/her to someone already in the UK. :rollseyes
 
i feel really down after all this, i keep thinking maybe we aren't to be, i pray namaaz n keep asking for allahs guidance and help,after the istikhara i still have feelings for him but not much as before.
 
sweetgujjigal said:
i feel really down after all this, i keep thinking maybe we aren't to be, i pray namaaz n keep asking for allahs guidance and help,after the istikhara i still have feelings for him but not much as before.
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I think you're confused about how you feel for him. If you really love the guy and want to marry him then do that. Why on earth people still bother with the caste system I dont have a clue but explain to your parents that its not unislamic to marry outside you're culture or caste.
 
sis, i don't think a good marriage can be forged on a haraam relationship, thats my view of why, there are so many divorces, nowadays.

part of the last sermon of the prophet( peace be upon him ):
All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood. Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly. Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.
 
hey wher you from shock proof?
i do feel confused on my feelings, i've been asking my friends for advice and on here, i did istikhara but i feel like because i'v read all these opinions on here i've started feeling more confused and on negative side of things. i really cant stop thinking about him,i feel like it cud be a mistake letting him go,beacause in da past i liked sum1 bak in ma country but i thort he jus wanted2 kum here but it wasnt dat n he nearly went mad over me and i just hated seeing that, i know wen your patient things come to you etc, but wid da guy back home he was nyc and evrything n finally his parents forced him to marry, and i kept blaming myself for that,anyways i just feel like al be doing something similar here, i've been wid him for a year and i feel too attached, i just think i should let go coz i don't want2 hurt ma parents feelings, but i know if i do go through wid nefin parents wudnt like it but later evryfin wud b ok. email me my email add is on here xxx thanks for being understanding
 
I just wanted to say I do sympathise with ur situation. Im from england and of Bangladeshi descent like ur boyfriend. I know its difficult when you are emotionally reliant on this person and then hes taken away from you. At the end of the day remember this if you do get married he'll be marrying you not your family, however it would obviously help u a lot if your family were accepting of him. I cant see your email.
 

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